I don’t think that not being able to drive or swim is bad. My mum can’t do either and she’s awesome. I believe the reason people use these as an example though is because it’s an example of her not sticking to or persevering with any new skills or activities, for example the gym, aromatherapy, yoga everyday during lockdown. These are 3 things that immediately come to mind, there are others i am sure. That being said she put a lot of effort into her mums birthday and seems to do the same for other people too. Maybe she would benefit from using the same amount of effort on herself that she does for others, clearly she’s not a selfish person. I watched her mums birthday video and it was delightful. That husband of hers though i can’t think of any other word to describe him but lump.