My dad passed away recently and we are arranging his funeral. My ex partner (separated nearly 20 years ago) we have a 23 year old daughter together, wants to pay for my dads funeral car. We wasn’t married and he wasn’t close to my dad.
I left because he was very controlling and it was the best decision I ever made all that time ago.
Hes remarried and I’m in a long term relationship so everyone’s getting on with their own lives. So by all means if he wants to support our daughter at the funeral I understand that but him getting involved in funeral arrangements & choosing the funeral car, I have a problem with that but it looks like if I say anything I’m going to seen as the bad one.
My dad would not want him choosing or paying for his car let or even at the funeral, he couldn’t stand him.
My family are happy to take his money even tho he abused me badly when we was together. Yes it was a long time ago. However told my family how it made me uncomfortable and they still happy to go along with his idea and take his money.
Am I the asshole on this ?
I left because he was very controlling and it was the best decision I ever made all that time ago.
Hes remarried and I’m in a long term relationship so everyone’s getting on with their own lives. So by all means if he wants to support our daughter at the funeral I understand that but him getting involved in funeral arrangements & choosing the funeral car, I have a problem with that but it looks like if I say anything I’m going to seen as the bad one.
My dad would not want him choosing or paying for his car let or even at the funeral, he couldn’t stand him.
My family are happy to take his money even tho he abused me badly when we was together. Yes it was a long time ago. However told my family how it made me uncomfortable and they still happy to go along with his idea and take his money.
Am I the asshole on this ?