I can’t believe she paid $14k for that. You literally can’t even tell what she’s had done!
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1. How ADHD and Autism Present Differently in Adult Women
ADHD in women often looks like:
• Internal restlessness rather than overt hyperactivity (appearing “daydreamy” or scattered rather than disruptive).
• Emotional dysregulation: intense feelings, rejection sensitivity, mood swings.
• Executive function struggles: organisation, time management, task initiation, forgetfulness.
• Masking by people-pleasing: covering up symptoms by overcompensating socially.
Autism in women often looks like:
• Deep focus & special interests that can appear socially “acceptable” (e.g., literature, animals, crafts) and therefore overlooked.
• Camouflaging/masking: mimicking social behaviours, rehearsing conversations, hiding stims.
• Sensory sensitivities: sounds, textures, lights, food preferences.
• Social exhaustion: may seem sociable but need long recovery time, or may prefer solitude.
• Rigid routines or strong need for predictability (sometimes mistaken for anxiety or perfectionism).
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2. How They Can Present When Combined (AuDHD)
When autism and ADHD co-occur, traits can interact in ways that make them harder to spot:
• Contradictory presentation:
• ADHD drives novelty-seeking, while autism craves routine → tug-of-war inside the person.
• ADHD causes impulsivity, while autism drives caution → can appear inconsistent.
• Executive dysfunction squared: task paralysis is common, because both conditions affect initiation, sequencing, and follow-through.
• Masking + burnout: both conditions are often camouflaged, especially by women who learned to “be good” and meet expectations → leads to chronic exhaustion, meltdowns, or shutdowns in private.
• Social communication challenges:
• ADHD → blurting, interrupting, inconsistent attention.
• Autism → difficulty with unspoken rules, interpreting tone, needing clarity.
• Together → increased chance of being misunderstood socially, despite good intentions.
• Special interests + hyperfocus: an autistic special interest combined with ADHD hyperfocus can be incredibly intense and productive — but also all-consuming.
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3. Can ADHD Mask Autism in Women?
Yes — very often:
• ADHD is generally more recognised and socially accepted (especially when framed as being “quirky” or “a bit scattered”), while autism still carries heavier stigma.
• Clinicians may stop at ADHD if traits like impulsivity, distractibility, or emotional sensitivity stand out, without looking deeper at autistic traits like sensory needs or camouflaging.
• Because many women internalise ableism (believing “I can’t be autistic, I’m too empathetic / I have friends / I make eye contact”), autism is missed or denied.
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4. Internalised Ableism and Denial
• Many women feel that ADHD is a “lighter” or “more acceptable” label — linked to being creative or a bit eccentric.
• Autism can feel more stigmatised, tied to stereotypes of being socially inept, rigid, or “unfeeling.”
• This can lead to self-denial: accepting an ADHD diagnosis but resisting autism, even if the traits fit.
• It’s common for women to only recognise autism in themselves later, after burnout, failed masking, or when they see autistic traits reflected in their children or friends.
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Bottom line:
• Yes, a woman with ADHD can absolutely have autism too, and it’s often missed — especially if she’s high-masking, empathetic, or socially competent.
• The overlap (AuDHD) can be uniquely challenging but also uniquely powerful (creativity, depth, resilience).
• Internalised ableism and stigma play a big role in delayed recognition, particularly for autism compared to ADHD.
1. How ADHD and Autism Present Differently in Adult Women
ADHD in women often looks like:
• Internal restlessness rather than overt hyperactivity (appearing “daydreamy” or scattered rather than disruptive).
• Emotional dysregulation: intense feelings, rejection sensitivity, mood swings.
• Executive function struggles: organisation, time management, task initiation, forgetfulness.
• Masking by people-pleasing: covering up symptoms by overcompensating socially.
Autism in women often looks like:
• Deep focus & special interests that can appear socially “acceptable” (e.g., literature, animals, crafts) and therefore overlooked.
• Camouflaging/masking: mimicking social behaviours, rehearsing conversations, hiding stims.
• Sensory sensitivities: sounds, textures, lights, food preferences.
• Social exhaustion: may seem sociable but need long recovery time, or may prefer solitude.
• Rigid routines or strong need for predictability (sometimes mistaken for anxiety or perfectionism).
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2. How They Can Present When Combined (AuDHD)
When autism and ADHD co-occur, traits can interact in ways that make them harder to spot:
• Contradictory presentation:
• ADHD drives novelty-seeking, while autism craves routine → tug-of-war inside the person.
• ADHD causes impulsivity, while autism drives caution → can appear inconsistent.
• Executive dysfunction squared: task paralysis is common, because both conditions affect initiation, sequencing, and follow-through.
• Masking + burnout: both conditions are often camouflaged, especially by women who learned to “be good” and meet expectations → leads to chronic exhaustion, meltdowns, or shutdowns in private.
• Social communication challenges:
• ADHD → blurting, interrupting, inconsistent attention.
• Autism → difficulty with unspoken rules, interpreting tone, needing clarity.
• Together → increased chance of being misunderstood socially, despite good intentions.
• Special interests + hyperfocus: an autistic special interest combined with ADHD hyperfocus can be incredibly intense and productive — but also all-consuming.
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3. Can ADHD Mask Autism in Women?
Yes — very often:
• ADHD is generally more recognised and socially accepted (especially when framed as being “quirky” or “a bit scattered”), while autism still carries heavier stigma.
• Clinicians may stop at ADHD if traits like impulsivity, distractibility, or emotional sensitivity stand out, without looking deeper at autistic traits like sensory needs or camouflaging.
• Because many women internalise ableism (believing “I can’t be autistic, I’m too empathetic / I have friends / I make eye contact”), autism is missed or denied.
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4. Internalised Ableism and Denial
• Many women feel that ADHD is a “lighter” or “more acceptable” label — linked to being creative or a bit eccentric.
• Autism can feel more stigmatised, tied to stereotypes of being socially inept, rigid, or “unfeeling.”
• This can lead to self-denial: accepting an ADHD diagnosis but resisting autism, even if the traits fit.
• It’s common for women to only recognise autism in themselves later, after burnout, failed masking, or when they see autistic traits reflected in their children or friends.
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Bottom line:• Yes, a woman with ADHD can absolutely have autism too, and it’s often missed — especially if she’s high-masking, empathetic, or socially competent.
• The overlap (AuDHD) can be uniquely challenging but also uniquely powerful (creativity, depth, resilience).
• Internalised ableism and stigma play a big role in delayed recognition, particularly for autism compared to ADHD.
Common Hyperfixations in High-Masking Autistic Women1. Animals & Nature
• Horses, cats, dogs, or specific breeds/species
• Birds, insects, marine life, or wildlife conservation
• Gardening, plants, flowers (often with encyclopedic knowledge)
2. Books, Writing & Language
• Literature (classics, fantasy, fanfiction)
• Collecting quotes, memorising poems
• Obsession with words, etymology, foreign languages
• Creative writing (often very detailed worldbuilding)
3. Pop Culture & Media
• TV shows, movies, bands, celebrities (sometimes “fangirl” intensity)
• Collecting memorabilia or learning every fact about a favourite figure
• Hyperfixation on specific fictional characters (“comfort characters”)
4. Crafts & Collecting
• Knitting, crochet, embroidery, sewing
• Scrapbooking, journaling, bullet journals
• Collecting items (stickers, crystals, stationery, figurines, fandom merch)
5. Appearance & Presentation
• Fashion (specific eras, subcultures, or aesthetics)
• Makeup techniques, skincare routines, haircare
• Organisation systems (planners, colour coding, personal “brands”)
6. Health & Psychology
• Intense focus on mental health, neurodiversity, self-help books
• Nutrition, fitness, alternative medicine, natural remedies
• Obsessively researching diagnoses, symptoms, and therapies (sometimes misread as “anxiety” or “hypochondria”)
7. Academics & Work
• Deep dives into niche academic topics (history, mythology, astronomy, true crime, sociology)
• Hyperfocus on job-related tasks (can look like “overachieving perfectionism”)
• Memorising facts or building systems to cope with executive dysfunction
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Why These Go Unnoticed• They often align with gender expectations (e.g., love of animals, makeup, books) → praised as “normal” rather than flagged as autistic intensity.
• The hyperfixation may appear productive or creative, masking the compulsive depth of focus.
• Many women learn to camouflage by picking socially valued topics so they can “talk acceptably” about their special interest.
What “Disliking Being Perceived” Looks Like in Autistic Women
1. Discomfort with Attention
• Feeling exposed when someone looks too closely (eye contact, stares, or even casual glances).
• Struggling to receive compliments — not knowing how to respond, feeling like they’re being put on display.
• Avoiding situations where they might be the centre of attention (birthdays, presentations, photos).
2. Appearance & Presentation Stress
• Overthinking clothes, hair, makeup — because they want to blend in but also not be too noticed.
• Dressing in a way that feels safe, even if it doesn’t match personal style (camouflaging).
• Disliking mirrors, photos, or video calls because it feels like being confronted with an “external version” of themselves.
3. Social Hyperawareness
• Replaying conversations in their head, worrying about how they came across.
• Feeling drained after social events because they’ve been performing under a microscope.
• Preferring to fade into the background, observing rather than participating.
4. Physical/Sensory Elements
• Flinching at being touched without warning (even affectionately).
• Sensory overwhelm when “on display” (lights, noise, crowded rooms all amplify the discomfort).
• Needing to retreat after being perceived too much — alone time, shutting down, hiding in a bathroom, or using headphones.
5. Identity & Masking
• A sense of “If people see me, they’ll see I’m different, weird, or wrong.”
• Fear of being misinterpreted, ridiculed, or judged harshly.
• Disliking their authentic quirks being noticed, because they’ve spent years training themselves to hide them.
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🪞 The Inner Experience
It’s not always obvious from the outside — because many high-masking autistic women still appear social, composed, even confident. Internally though, it can feel like:
• Hypervisibility (“Everyone can see me, I’m standing out, I’m wrong.”)
• Invisibility (“Nobody actually sees the real me, only the mask.”)
• Both at once, depending on the context.
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How It Differs From Neurotypical Social Anxiety
• Neurotypical social anxiety = fear of judgement but still a drive to belong.
• Autistic dislike of being perceived = often a deep sensory, identity, and authenticity discomfort, not just fear.
• It can feel unsafe to be seen, even by people they love.
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In short: disliking being perceived often looks like wanting to control how, when, and if you are seen at all. It’s about safety as much as it is about comfort.
1. Discomfort with Attention
• Feeling exposed when someone looks too closely (eye contact, stares, or even casual glances).
• Struggling to receive compliments — not knowing how to respond, feeling like they’re being put on display.
• Avoiding situations where they might be the centre of attention (birthdays, presentations, photos).
2. Appearance & Presentation Stress
• Overthinking clothes, hair, makeup — because they want to blend in but also not be too noticed.
• Dressing in a way that feels safe, even if it doesn’t match personal style (camouflaging).
• Disliking mirrors, photos, or video calls because it feels like being confronted with an “external version” of themselves.
3. Social Hyperawareness
• Replaying conversations in their head, worrying about how they came across.
• Feeling drained after social events because they’ve been performing under a microscope.
• Preferring to fade into the background, observing rather than participating.
4. Physical/Sensory Elements
• Flinching at being touched without warning (even affectionately).
• Sensory overwhelm when “on display” (lights, noise, crowded rooms all amplify the discomfort).
• Needing to retreat after being perceived too much — alone time, shutting down, hiding in a bathroom, or using headphones.
5. Identity & Masking
• A sense of “If people see me, they’ll see I’m different, weird, or wrong.”
• Fear of being misinterpreted, ridiculed, or judged harshly.
• Disliking their authentic quirks being noticed, because they’ve spent years training themselves to hide them.
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🪞 The Inner Experience
It’s not always obvious from the outside — because many high-masking autistic women still appear social, composed, even confident. Internally though, it can feel like:
• Hypervisibility (“Everyone can see me, I’m standing out, I’m wrong.”)
• Invisibility (“Nobody actually sees the real me, only the mask.”)
• Both at once, depending on the context.
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How It Differs From Neurotypical Social Anxiety• Neurotypical social anxiety = fear of judgement but still a drive to belong.
• Autistic dislike of being perceived = often a deep sensory, identity, and authenticity discomfort, not just fear.
• It can feel unsafe to be seen, even by people they love.
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In short: disliking being perceived often looks like wanting to control how, when, and if you are seen at all. It’s about safety as much as it is about comfort.
This part explains why Lauren likes social media as she is the one in control and can have a one sided conversation.
I do think talking to therapist would help her. But I feel that she's too far gone in the sense that she won't go out, meet new people etc. Not even Reece's liver transplant changed her ways. She's right back to scrolling through her phone looking at her fake boobs and her face.
So sad that an attractive looking woman has unnecessariy surgery that she doesn’t even need and is unnoticeable. What a waste of money. She is probably already planning her next procedure. Perfection doesn’t exist and she wants her face to look like her bum cheeks. For someone who doesn’t want to be noticed or stared at - she sure wants to let us know about this surgery. She walks around that big house looking in her magnifying mirrors scrutinising every pore. What a sad duck.
this is one that i do understand! in summer, im not going to wear a long sleeve. but in my car, where UV can be higher through the window and i'm in the comfort of AC, i'll do that!
My driving arm gets a lot more freckles during the warmer months compared to my left side
Sun smocks are sold in Uniqlo is asia. Her business is doomed.
Interesting.
And she can't send to the US from Australia. At one point she said she was getting quite a few orders from there. Unless she plans to have US warehouse, which sounds expensive.
Oh I wonder what that means for her make up as well
I cannot tell any difference with her under eyes. They looked fine before and they look fine now.
Now the new obsession is the tiny bit of eyebrow tattoo and that the swelling around her eyes has gone down a lot so the change isn't as drastic anymore..
I like Lauren but the girl really needs a hobby or two. If she's not doing market research for sunsmock, she's posting close ups and comparison selfies. I wish I was half as good looking as she is
I like Lauren but the girl really needs a hobby or two. If she's not doing market research for sunsmock, she's posting close ups and comparison selfies. I wish I was half as good looking as she is
Her eyebrows look fine as they are. I have no idea what she's going on about.Now the new obsession is the tiny bit of eyebrow tattoo and that the swelling around her eyes has gone down a lot so the change isn't as drastic anymore..
I like Lauren but the girl really needs a hobby or two. If she's not doing market research for sunsmock, she's posting close ups and comparison selfies. I wish I was half as good looking as she is
Now she's emailing the plastic surgeon about her under eyes. Its only been 4 weeks or so, but Lauren what's instant results, they told her it may take up to 12 months to see the full results.
Hopefully this disappointment means she will be conservative about future surgeries, although sadly a revision feels more likely.
How can someone who is young & naturally attractive waste 14k on her under eye large transfer op (which is a fairly major procedure) & spend the next 12 months obsessing over the progress. It would drive me crazy. It’s all quite warped & rather sad - her under eyes are looking dark atm & there’s just so much potential for making things worse.
I don’t think she will ever be happy.
I don’t think she will ever be happy.
The next surgery would be her boobs. I think if I have this right she's having the implants removed and a lift.
This is one I am ok with her getting, purely because she seems to dislike the current size and has said in the past about things not fitting properly and she is always covering them up.
Hopefully she leaves her face alone. There is really nothing that would warrant surgery, entirely her choice though of course.
Her face looks very thin at the minute. I haven't been on her page in a while and checked it after the comments here about her complaining about her eye procedure, if I didn't know I'd almost say she looks unwell? It's sad she can't see the damage she's doing to her face with all these procedures. It's just mad that her esteem is so low and she can't see it. Spending 14k on a procedure and she's already stressing about results she won't see for another few months, and how she's worried about how they look already during the healing.
Was all this worth it?
