The impression I got from the post is she had a baby didn't realise how hard it would be, isn't enjoying motherhood and would rather work than spend time with her child. I understand breastfeeding/Pumping are hard but she chose to breastfeed/pump and she chose to go back to work early she doesn't really get to complain when she made these choices.
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I mean, I have empathy for Hannah, but she doesn't realise how good she's got it.
My mum was a single mother who was self-employed as a cleaner. My mum didn't have a dad to help out financially or physically, any additional income to hire people to do work for her or a childminder.
Middle-class people with well above-average salaries complaining that raising children is hard just makes me roll my eyes.
My mum was a single mother who was self-employed as a cleaner. My mum didn't have a dad to help out financially or physically, any additional income to hire people to do work for her or a childminder.
Middle-class people with well above-average salaries complaining that raising children is hard just makes me roll my eyes.
I thought what she wrote was very well balanced. It is difficult raising a child and working, and yes she has Dan and a childminder so there are two extra pairs of hands around but it’s still stressful and she’s figuring out her work/life balance.
But how stressful is it really when she has her partner, her childminder and her employees. I mean she has more help than most people and makes more money than most people.
Of course its stressful! Her partner works full time, the childminder needs paying, as do her employees. Yes, she's got it easier than some, but that doesn't mean it's easy. Even if you put aside the financial and time factors, the emotions are a rough ride.
Her employees and childminder aren’t volunteers, she has to pay them. She’s a freelancer which is an extra pressure to make sure that actually happens. When did it become a contest on who has it harder? I know very rich people, very poor people and people everywhere in between and not one person finds it easy. Just because you’re more privileged doesn’t mean you give away your right to say it’s difficult.
But that is the thing she is extremely privileged to have employees that do her work for her and a partner and childminder who help mind her child for her. She does not have it difficult and should not be complaining she chose to have a baby, she chose to breastfeed/pump, she chose to go back to work. I don't have any empathy for her she has it much easier than alot of people.
She is not struggling financially she has enough money to pay her mortgage, have a baby and hire employees and her partner works full time and in the IT sector. But the thing is she is extremely privileged and is complaining about the difficulties when in reality how much work does she actually do and how much time does she actually spend with her child its abit ridiculous.
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Honestly sometimes I think folks online can't win (and listen I love a rant about them as much as the next person). If she was saying everything was rosy and great, people would be critiquing her for having no awareness of how difficult it can be, setting unrealistic expectations, being out of touch etc. But she talks about realities and difficulties (without conflating her struggles and those of people less privileged) and that's not okay either? Parenting is hard, retiring to work is hard, running a business is hard, affording to live and balancing making sure people on your payroll can live is hard, it's okay to say that, and for you to not be resenting your child or ignoring your privilege.
I agree with you to an extent but I think that's where acknowledging your privilege comes in. Do I think Hannah should have to quality every statement she ever makes? Absolutely not. But I can see why some are annoyed about her complaining about a situation that's so much easier for her than the average person - she wanted her pregnancy from the start, she is financially secure, she has a partner, her partner is financially secure. I don't think it would kill her to admit to all of that. Maybe she has and I've missed it, I don't know.
Yes, it's not finite. I totally acknoledge what others like @Chinese_whispers have said about the difficulties of this period of life. But she's also an affluent influencer. So, yeah, I personally only have so much empathy for her.
Either post pictures of your kid or don’t post pictures of your kid. Don’t post pictures of your kid with the stupid baby emoji over his face 
Exactly, what actually is the point of that? Just take a picture somewhere else if you're going to censor the baby.Either post pictures of your kid or don’t post pictures of your kid. Don’t post pictures of your kid with the stupid baby emoji over his face
I don’t mind it when people have tasteful pictures where the child is just facing away from the camera, but the emoji thing drives me nuts. It also looks very tacky
The emoji thing over the face to me just reads as virtue signalling. Just don’t share the picture at all! Same with Melanie…they really think they’re doing something don’t they 
just don’t share your child AT ALL if you’re that bothered. Since they say part of it being that they want the child to decide themselves if they want an online presence, I don’t get why they even talk about the children at all. I can say I’d be far more embarrassed if my mum shared details about my sleeping/feeding habits than if she shared photos of me.
just don’t share your child AT ALL if you’re that bothered. Since they say part of it being that they want the child to decide themselves if they want an online presence, I don’t get why they even talk about the children at all. I can say I’d be far more embarrassed if my mum shared details about my sleeping/feeding habits than if she shared photos of me.Totally agree. There are some influencers who clearly don't actually care about the ethics of sharing their children online, but share their children online LESS than Hannah and Melanie -- the two that come to mind are Patricia Bright and Sammi Maria. If you looked at their Instagrams, you'd be hard-pressed to know they were mothers.The emoji thing over the face to me just reads as virtue signalling. Just don’t share the picture at all! Same with Melanie…they really think they’re doing something don’t they
Sorry this is so off-topic but I was just watching some of Hannah's more recent videos and I needed to find somewhere to make a witchy comment. This is simply mean and non-constructive, but Dan appears so unappealing. He looks terrible and poorly groomed. Additionally, he seems so much less invested in Hannah than she is in him. I know I don't know their actual dynamics at all, but theoretically what you put online is a highlight reel and if this is the best we see of him - yikes. Also, if I remember correctly, he like barely proposed to her and didn't even buy a ring/pay to at least have her existing ring cleaned or reset. Maybe I've somehow become way more traditional and regressive while watching her videos, but that puts a bad taste in my mouth.
I know what you mean, really. The way he was talking about parenting was irritating too (describing it as 'bleeping annoying'), I mean he's still playing games with his mates in the evening while Hannah seems to do the bulk of the parenting. His life doesn't seem to have changed much at all, what's there to whinge about?
I'm all for not pushing traditional values where they don't fit, but there's non-traditional and there's apathetic and I'm thinking he's more of the latter.
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