Just on the train now... got butterflies!Oh yes sorry I didn’t read properly it was tomorrow! Well good luck do update us on how goes! I’m sure you didn’t imagine it and you’ve got nothing to lose by giving it a shot
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Glad it went well, and glad you weren’t imagining it!
Thanks so much! Thanks everyone for the support and encouragement
. I can't wait to see him againThat’s great news! Really hope it all works out for youThanks so much! Thanks everyone for the support and encouragement
I've just started following this thread!
It's so exciting reading it all unfold in real time! Glad it went well @Catnmouse
(I met my OH at work nearly 14 years ago now. There was a lot of dancing around before we admitted we liked each other - about 2 years
but it all worked out OK.)
It's so exciting reading it all unfold in real time! Glad it went well @Catnmouse
(I met my OH at work nearly 14 years ago now. There was a lot of dancing around before we admitted we liked each other - about 2 years
but it all worked out OK.)Awwww that's cute!!! I hope it takes this guy a bit sooner than 14 years! I'm having to try to be cool and I am so uncool. I really like him.I've just started following this thread!
It's so exciting reading it all unfold in real time! Glad it went well @Catnmouse
(I met my OH at work nearly 14 years ago now. There was a lot of dancing around before we admitted we liked each other - about 2 years
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Awwww that's cute!!! I hope it takes this guy a bit sooner than 14 years! I'm having to try to be cool and I am so uncool. I really like him.I've just started following this thread!
It's so exciting reading it all unfold in real time! Glad it went well @Catnmouse
(I met my OH at work nearly 14 years ago now. There was a lot of dancing around before we admitted we liked each other - about 2 years
I'd just be mindful of the "stay in touch" part of his text - I'd interpret that as he's isn't going to follow anything up himself and has put the ball back in your court.
He said "let's keep in touch", which I think is slightly different.
Semantics aside, I think it's fine if the ball is in my court. I interpret his behaviour so far as being very respectful.
Well yes, that sounds more promising. You just don't want to be the one serving the ball all the time, is what I mean. Hopefully, he'll follow up soon.
Any updates?
So not really much to update! I messaged him a little bit, but to be honest he didn't make enough effort and while I see it as a positive step that I had a crush on someone after breaking up with my ex (which I have accepted I am still quite sad about), I have learned the hard way that it is never a good idea to chase someone! I shall certainly never be doing that again. Actually writing this down is quite cathartic and empowering because I've had a bit of a weepy day today and letting the tears flow... but yeah, proud in many ways of how far I've come. Thanks for being lovely, guys.
I don’t think he thought it was a date. In his mind, it was a networking coffee. Coffecatch-ups are pretty much standard in most industries.
Hence, the ‘let’s keep in touch’. It sounds more like something you’d say to a work connection otherwise he probably would have phrased his sentence differently.
It’s honestly more difficult to break the professional barrier. People will always put the professional hat on.
I would advise most people against making moves on someone at work unless it’s 100% sure and safe there’s a mutual interest and you’ve already engaged socially in a group setting or something.
I know tons of people meet at work but times are different now.
Hence, the ‘let’s keep in touch’. It sounds more like something you’d say to a work connection otherwise he probably would have phrased his sentence differently.
It’s honestly more difficult to break the professional barrier. People will always put the professional hat on.
I would advise most people against making moves on someone at work unless it’s 100% sure and safe there’s a mutual interest and you’ve already engaged socially in a group setting or something.
I know tons of people meet at work but times are different now.
Yeah you're probably right on reflection. I don't think I'll keep in touch with him though
Feeling a bit down so may be overly sensitive but as I had already accepted it wasn't going to work out, I don't think your comment was wholly necessary to be perfectly honest.
I met a long term ex through work, my parents met through work and are still together. I won't be seeking this kind of relationship again but to rule it out entirely i feel is a bit silly.
It is a forum. You asked for advice. We gave you some from different perspectives. I don’t think any aspect of my post is rude or dismissive.
I appreciate you might be feeling down, but just because you’re in a sensitive mood, it’s not a reason to come back and antagonize a poster who was giving advice. You’re free to take advice or leave it.
Best of luck with meeting someone.
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