When is the right time? Help please, this is the first guy in my life since her dad left us 4 years ago.
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How old is she?
How long have you been together?
It's a hard one isn't it I met my husbands kids after about a month but we very much knew we would be staying together, they were 7 and 3 at the time it was a visit to the local shopping centre for a couple of hours.
When you know it’s going to be a long term thing.
Some factors go in to it like; how long have you known him? Do you plan on it being a long term thing? How old is your daughter?
It's a really tricky one and everyone's situation is different. I met my partner's daughter after 5 months as we knew we'd be staying together. Next step is discussing with her the possibility of me moving in!
We are almost ten years down the line now.
My fiancé met my five children after a few months and at the park, a neutral space with the strict understanding that they could leave at any time. I told them who they were meeting. He didn’t stay over while they were with me and we did loads of fun days out and the odd dinner.
They eventually asked him to stay over after six months when I had had an operation, they thought it would be good for him to look after me. He moved in after a year and we now have two children together, we’re getting married next year and all of the children will play a part.
My fiancé met my five children after a few months and at the park, a neutral space with the strict understanding that they could leave at any time. I told them who they were meeting. He didn’t stay over while they were with me and we did loads of fun days out and the odd dinner.
They eventually asked him to stay over after six months when I had had an operation, they thought it would be good for him to look after me. He moved in after a year and we now have two children together, we’re getting married next year and all of the children will play a part.
As a mum myself (single mum), I don’t really get why kids meeting your new partner is a big issue. Surely it’s no different to them meeting your friend who they might not see that often etc?
My daughter is nearly 3 and she wouldn’t know the difference between my friend and my partner (if I had one..) .. why do people make a big fuss over “when’s the right time”? Genuinely interested to know why it’s a massive deal when it shouldn’t be. They meet strangers all the time? Maybe I just see it from my daughter being younger.
My daughter is nearly 3 and she wouldn’t know the difference between my friend and my partner (if I had one..) .. why do people make a big fuss over “when’s the right time”? Genuinely interested to know why it’s a massive deal when it shouldn’t be. They meet strangers all the time? Maybe I just see it from my daughter being younger.
im not a parent but I have met multiple of my parents new partners and i think it’s a stability and attachment thing. A partner is a different to a friend as I assume with a partner the idea is that you will eventually progress into moving in whereas a friend or a stranger isn’t going to be in that position, and a friend and stranger isn’t going to be around your child as much as a partner is so they aren’t likely to form a bond with them. If the relationship progresses and the partner starts coming over say 4 days a week, a child gets used to it and then you split up, the child is then left in a position where they’ve formed an attachment to someone that’s now gone.
ETA: it makes sense that someone would want to wait say 6 months down the line where the couple feel like the relationship is going to last before they then introduce kids and form a bond as a family. I hope I’ve explains that well and it makes sense
also I hate to say it but most kids are
sexually abused