I am so stupid - I googled to see who Tamara had been messaging, because I have no self control, and I found an article with Brent talking about sleeping with Tamara while they were ‘married’.
Somehow I forgot that Tamara and Brent were ever a couple and I was like “omg whaaaat, I can’t believe she was messaging Brent” and then I remembered that they were actually together and there was no tea to be found there