Why is Maria so shattered, and terrified to go to bed.
What exactly terrifies her....this needs to be dealt with otherwise the resentment will continue. She can't make this about her.
Post seizure episode; patients are often exhausted, confused, embarrassed (they may lose bladder and bowel control). Now it's all about Maria who can't/wont sleep
She can't control when a seizure occurs. Worrying, just in case, and telling everyone it is she who can't sleep, achieves nothing. It minimises what Phil is going through.
Phil needs support. He needs a Plan in place to deal with a seizure. Everyone in the family needs to know what to do, and if medication needs to be administered they all need to know how to do this.
If this had happened two weeks ago, do we think Maria would have been on the next flight home