Dream wedding

[WilmaHun]

Ok, so I'm not engaged but I've thought ALOT about my ideal wedding. (Sympathise with me a bit here, been with my partner over 7 years and still waiting for a ring so I've had plenty of time to think about it !!)

I come from a massive family who all have had huge weddings but that's just not my thing. My ideal day would be really small, just us and parents, grandparents and siblings at the ceremony and then a small reception with only close friends and family (ie: not inviting an Aunt that I haven't seen in six years just for the sake of it etc). I think I'd be really strict with my guestlist mainly because the purpose of the day is to marry the person you love, not to pay for an overly priced meal for people you barely see. I'd probably ditch the first dance if I could just so I don't have loads of eyes on me. I wouldn't be bothered with trying to impress with fancy vintage cars, big sweet carts, bouncy castles, bands or performers etc. I'd just like a really small, intimate day with those close to me.

What is your ideal wedding and are you engaged or just a fantasist like me?

 

[Mulholland Drive]

I'm not engaged, and probably won't be for another couple of years or so.

I just want a small no-fuss wedding. Nothing flash, nothing lavish. Just a few friends and family and that's it - wedding, reception, party, honeymoon, done!

Of course being a lesbian wedding might present a few issues for friends that don't agree with that sort of thing, but that's their problem,.

For me, I always resort to the old trope "Keep it simple, stupid!" And that's exactly what I want.

 

[Phoenix Lazarus]

My parents married in a registry with just a few close relatives there. They didn't have a honeymoon holiday nor even an evening reception but after the ceremony went shopping at a supermarket then just returned to the small housing association home they already shared and just went on as usual-and don't tell anyone but my mum was already expecting me. though was only a couple of months pregnant.

 

[If i told you …]

Watching made in Chelsea. I now want the natural history museum

 

[Scorpihoe]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years, he often talks about engaging in the next few years, so I’m pretty excited! I have a very large family so I go to weddings so often and I’ve pretty much mastered every detail of what I want

he lives abroad, so I want a beach wedding, with a reception in a nice lavish hotel, but I don’t want too many guests, I’d like to keep that minimum, so I feel comfortable and can talk to everyone! My cousingot married in February and had the most gorgeous fairy tale wedding in a palace, I’ve attached some little snapshots it was incredibly beautiful, but with soooo many guests, and I couldn’t imagine not talking to everyone at your wedding.

so definitely lowkey for me! I’m so glad there’s a wedding thread on here, Im obsessed with weddings

 

[Dipdab]

I got married last weekend, obviously due to COVID we were only allowed 15 in total including us. I had always dreamed of a massive white wedding in a fancy hotel ballroom. However this sounds mega cheesy but I had the most perfect day. It was so intimate and in the midst of everything going on in the world at moment we just wanted to be married and start the rest of lives together. We are going to have big party with everyone once it’s allowed. Sometimes the perfect day is not what you had in your head

 

[WilmaHun]

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years, he often talks about engaging in the next few years, so I’m pretty excited! I have a very large family so I go to weddings so often and I’ve pretty much mastered every detail of what I want

he lives abroad, so I want a beach wedding, with a reception in a nice lavish hotel, but I don’t want too many guests, I’d like to keep that minimum, so I feel comfortable and can talk to everyone! My cousingot married in February and had the most gorgeous fairy tale wedding in a palace, I’ve attached some little snapshots it was incredibly beautiful, but with soooo many guests, and I couldn’t imagine not talking to everyone at your wedding.

so definitely lowkey for me! I’m so glad there’s a wedding thread on here, Im obsessed with weddings

Oh my god, that place looks amazing (and most definitely out of my price range haha)

 

[mcfeez]

I am married and had a small wedding - 30 people total. But I wanted it even smaller. My dream wedding was Las Vegas, with my parents and a handful of friends. Some good food at a nice restaurant afterwards (we got engaged in Las Vegas and that night ate at an amazing restaurant) and then just general Vegas fun!

I compromised for my husband as he wanted a bit more traditional. However he has said we are going to do a vow renewal, just the two of us, some time in Las Vegas.

EDIT: Just for anyone who isn't married yet - don't get too hung up on details, honestly. Its a hard truth but no one will care.

 

[OatMatchaLatte]

I'm engaged and we are planning to just go to the registry office. A handful of close family, maybe a meal afterwards. I can think of NOTHING worse than a big, lavish, expensive wedding. I hate being the centre of attention / the fuss. Each to their own, of course.

We want to go on a long honeymoon, though, because we love travelling.

 

[Pixipoppy]

If I did end up getting married It would either be a very small elopement, or just a registry office quick in and out jobby. We’ve been together so long (7 years like OP) it just seems a bit... I dunno, pointless now - we’re very obviously committed to each other in all ways except a legal document. In theory I love weddings as a guest, but I’d hate to organise one. Plus I don’t think anyone would actually care enough to come

 

[Barbie2020]

We get married next year! Supposed to be 60 day guests & 100 night but I doubt that will be the case still in June. We are having it at one of the hotels very close to where we live. I wish I’d planned it after this pandemic because I’d be happy with a really small one but felt we should have a bigger one for family. I’m just excited to be married and I’m not stressing over all the details anymore

 

[witchofwestbyfleet]

Not engaged but I would like a peach-coloured wedding dress that's not strapless and has a full skirt (I cannot stand strapless dresses and I hate the idea that "they suit everyone!") With my sister and best friend as bridesmaids and a raspberry sponge wedding cake. Ideally, I would also wear a pair of sparkly Jimmy Choo "Baily 100" ... although my current boyfriend thinks they're tacky and would prefer a chocolate cake!

 

[Scorpihoe]

Not engaged but I would like a peach-coloured wedding dress that's not strapless and has a full skirt (I cannot stand strapless dresses and I hate the idea that "they suit everyone!") With my sister and best friend as bridesmaids and a raspberry sponge wedding cake. Ideally, I would also wear a pair of sparkly Jimmy Choo "Baily 100" ... although my current boyfriend thinks they're tacky and would prefer a chocolate cake!

good choice of shoe! I would love Jimmy choo ‘Ari’ or ‘Viola’ both gorgeous shoes!

 

[Rodney2208]

We get married next year! Supposed to be 60 day guests & 100 night but I doubt that will be the case still in June. We are having it at one of the hotels very close to where we live. I wish I’d planned it after this pandemic because I’d be happy with a really small one but felt we should have a bigger one for family. I’m just excited to be married and I’m not stressing over all the details anymore

Same! We get married in June in Cornwall, we’ve invited 120, but we are happy to go ahead with whatever restrictions are in place, and a smaller wedding appeals to me much more than it did when we booked in summer 2019!

 

[watermelon sugar]

I'm not engaged. I used to want a big wedding but now I'm with my boyfriend and we have our baby I'm not bothered about how big or how small it is. I just want it to be the three of us and I just want the same surname as my son!

 

[Ruby’s mum]

Not engaged but I would like a peach-coloured wedding dress that's not strapless and has a full skirt (I cannot stand strapless dresses and I hate the idea that "they suit everyone!") With my sister and best friend as bridesmaids and a raspberry sponge wedding cake. Ideally, I would also wear a pair of sparkly Jimmy Choo "Baily 100" ... although my current boyfriend thinks they're tacky and would prefer a chocolate cake!

I don't like strapless dresses either. I don't think they suit many women at all, and I hate the bulge under the arm it creates on all but the skinniest woman..

 

[SunshineDreamer]

My dream wedding was my husband and I on a beach somewhere with a few of our closet friends and family where there was zero stress or formality. Unfortunately my mother in law took over and it could have passed as a state wedding! We’ve decided to renew our wedding vows in 2022. It’ll just be us, our children, our best friends and their 3 children and I cannot wait.

 

[Pinkblush]

We had 70 guests. I've always found smaller weddings more fun and they always have a better atmosphere. The bigger weddings always have a corporate dinner and dance feel and you lose the ambience. We wanted it to be simplistic and non generic plus gimmick/theme free.
No speeches, except my husband thanking everyone for coming
No strapless dress
No cutting the cake
No first dance
No bridesmaids
No 'be upstanding for the bride and groom' entrance
I have a huge problem with having the spotlight on me, to the point where I didn't even have a hen night/weekend because of it.
To walk down the aisle was massive for me. I recoil at public displays of affection so because of that we didn't do the cutting the cake thing or first dance. Rightly or wrongly I find both of these things slightly naff and toe curling anyway. The thought of all the posing and clasping the knife together and grinning from ear to ear made me feel vomity.
I just think once you've said the vows there's no need to keep reinforcing the 'love' aspect of things throughout the day.

The downside to not going with the flow:
Much to my MIL disgust I didn't have white table linen. I feel its too clinical and has no warmth but she nagged me stupid in emails (she lives is in a different country) about it. Luckily on the day when she saw the tables she approved and agreed it was more cosy looking.
Two pals who I had been bridesmaids for got funny with me because I wasn't having bridesmaids. Like the favour should have been returned.
My husbands best mate loves show boating and being centre if attention so he was put out at not being he able to do a speech.

 

[WilmaHun]

We had 70 guests. I've always found smaller weddings more fun and they always have a better atmosphere. The bigger weddings always have a corporate dinner and dance feel and you lose the ambience. We wanted it to be simplistic and non generic plus gimmick/theme free.
No speeches, except my husband thanking everyone for coming
No strapless dress
No cutting the cake
No first dance
No bridesmaids
No 'be upstanding for the bride and groom' entrance
I have a huge problem with having the spotlight on me, to the point where I didn't even have a hen night/weekend because of it.
To walk down the aisle was massive for me. I recoil at public displays of affection so because of that we didn't do the cutting the cake thing or first dance. Rightly or wrongly I find both of these things slightly naff and toe curling anyway. The thought of all the posing and clasping the knife together and grinning from ear to ear made me feel vomity.
I just think once you've said the vows there's no need to keep reinforcing the 'love' aspect of things throughout the day.

The downside to not going with the flow:
Much to my MIL disgust I didn't have white table linen. I feel its too clinical and has no warmth but she nagged me stupid in emails (she lives is in a different country) about it. Luckily on the day when she saw the tables she approved and agreed it was more cosy looking.
Two pals who I had been bridesmaids for got funny with me because I wasn't having bridesmaids. Like the favour should have been returned.
My husbands best mate loves show boating and being centre if attention so he was put out at not being he able to do a speech.

Are we the same person? I feel like I could have written this. You day sounds like my absolute dream!

 

[Reverend]

Due to my mental health issues I gave up believing I would ever be married, however I know there is no way I would have wanted a massive wedding. I have been to a lot where the bride, or brides mother (or in exasperation of having to have spent the money the brides dad) tell me that it has cost £15,000, £20,000 or even £30,000, and I am often trying to work out on what. Also, at some of these weddings, I have seen family squabbles arise and people getting angry with each other, and at one the Bride and Groom started throwing things at each other because of an argument. That marriage last 6 months, and I was very sad when it ended as I had bet someone it would last 12 months, and i lost £50.