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Londoncailín

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I’m with my teenage son. Just the two of us. I could not be happier he’s the person I’m going through this with. He is handling it so maturely and I’m so proud of him.
 
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JCMSadie

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I feel horrendous because I'm really not coping 😕

My kids fight constantly (2.5yrs and a 7yr old who has behaviour issues), I keep losing my temper and as soon as I try to wfh all hell breaks loose. I feel like I'm losing it. Their dad is self employed and won't stop working and says he can only take them tonight until lunch on Sunday cos he needs time to do his own shopping and laundry. I have depression and feel like it wont be long before I totally fall apart.
 
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chocolate choux

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They say it takes a village to raise a child and I’ve really been feeling that the past couple of days. I’m a single parent to a 16 month old, I’m used to doing it alone without any family support so this isn’t new to me. What’s new is not being able to meet friends, not having my usual routines of getting out to playgroups, not being able to look forward to putting her into nursery in the near future (she was due to start part time). They seemed like such small things but now they’ve been taken away I can appreciate how much they were helping

My mental health is bad at the best of times so I’m especially worried about it going downhill in this situation. My daughter is struggling too; I thought she’d be too young to notice much but she’s always at the front door, pointing at her coat, fetching my shoes to go out. She’s regressed with her speech and keeps getting frustrated easily. I’m hoping this is just a normal developmental stage but I still feel guilty as she’s very social but obviously we can’t socialise

Trying to accept what I can’t change though. Sometimes all we can do is get through the day and in this situation, that’s enough
 
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DaisyDeluxe

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I'm at home with a 4 year old and 22 month old and, honestly, the days are totally dragging in. My husband is working from home but on calls most of the day so he's no help from 8am till about 6pm. My kids generally get up at 6am and it's 13/14 hours of non stop attention from them. Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful we're all healthy and no financial worries, but I'm literally counting down the days till nursery opens again (whenever that will be) so I can at least have a piss on my own.
 
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tskiry56

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I felt like a rubbish mum today after my 6 year old son said he wanted a new mummy after I tried to get him to do some school work.
I know I'm not a rubbish mum but all I could hear in my head when he said it was my ex saying that to me all those years ago!
 
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Sogdhitalley

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Also have a 10 year old and feel like the worst parent going because we don't a garden. Its really getting to me seeing other parents post how they're camping in the garden, playing, bbq and everything else. I feel awful for my child and like I've let them down and they deserve better as they will never have childhood memories of us playing In our garden.
 
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Titntat

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God I feel awful. After reading here some people have really got it tough.
I've got a 8 month old. Who's a fucking terrorist. Shes as fast lighting and into everything.
It's a nightmare getting her down for a nap. When she does nap I'm literally bolloxed and I can hear my self sighing when my 6 year old asks me to play (feel absolutely awful). We are trying abit of home schooling.
My 6 year old is so keen but theres nothing I can just leave her to do whilst trying to entertain a 8 month old.
I feel so shit but I'm counting down the hours till bed time everyday. I'm back at work soon and I know I'll regret not making more of an effort when I'm back.
 
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MrsGarcia

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We're surviving with Disney+, Minecraft and Gin. No, really, we are doing some fun* work and today we're making pizza dough. Middle child will be waitress and we've printed off an order form so that she can tick the toppings that we would like on the pizza. (Home economics, English at a push)

I'm not forcing school work but I am trying to educate them in other ways. Baking, gardening, having sensible, grown up conversations instead of yelling at each other 😬

*It's not fun.
 
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Londoncailín

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So the snack coupon idea started off well and is still serving its purpose of stopping the incessant asking for snacks, seems to have taken a life of its own or should I say my partner has got involved and instead of it being geared towards making healthier choices with their 5 coupons a day, it’s now turned into this thing where they can get a biscuit for one coupon so obviously they will pick that over a piece of fruit for one coupon. It’s pissed me off if I’m honest, I purposely set it up a certain way so they weren’t snacking on crap every snack time but could still have treats occasionally, you know that thing called moderation. I love my partner but he has an annoying habit of taking something over and making it ‘better’. I’m sure the kids love it but it’s not what I originally set up and that’s annoying.

Think the isolation is getting to me today.
Eat all the snacks. That might help make you feel better 😂
 
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F the dust.

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It's trying. I have 4 boys. My youngest having autism. All seeming to have lost the use of their limbs to do anything for themselves...trying to ensure school work is getting done,that they don't kill each Other and keeping myself sane is challenging to say the least!
 
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tskiry56

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Yes, the isolation isn’t helping at all - I’m finding my thoughts are wandering to the past too now without so many distractions. It’s like we can’t focus on the present because the present is currently pretty empty. I hate the lies too, but at least it further proves who is the bad parent in this situation - how horrible of him to lie to his son like that after everything else
I feel guilty some times for feeling negative about things and every thing I let happen. I'm just thankful that I'm not in this lock down situation with my ex and also in a different house. I think considering everything that a survivor of DV does to escape we have a lot of strength. One thing I will never do is lie.
I just braved the outside after being too anxious to go to the shop and admittedly it wasnt too bad. We just have to remember this lock down is all for our own wellbeing, it's just hard for young children to understand why they are not going to school why they can't see friends or family.
 
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Bitofthebubbly

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I’ve got a 4 & 7 year old and the first week has been ok. They have mostly been playing in the garden pretty much morning till evening as we’ve been lucky with the weather (not so much today) and also watching things on Disney+ In the evenings. Their school has set ‘learning projects’ which aren’t compulsory and sent tonnes of resources but school stuff has gone out the window, partner attempted maths with them once and they just wanted to go outside and nearly ended in tears. They did do the joe wicks ‘pe lesson’ once but I found him annoying, thinking of trying cosmic kids yoga at some point. I figured they’re happy playing outside and who knows how long this will go on for, I’m sure there will be plenty of time for phonics practice. We haven’t done any of the fancy camping in the garden type stuff either. It’s been pretty ‘normal’ so far. To them it’s similar to school holidays except we haven’t gone out. One thing I have done is introduced ‘snack coupons’ which has curbed the endless asking for snacks as once they’ve used them up for the day that’s it. They’ve taken to it really well which surprised me, might even keep it going once this is all over.

No idea how this week will pan out. Trying to take each day as it comes and not worry too much about how long this will go on for.
 
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LennyBriscoe

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I feel horrendous because I'm really not coping 😕

My kids fight constantly (2.5yrs and a 7yr old who has behaviour issues), I keep losing my temper and as soon as I try to wfh all hell breaks loose. I feel like I'm losing it. Their dad is self employed and won't stop working and says he can only take them tonight until lunch on Sunday cos he needs time to do his own shopping and laundry. I have depression and feel like it wont be long before I totally fall apart.
I wish I had something to say that would help. This is an incredibly stressful time that nobody knows how to deal with - we are all just winging it and trying to get through each day. Don’t be hard on yourself. Do something for you tomorrow. Take care
 
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chocolate choux

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I absolutely sympathise with you 😩 luckily I don’t usually suffer too badly with my mental health but I can already feel it deteriorating. My eldest is fed up of being stuck in and, like you, we’re used to seeing friends etc. It’s so hard. I just keep reminding myself that it isn’t forever.

You’re so right though, sometimes it’s enough to just get through another day. Hope you’re doing ok x
Thank you! I hope you are too. We’re really going to appreciate the little things in life when this is all over ❤
 
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carebear123

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I think its the thing of 'you cant go out' that makes it worse esp for teens. I put on my hoodie and trackie bottoms instead of pjs.
It doesnt help when her friends are going for walks and meeting up 😡 I've told her no way is she going for any walks without me as I'm not risking her meeting with friends and I've tried to educate her friends how selfish they are,its falling on deaf ears.one of them came to the door the other day and I think the whole street heard me shouting get back 6ft 😂 I'm embarrassing apparently 🙄
 
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Vee6

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I have a four year old and a two year old. Getting cabin fever already. They play together really well but also bicker a lot. I feel sorry for them not being able to go to their favourite places and see their friends. I'm a nurse so at least I get to go to work and have a bit of structure. But its hard
 
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coconochanel

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It doesnt help when her friends are going for walks and meeting up 😡 I've told her no way is she going for any walks without me as I'm not risking her meeting with friends and I've tried to educate her friends how selfish they are,its falling on deaf ears.one of them came to the door the other day and I think the whole street heard me shouting get back 6ft 😂 I'm embarrassing apparently 🙄
Teenagers are the worst they think they know best and hate missing out:rolleyes:. This whole situation is shit TBH everyone's fed up of staying in and not seeing family and friends. The sooner this is over the better I'll never take popping to the shops for granted again.(y)
 
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