Older Kids Paying Board

[NorthernBelle]

Has anyone got kids age 18+ who are working full time and paying board?
I need to speak to my daughter about starting to pay board but what’s a reasonable amount nowadays?!

 

[Apple In My Pie]

I don’t pay board (have offered) I do get food shops in though
My friends (sisters) pay £50 a week each to their parents...

 

[Bobbleowl90]

Never paid it to my parents and neither did my brothers. I’d never expect my son to pay me as soon as he’s 18 either but that’s me. I’d rather him save that money himself towards a mortgage etc or I’d consider taking money from him but to put to one side.

 

[Lulu28]

I started paying as soon as I got a job at 16- when I left home at 21 my parents gave me it all back towards my future (I didn’t know at the time this was what they were going to do) I think I paid £160 a month (a long time ago!)

 

[265]

£50 a week is acceptable.

 

[ChubClubThug]

When my son got a decent job I said to him that I wouldn't charge him a penny as long as he was saving money and staying out of his overdraft..long story short he lied and just did as he pleased
... six months down the line was enough for me watching him piss and squander his wages on everything and anything... so now I charge him £150 a month. If they're not saving and putting it to good use, you may as well have it off them to pay a bill or two. It has made him think twice and I still remind him he gets off lightly compared to most.

 

[Tor88]

I paid £200 per month when I worked and went to uni. I’ll be honest I’m glad my Mam asked me to contribute. I knew she needed the help but also taught me a bit of responsibility and budgeting. I got used to it going out each month and then when I moved out it wasn’t a huge shock. I know friends who didn’t pay a penny, lived a life beyond their means and felt the pinch when they left home.

nothing wrong with asking her to contribute if it’s needed to be honest, don’t think people realise when they’re 18+ and any financial help (tax credits etc) stop it’s hard to meet the gap. I was more than happy to help my mam and if for some reason I couldn’t pay she would be ok with that too (not that it happened often)

 

[SkinnyTurkeyDinosaur]

Never paid it to my parents and neither did my brothers. I’d never expect my son to pay me as soon as he’s 18 either but that’s me. I’d rather him save that money himself towards a mortgage etc or I’d consider taking money from him but to put to one side.

This is what my sister is going to do with my niece take money for digs (what we call it in Scotland) and then when she moves out surprise her with the money x

 

[idk2]

I still live at home and have never paid my parents board. I'll be honest, I had no idea people paid their parents rent until Tattle! I did offer a few months ago but both parents refused. I was always taught to save my money from a young age though with my parents having access to my bank accounts up until 21 to make sure I wasn't wasting money unnecessary. Led to very heated arguments as to what we both constituted as "necessary expenditure" however glad for it in the end as I now have enough money set aside to afford to be looking to buy my own property at 23.

 

[Be creative]

My mum didn’t ask me for dig money, and I moved out last year at the grand age of 30. She let me save money instead of giving her dig money - which helped me save for the house I bought. altho in the last year or so I paid her £200 a month to help towards bills etc.

 

[Veronica]

I paid £10.00a week..... That was 20 years ago tho!

 

[bottie1000]

I lived at home until my mid twenties! London was too expensive for me to consider moving out when I had a perfectly good home in the city. I never paid board or rent, my parents thought life was hard enough and said they rather I saved that money for a deposit, which i did! By the time I moved in with my now husband I had over £40,000. I now own my home outside of London but within commutable distance. I wouldn't have been able to do that if they charged me rent.

edit: that final figure does include about £8000 of some inheritance money I received.

 

[hrh89]

I think it’s honestly down to your own personal situation. I do believe if they are working full time and over 18 they should contribute a bit but amount is really relative to what you need. are you okay financially or would her contribution really help make ends meet? I would say if you don’t need it then maybe £30-£50 a week? If you do then you need to work out how much. Sorry it’s vague but I think it definitely depends on your situation money wise.

Sometimes I hate it when people say stuff like “id never dream of charging my own child” like it makes you a bad parent if you do! As I said above it depends on situation. I know my mum could not have afforded to pay everything herself when I was working full time and living at home. I did not mind contributing at all.

Part of me feels a little envious that some people are able to live rent free and save everything but that’s life I guess. Not everyone’s situation is the same. I’m sure most parents would love to be able to do that but for a lot it’s not possible.

 

[SunshineDreamer]

I never paid anything to my parents. They being said I left for University at 18 and never moved back home as I went straight into my house but I can’t say I know anyone who has paid money to their parents.

that being said, I think it’s going to be dependant on what your daughter is earning/if she is wasting it all.

 

[Notothefakes]

I had to move back home for a while when I was 25. I paid £150 a month 12 years ago. I also used to buy a lot of my own food as I ate separately to them because of working etc not because we were anti social. I think asking for a small amount of reasonable. I know of somebody who did it and they saved the money and gave it back to their child when they left to buy things for their house.

 

[Blahblahahaaa77]

This topic really annoys me ha ha… I moved out at 18 but 10 years later my brother is still living there free of charge Cheeky tit!

 

[Snazzy Cardigan]

I used to pay 200 a month from about 16. That was quite a long time ago and I wasn't on a minimum wage, and ended up buying my own food half the time. It meant I struggled to afford to move out. I don't think it's unreasonable to ask if they are working full time to help contribute some bills for stuff they are using. I think it teaches responsibility and eventually they are going to have to pay out for things and learn the value of money. My sister refused to pay, and when she eventually moved out couldn't manage her finances because she wasn't used to it. But to be honest with my child if I knew he could save sensibly I would rather he saved for a place, if not I would take the money and save it for him.

 

[prpkw]

My parents took £50 a week from me and my Sister. They saved it all & when we moved out they haven’t us both it back for furniture, help with mortgages.

 

[coconochanel]

I paid about £50 a week but that was years ago.

 

[xoxo GG]

I used to pay £200 a month. My mum and dad saved half of what I gave them every month and gave it back to me when I was moving in to my house. Paying board means that now I’m so sensible with my money and I still put away the same amount every pay day