NZ Influencers #76

[NotaAD]

Congratulations!

Thank you! Don't want to get too personal on here but after 7 years of infertility we are finally getting out little one. We cannot wait and are so thankful for everyone and everything that helped us get to this point

 

[Black.bird]

As long as you have your social media accounts locked down DD cannot see who you are or am I wrong?

Danni and her special team of investigators know and see all

If sWiRLiE's reason for staying quiet is here, I don't get it ... The only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about

To the MALE Tattler sitting in front of me today on an Air NZ flight, I saw you

 

[Allthebestnamesweretaken]

Lol what....this seems...creepy to me??

 

[Pentothal]

Not once in this entire piece did Maria acknowledge her husband was ok, or how the kids are doing. It was all about........HER;-

How she couldn't sleep, she was spiraling with anxiety in case it happened again.

But that's ok, because, as she reminded herself , it could happen any time when she wasn't there....like when she was on her holiday in Germany.

Her bed should be a safe place where she can sleep without fear.



How does she think Phil feels. A seizure is so, so frightening, you have no control, you may develop an amnesiac state. But the one thing you need is reassurance and safety.

Phil may also be petrified going to bed, knowing he is ALONE. What if Maria didn't even wake up. Why would she if she wasnt aware of what was happening. Or the seizure progressed rapidly, and he was left in the post ictal stage confused and disoriented. He may not even, initially, be able to vocalize what happened. Would he even tell her afterwards

When we grow up and have children. One of the biggest things to do as parents is to try not to let them see us showing fear. When our house is under water we try to not burden them with the "adult stuff" which they don't need to be aware of. We keep them safe, tell them we love them and we'll get through this, as a family.

Phil is going through, what is one of the most frightening times in his life. He doesn't have answers, the unpredictability of seizures means he's now in constant fear of when it may recur. He needs support. He will be so scared.

What does he get?. An empty bed where there could have someone to hold him, and reassure him. To be there if it happened again. To listen to his fears, and understand.

There's no one there, because they put their feelings over his. It doesn't mean not acknowledging what Maria feels. But in this situation she needs to step up, put her feelings on the back burner, so she can be there for Phil 100%. For better or worse.

I believe Maria is in total resentment of Phil. What he is a going through is stopping her doing what she wants, and forcing her to step up.

At one of the most frightening times of his life. Phil is going to bed, and waking up, alone

 

[Allthebestnamesweretaken]

I have never met a stay at home parent who was truly fulfilled in life. All the stay at home parents I know are depressed, and have no light in their eyes.
Following Maria’s page has really opened my eyes to how unhappy stay at home parents really are.
This is obviously just my opinion though.

Pleeeease don't lump us SAHMs in the same box as Maria I am nothing like her. I love being home with my kids. We do baking, go to playgroup and music groups, go to the park. I am so fortunate I am able to stay home. She just paints a miserable picture but then again, she doesn't need to be a sahm anymore as her kids aren't toddlers.

 

[lovemesomegossip]

Iveagh you done yourself dirty , sending the whole range to Simone , why would you do that. She already has a candle bestie and won't use anything else. And now I won't buy from you. Stupid move to do PR parcels when you said you won't have stock for mothers day aswell .
Someone get them a business advisor.

 

[Ehmmmmm….]

“Anyone have a cute Air BnB?”

Yes, AIR BNB I BELIEVE ‍

 

[snarkersusie]

Poor Phil has had another seizure and Maria is already moaning about it as it resets his 12 months of no driving.

 

[trentstillworksfromhome]

So effing tonedeaf.

"I'm here to support my family members who are going through something horrific, and I have LOVED being here...it's SO COOL!"

 

[mostlyheretolurk]

Imagine if Phil had had that seizure while she was away and the kids had to call 111. She should be grateful for the timing. God she is an awful wife. I think a lot of her rage of Phil is because she is so deeply unhappy. She needs a job and a focus beyond herself.

 

[stanleycupgal]

Poor Phil

Her rage is more to do with her own shortcomings. She contributes fuck all to that family and struggles to find her place. As a result she belittles her husband and treats her kids like toddlers so they continue to need her and she can feel validated, rather than accepting the young children days are over and she needs to find a way to move on and contribute in a different way.

 

[magnoliab*tchin]

Just saw Swirlie in the flesh. She looks happy and glowing. The no influencer life looks good on her!

 

[Pentothal]

Her rage is more to do with her own shortcomings. She contributes fuck all to that family and struggles to find her place. As a result she belittles her husband and treats her kids like toddlers so they continue to need her and she can feel validated, rather than accepting the young children days are over and she needs to find a way to move on and contribute in a different way.

100% this. Maria is raging because she is losing control.

Children are malleable, you tell them what to do, you guide them so they can become functional adults.

Maria can't cope with her children maturing. She can't cope with their questioning, having their own opinions (shaming Chloe for her choice of clothes a while back). Wanting to become more independent.

So long as they are dependent on her, she controls them. She infantilises them...lunch boxes, clothing. Not allowed to go to friends after school; and when Chloe did, the narc rage ensued, Maria drove across town to drag her home, and humiliate her, because Maria needed to have that power over her child.

Phil, having his medical episode suddenly thrust Maria into a role where she wasn't the centre of attention. She had to suddenly step up and "care" for Phil. Outwardly she made a great impression of being the caring wife and mother, but behind the scenes, she was totally resenting (rage developing) Phil, because he needed her, he couldn't/can't drive, so she's having to step up. What did she do. Went to the other side of the world. The only way she could make everything about her again. SHE flew to the other side of the world, SHE was the caring sister and daughter. She forgot her family at home.

Today's reel, not a single mention of R&C, and any reference to Phil, had a rage attachment.

Maria needs a better counselor. Someone who is truly experienced in NPD. In all honesty, Phil and the kids should be seeing a counselor, the damage that is potentially, and has been done to them, can take years to unravel.

 

[happysmellybelly]

Sourdow

 

[ActsOfKindnessIsMyLoveLan]

Woah!!!

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Far out, he missed his calling.

Of what, being one of the three wise men in a Christmas nativity scene

 

[Blardeblarblar]

Maria is in full blown rage mode.

Why?

Because she didn't sleep well, has been crying, and had a panic attack, all because of Phil having seizures.

So her solution. They need another bedroom.

Maria, don't make it about you. If you can't sleep, you need to talk to your Dr. Another bedroom won't make the problem go away. It will marginalize and isolate Phil when he could need help the most.

You need to ask yourself why you feel threatened by what Phil is going through. Resenting someone only gets worse, and the children need to see you as a strong role model. Step up Maria.

Was fine when she fucked off overseas though aye.

 

[stanleycupgal]

Things Maria has moaned about in the last week or so…
perimenopause, anxiety, depression, trauma from having toddlers, caregiver to someone with seizures, hatred for her husband, sick of doing everything, hates cooking dinner, being unfit, pissed her parents didn’t buy HER a Berlin tee shirt

Things Maria has been grateful for, or been positive about….
Free food from door dash

I don’t even follow her so there’s likely more I’ve missed but what a miserable fucking life. Go buy yourself a gratitude journal and start appreciating something, like literally anything!!!!

 

[outoftime]

I have never seen anyone less able to cope with life than Maria. She is unhinged. Like if you’re going to go on an insane rant about your own selfishness, send it to your friends or talk to your therapist. Anonymous internet people (which may include your kids’ friends’ parents or people who may be interested in insta collaborations or anything else) are not the ones to bitch at. Oh and as an aside, the fact she had earplugs for when she had babies is also wild to me. Show me something more selfish than saying “my own personal comfort is more valuable than being responsive to my baby’s needs”… the fact she was a parenting influencer genuinely makes me feel sick.

 

[trentstillworksfromhome]

God forbid it was her having seizures. Imagine her reaction if Phil couldn’t bring himself to sleep next to her at night to make sure she was ok, if he verbalised that her medical issues had traumatized him to the point that he couldn’t be around her.

we’d never hear the end of it.

 

[thermominx]

She would get snot on her sleeve and need to go home for the day and recover.

In all seriousness though, her fixation on how hard it is to be a parent is mightily unhealthy and abnormal. Yes the early years are intense but it is time to move on. Perhaps Chloe and Ronan are extremely difficult children to parent? It is the only thing that makes her toxicity easier to understand.

HAND DANGLER