Cutting friends off

[ChloChlo]

I find "disappearing" for a while helps. Even if it means taking a break from social media and not answering any calls. My personal strategy is pretending I am "working on myself" and let things fizzle out naturally.

 

[HoneyBee29]

Honestly it will be the best thing you’ve ever done. My situation was a little different but me and a close friend had been drifting apart for over a year but I’d also caught her out on a few lies a couple of times but the final straw was when she was suppose to go to my hen do nearly 2 years ago at this point it had been booked organised and deposits had been paid nearly a year in advance and she basically messaged my sister a month or two before saying she wasn’t going cause she was moving house and was busy doing her house up and couldn’t afford it but then messaged me a few weeks later and told me something completely different and said she didn’t feel comfortable going because she didn’t know anyone which would have been perfectly fine if she had of just said that from the start but she knew from the beginning when it was planned that nobody was going that she knew. All the girls had been told from the start that if they’ve paid a deposit to go and dont my go that they still had to pay for their spot as it wasn’t fair on other people having to pay the extra because they pulled out. She mentioned nothing to my sister about paying the rest of the money she just told her don’t worry about the deposit and to keep it, the initial deposit was only £10 lol anyway basically the weekend of the hen she went away on holiday to Poland with her boyfriend and also paid my sister the money she owed for the hen so obviously ‘can’t afford it’ was a load of crap but we haven’t spoken since that and just decided to cut all ties and I blocked her on everything and didn’t really realise how toxic she was until she was gone and I wouldn’t want to go back there

 

[Blonde123]

Ive finally cut off a toxic friend. Its been years of lies and deceit. Im one of these people who will take and take the shit and then I snap and just cut all contact with not even a goodbye.

My question is Im also quite a weak person so how do I make sure I keep her out of my life?

What sort of stuff did she do? Might help on how to completely get rid of her if you don’t mind sharing a bit more x

 

[GiggleBee]

Seconding what @Plasticbox said, particularly if you share mutual friends. I completely understand that you’ve had enough but honestly just saying “I really don’t think I can remain in touch with you certainly at the moment because I don’t think it feels like a friendship anymore.”

That way she knows why, and she won’t try and involve your friends for answers or to pick sides.

Regardless of what I do she will try to get out mutual friend to pick sides. Im sure she is only 'friends' with me because of our mutual friend