Lockdown baby mums - how are you coping?

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derbyshiregirl

Hi guys,

I know there’s other mums on here who had babies last year in 2020 and it’s been hard on us all. I had my first baby in May so she was a full on lockdown baby.

I feel like I was coping fine until a couple of days ago when I think it just hit me all at once...all the things I’ve missed out on like going to baby groups, making mum friends and taking her into work to show her off, to name a few.

This week I’ve been arranging to go back to work in April so I think that’s made it worse. Work have been useless and I’ve been chasing them. Thought I’d at least get a phone call asking how I am, what plans are to go back etc but oh well.

How is everyone else doing? X
 
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hereforthegossxo

I had my second baby in September this year. Totally different being a new mom again without the support from other people in the same situation.
Baby groups are good for babies to interact with other children the same age group and for a bit of sanity getting out the house for us mommy’s!
it’s been a difficult old route I think but hopefully will start to get easier trying to enjoy this time just us as a family but my god are some days hard when it’s just me 😅.
Sending love hopefully the days will get easier as the year goes on and life hopefully returns to normality! Xxx
 
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PinkJen099

PinkJen099

Sending lots of love to new mamas! Can’t imagine how hard this has been.
Baby groups around my area are doing classes via zoom? Have you checked with yours to see if they are? I know it’s not the same as in person to meet and chat to other mams or babies but it would be a nice thing for you to do and a start for when they can reopen properly!
 
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teddypicker89

I had my first baby 17 days ago and feeling very apprehensive about the loneliness and isolation that could come if things do not improve - I'm hoping things improve but dreading the thought that most of my maternity leave could be like it is now! I've cried a couple of times recently about it - once when I got an email to say the baby classes I had signed up for have been postponed for at least a month. I knew it was coming but getting the confirmation was difficult. None of my friends have babies either so no one really to mix with in the day.

Sending love out there to all the other Mums in the situation!
 
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Carrie2019

Ahh good thread.
I had my baby in may. I go in waves. Sometimes I feel so cheated out of my maternity and I get really upset. Then in other ways I’m so grateful my husband has been working from home all this time and has seen our baby every day all the time.

I did Nct in April so luckily I’ve made really good friends with those girls and we’ve seen each other every week for walks which has helped. I wouldn’t of made friends otherwise.

I did do a few baby classes and to be honest they weren’t for me anyway.
I did moan a bit to my mum about how I was worried about baby not seeing anyone and mum told me not to be as in the 1980s when I was born there were no baby groups and new mums didn’t go out for coffee and cake, mum had no friends as she’d moved from Yorkshire to Lancashire so she said it was just her and I for years until I went to playgroup and I turned out fine ha!
 
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MissSwizz

I feel like I can’t complain with my friends and family - some are having first babies and some have had poorly babies and I got to do it “first time round.” I had my second in April and have a two year old to boot. My husband is a farmer so whilst nursery was shut, he was out the door 7am-7pm and I had a newborn and toddler to entertain all day without being able to go anywhere. I found maternity leave the most lonely time and went back to work when the baby was 5 months because i couldn’t be at home any more. I have barely had any 1:1 time with her because my carefully planned keeping my eldest at nursery schedule went to tit with lockdown. We’ve never seen a health visitor, she’s never been weighed... I know she’s happy but not having validation from health professionals or even other mums that I’m doing a good job has been a real knock to my confidence.
 
PinkJen099

PinkJen099

Carrie2019 said:
Ahh good thread.
I had my baby in may. I go in waves. Sometimes I feel so cheated out of my maternity and I get really upset. Then in other ways I’m so grateful my husband has been working from home all this time and has seen our baby every day all the time.

I did Nct in April so luckily I’ve made really good friends with those girls and we’ve seen each other every week for walks which has helped. I wouldn’t of made friends otherwise.

I did do a few baby classes and to be honest they weren’t for me anyway.
I did moan a bit to my mum about how I was worried about baby not seeing anyone and mum told me not to be as in the 1980s when I was born there were no baby groups and new mums didn’t go out for coffee and cake, mum had no friends as she’d moved from Yorkshire to Lancashire so she said it was just her and I for years until I went to playgroup and I turned out fine ha!
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Yeah I second what your mums said! Babies are happy with their care givers for the early years! It won’t effect them later in life not mixing when it comes to nursery school etc
 
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