umm yes he is her dog and he sleeps all day! My daughter is nearly 11 not a small child who would annoy her own pet. I dont see the problem I had a dog growing up too that we were left alone with thats just life
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I'm guessing your joking or trolling.
Your daughter is 10. It’s irrelevant if it is “her” pet or not. Leaving your young child alone, completely unsupervised with a any dog is irresponsible.
It’s not “just life” - you are a parent and you are a dog owner. Both your child and your dog are your responsibility.
And yes, I am a dog owner and have had dogs my whole life since I was a child. I’d never leave any dog alone with any child.
My cousins are also left with their dog after school, one is 12 an the other almost 16 so the 12yo is left for maybe a hour the 2 days a week before the older one gets in, nether have a problem being left with the dog, they have all grown up with dogs an are fine with this little guy
imo if you feared leaving a dog alone with a kid then maybe it shouldn't be around kids in the first place
hell mine got left with my rabbit while I did housework cause he was so docileThank you for the replies! Seems around now is the normal age so I'm glad I asked for reassurance. I left him twice, for max 20 mins each time and he was absolutely fine. Not sure I'd make a habit of it just yet, but in the circumstances it's handy knowing he could do it. Kids definitely grow up too fast though, this is not something I want to rush into being normal!
That’s a hugely irresponsible thing to say. Dogs are animals. Even the most docile, friendly dog can - and sadly do - turn on people and mostly children. I’m not being as mole here. We see it all the time - kids getting mauled by dogs. It’s NOT the fault of the dog, it’s the fault of irresponsible dog owners who have this attitude - “it could never happen to my kids/my dog is a big soppy teddy/he just sleeps all the time/he’s been around since my kids were babies/he’s so friendly” etc etc etc.My cousins are also left with their dog after school, one is 12 an the other almost 16 so the 12yo is left for maybe a hour the 2 days a week before the older one gets in, nether have a problem being left with the dog, they have all grown up with dogs an are fine with this little guy
imo if you feared leaving a dog alone with a kid then maybe it shouldn't be around kids in the first place
My dog is awesome. Friendly, playful, cuddly, one of the family. But he’s still a dog and could still harm a child. That’s just fact. It’s my responsibility as his owner to do my bit to stop that ever happening.
Am well aware dogs are animals an can turn, I've many friends as vets as I myself almost become one then almost went on to be a dog handler while they went on to be vets an we all know this, however I do believe with certain dogs there are some that a older child/teen can be left for short times with and will be fine if you take in its age, nature, breed etc, most dogs in the family are all labs and while I know that everyone has the "mine is a angel" attitude with their own dog I would have been happy leaving my lab with a older kid/teen than leaving certain other breeds even if it was a angel, there is dogs in the family that would NEVER get left with kids even though they seem fine, but others like the labs who are extremely well known to be very docile can be left should they have thay nature, to me a dog in the house is much safer than the child walking it alone as they are more unpredictable outside when they are exposed to other dogs, different sounds etc and can become a very different dog especially when it's on the lead an another dog is not
I can’t believe the reaction being left with a dog has! My son is 10 and not yet been left on his own but I wouldn’t hesitate to leave him with our dog when it comes to it, I also know that he would feel safer with our dog in the house with him. When he starts comp in September he will be letting himself in until I finish work and I feel better knowing he’ll have a dopey lab chuffed to see him than a empty house. I feel happy with my dog being left with my child as much as I feel happy staying with my dog on my own. I work for the police and I know top officers leave their elder kids with the family dog - never even occurred to me!
I have to be honest I've read all comments but not really taken much notice of the dog part of it, I've only just realised that when I did go out and leave my 9 year old, the dog was with him! She probably didn't notice I'd gone as much as he didn't, but I did it without thinking because it's a non issue for me and shes just part of the family. She's as placid as they come and I trust her 10000%. Next time I leave him the dog will be with him too and I wouldn't think twice
So if you are at work and your dog is at home and your child is now old enough to start coming home from school and let themselves in for an hour before you get back you need to either find somewhere for the dog to go as it's irresponsible to leave that child alone with the dog or not let the child be home alone with the dog thus not allowing the child the responsibility they need to start experiencing before secondary school? Seriously?
I went back to work full time when my youngest started secondary school. She was 12 and my eldest was 14. They were left all day and were fine. I worked local and if I needed to pop at lunchtime then I could.
I really need to loosen up. My child is 6 and I can't imagine leaving her alone in a years time for any time at all.
I'm not judging, perhaps I am a bit too over protective.
I'm not judging, perhaps I am a bit too over protective.
Not over protective. Just sensible
You don’t need to loosen up, 7 is way too young! I’ve got a 6 year old too and there’s no way she’ll be getting left until she’s 10 minimum and that’s only the assumption she’ll have a 14 year old brother in with her at the same time.
I definitely wouldn't say over protective.
It does all depend on circumstances 7 in my opinion would have been way too young for my son. 9 I felt was too young and if it wasn't for isolation he wouldn't have done it. There again I acknowledge that I have been lucky enough to never need to consider it, I.e my work gives me flexibility to be there before and after school, and I have family for school holidays etc.
I'm justifying here because I don't want to seem judgemental to anyone that has left a child alone younger.
Once my son is negative and allowed out, he'll be with me until he's 15
but it's been nice having the option this week to keep normality!Not over protective, I think 10 right now is a good age to introduce it an then when you feel they are ready at 10 or even older then it's good to give them that little independence
Even though I was 7 when I was being left, back then I had no choice but to have grown up by then, life was harder an I needed to mature younger so I had to have known how to help mantian the house with work by that age, then by 11 I needed to babysit an cook
to me each generation works harder to make sure the next can enjoy being a child longer an can mature later in life, when my mum was 7 she was practically looking after her baby siblings with feeding an changing etc which at 7 although I could do all the house chores an be left I don't think I'd have been anywhere near ready to have responsibilitys for taking care of a baby, and the further back I go the more I find kids in family had to mature younger an younger, and that's just how it went, even looking back history you'll find kids at 4 being shoved up chimmys or put down the mines, I couldn't imagine any 4 year old today being mentally able to do that
Like I say each generation works harder to make sure the next can enjoy being a kid longer an it's nice to see its happening, right now we are asking if 10 is OK, by the time this generation have grown maybe they will be asking if 13 is OK as they feel 10 is young which means we are doing it right for them
No you aren’t being over protective at all. You are being perfectly normal and sensible! 7 is far too young to be left alone.
My oldest is 15 and I’ve just this week left her for the evening to babysit my youngest. She stays home for a few hours if I have to work and she’s ill but no longer than 2/3 hours at a time. Not to be a pearl clutcher but there’s no way I would be leaving anyone under maybe 12/13 alone unless it was like a 5 minute walk to the car and back?? Maybe I’m just too much of a worrier.
I think it depends on the child and the home life they are used to. My youngest is far more sensible then my eldest and I had no issues leaving her when I went to work or an evening out. My mum left me to look after my sisters every night when she went to work, I was 15 they were all younger. No mobile phones then, she wasn't home till midnight. A bit of independence is good for them.