Freaked out so much. Advice please

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BigBrenda

I’m so bloody scared it’s unreal. My husband recently beat Cancer. I’m 18 weeks pregnant with our 4th child and noticed I had this sort of swollen ball type thing above my left breast it sort of feels like pulled muscle like a knot. When I raise my arm it moves more into a ball feel.
Anyway went to my gp who examined my breasts and she’s found a lump. I said well what’s this on my chest? She said I’m less concerned about that compared to the lump. But then said the lump was smooth and rounded and I’m sure she said it’s immovable under her fingers.
I’m bleeping tit scared it’s breast cancer. I’ve been reffered to the Royal Marsden for whatever they will do but I can’t cope with the waiting.
I’ve got ADHD and An Anxiety disorder and the waiting is stressing me out.
My appt is not for 2 weeks and will last 4 weeks.

She did say it could be a cyst or breast changes due to the pregnancy but I just dunno. I can’t be excited about my husbands recovery no more or this pregnancy and on top of it, I’ve got 2 kids with disabilities I’m struggling to cope with and now this.
Feel like such a miserable b but I can’t deal. Anyone else had a lump when pregnant. I’m late 20s 😭

Not 4 weeks meant to say my appt will last 4 hours
 
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Megansnarkle

I don't have any advice really but didn't want to read and run. Have you asked your GP whether there is any possibility of getting an earlier appointment, maybe a cancellation if they have one?

Otherwise unfortunately you just have to try and remain as calm as possible for both your benefit and that of your pregnancy. Worrying about it won't change the outcome either way but will make you miserable in the meantime. Your GP has indicated that there are things other than cancer that it could be and your body is undergoing a lot of changes at the moment.

I hope you hear good news but remember that you have your husband as support (and experienced support) if not.
 
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Whatevesmate

Whatevesmate

Poor you. Sounds like an unbelievable amount of stress. No wonder you feel miserable. Please don't expect yourself to sail through this situation and not feel scared. Its entirely understandable that you feel distressed. You have a lot going on. I really feel for you . It sounds like your GP is doing their job and taking things seriously which is a good thing. Much better to get things checked out. Its possible that this could be caused by hormonal changes. You could always phone Breast Cancer Care as they have breast care nurses who are really knowledgeable and can give you some advice. You can find their number here: https://breastcancernow.org/
Wishing you all the best with everything ❤
 
BettyCrockerr

BettyCrockerr

BigBrenda said:
I’m so bloody scared it’s unreal. My husband recently beat Cancer. I’m 18 weeks pregnant with our 4th child and noticed I had this sort of swollen ball type thing above my left breast it sort of feels like pulled muscle like a knot. When I raise my arm it moves more into a ball feel.
Anyway went to my gp who examined my breasts and she’s found a lump. I said well what’s this on my chest? She said I’m less concerned about that compared to the lump. But then said the lump was smooth and rounded and I’m sure she said it’s immovable under her fingers.
I’m bleeping tit scared it’s breast cancer. I’ve been reffered to the Royal Marsden for whatever they will do but I can’t cope with the waiting.
I’ve got ADHD and An Anxiety disorder and the waiting is stressing me out.
My appt is not for 2 weeks and will last 4 weeks.

She did say it could be a cyst or breast changes due to the pregnancy but I just dunno. I can’t be excited about my husbands recovery no more or this pregnancy and on top of it, I’ve got 2 kids with disabilities I’m struggling to cope with and now this.
Feel like such a miserable b but I can’t deal. Anyone else had a lump when pregnant. I’m late 20s 😭

Not 4 weeks meant to say my appt will last 4 hours
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You will go to the breast clinic at the hospital, you’ll be examined and they will do probably a mammogram and an ultrasound on your left breast/chest. They will look at the images and discuss with you what they think is going on - so at least at that point you’ll know and you won’t be in
Limbo.

Waiting is obviously the worst part but try to think of it like this - whatever it is, innocent or not, it’s already there - you cant change that fact. Worrying isn’t going to change that fact, all worrying does is makes you feel miserable. Try to just draw a line under it now until the appointment and then see what happens.

When is your appointment? Have you told your husband what’s going on?
 
Nottonightbabe

Nottonightbabe

Oh lovely, I know it's hard but try and take a breath and calm.❤ Most lumps and bumps in places don't turn out to be anything scary. Breasts can be knotty things in pregnancy and the lump you feel on your chest could even be a lymph node? I've had some random ones swell up before, nothing sinister. You're getting checked over very soon and there's many non scary reasons for these things to be there, especially in pregnancy ☺. I have an anxiety disorder too and that often manifests as health anxiety, so I get the panic you're feeling, esp with your husband's health thrown in the mix. Try and think positively xx
 
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Emperor

Just sending you love and prayers as I can't do anything else other than encourage you to check out all the advice above and keep busy xx
 
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