How is everyone with affection? My boyfriend next to never shows me affection and it really gets me down. Just curious as to what others’ partners are like etc?
My husband and I are very affectionate and tactile with each other, always have been.How is everyone with affection? My boyfriend next to never shows me affection and it really gets me down. Just curious as to what others’ partners are like etc?
You don’t need to and shouldn’t have to wait for anything to change. In my experience, people don’t just change!! If he’s never been affectionate or tactile with you and has never really been complimentary then honestl, it’s just not going to happen im afraid. Ask yourself Then why are you with him? What are you getting out of the relationship?That’s good to hear that you guys are in nice loving relationships. I’m not much of a touchy person anyway but I literally get nothing from him! I’ve looked at the love languages before and I am pretty sure he is none of them . I love words of affirmation but I don’t get that either. He never compliments me. I’ve brought it up before a few times and he says he will change but doesn’t. I know it seems like he isn’t into me but he’s said he still wants to be with me. Just don’t know how long I can put up with the lack of affection and compliments etc. X
I used to be in a relationship like that, I never received compliments or reassurance etc., and it ended up having a negative impact on my self-esteem and confidence. I spoke to him several times about it and I explained why it was important to me, and still nothing changed. In the end I broke up with him because we were just incompatible in more ways than one and my needs were not being met. So I suppose my advice is, just check whether he is meeting your needs, or willing to compromise and meet you halfway. If something is this important to you and affects how you feel, you shouldn't have to beg someone to want to make you happy.I love words of affirmation but I don’t get that either. He never compliments me. I’ve brought it up before a few times and he says he will change but doesn’t. I know it seems like he isn’t into me but he’s said he still wants to be with me. Just don’t know how long I can put up with the lack of affection and compliments etc. X
Thank you for this I totally agree with you and I’m the exact same. I have explained several times why it’s important but nothing changes. I wouldn’t mind if he wasn’t that kind of person but he was at the start but now feel he has got too comfortable and just takes me for granted. We shall seeI used to be in a relationship like that, I never received compliments or reassurance etc., and it ended up having a negative impact on my self-esteem and confidence. I spoke to him several times about it and I explained why it was important to me, and still nothing changed. In the end I broke up with him because we were just incompatible in more ways than one and my needs were not being met. So I suppose my advice is, just check whether he is meeting your needs, or willing to compromise and meet you halfway. If something is this important to you and affects how you feel, you shouldn't have to beg someone to want to make you happy.
I totally understand where you're coming from, and it's difficult not to take it personally when it feels like the person isn't making as much effort, or as you've said, gotten comfortable and started taking you for granted. It's a horrible feeling! Have you told him that that's how it makes you feel? Maybe he doesn't understand just how important it is to you.Thank you for this I totally agree with you and I’m the exact same. I have explained several times why it’s important but nothing changes. I wouldn’t mind if he wasn’t that kind of person but he was at the start but now feel he has got too comfortable and just takes me for granted. We shall see
Second this because I feel like I could have written this about one if my exes! Luckily current bf is very affectionate and I feel a lot more secure so I agree with really thinking about if your needs are being met and how willing they are to take your feelings on boardI used to be in a relationship like that, I never received compliments or reassurance etc., and it ended up having a negative impact on my self-esteem and confidence. I spoke to him several times about it and I explained why it was important to me, and still nothing changed. In the end I broke up with him because we were just incompatible in more ways than one and my needs were not being met. So I suppose my advice is, just check whether he is meeting your needs, or willing to compromise and meet you halfway. If something is this important to you and affects how you feel, you shouldn't have to beg someone to want to make you happy.