The bit that got me in the film was when she said ‘if I don’t find someone attractive back I struggle to look at them while I’m having sex with them’ and Josh says ‘but you don’t struggle to have sex with them?’ And she responds with a dismissive ‘no, no’.
And then Julie Bindel said something on a interbiew about how the story needs to be about the men. Who are these men having sex with a woman who they know doesn’t actually want to have sex with them?
I know Lily is an extreme only fans example and it does need to be spoken about but the stories are always about the women doing it. The “why”, the morality, the money earned etc.
Society just accepts that this is something men will do if women offer it so the moral judgement is placed on the women doing it in the first place.
I’ve seen stories about families who have disowned their daughters for going on only fans (think it was the daughter of someone from Emmerdale?) yet of course there are never stories of the downfall of men indulging in only fans, paying women for their sexual gratification. I appreciate its easier to identify the women doing it over the men who can hide it easily but it’s always a discussion about the women.