I was cheated on by my ex (once that I know of) but probably other times in our 8 year period soooo I should've known better.... I will make this story as short as possible
Two years ago, I met someone and he came back to mine bla bla bla you get the hint. So we continued talking, came to mine and a couple weeks in he says "you know my situation don't you?" (I didn't) anyway turns out his 'ex' was pregnant, she trapped him... you get the gist...
Anyway so they weren't together, but living together, he was always out or at mine and eventually telling me he loved me, wants to be with me and so on. Messaged me everyday telling me this. We both drink in the same local so eventually everyone in the pub knew, his friends, his dad, my friends. His 'ex' didn't drink in there to my knowledge, I've never seen her before, but maybe I just never paid attention because I didn't know them.
In typical girl fashion, I stalked his 'ex' and she did tweet about being a single mother, complaining about him and stuff on Twitter. My friend has a fake phone case instagram and she followed her on there and she put stuff up on her stories that would make you think they weren't together.
This went on for some time between me & him, but about 5 months in he became distant, he couldn't see me because he was working away or with the baby ( after he was born ) and then I noticed she changed to " in a relationship " and I questioned him he told me it was to make her family happy, don't believe it. So come Christmas time, I hadn't seen him just me and him. I'd only seen him in the pub and even though he was still talking to me, it wasn't as much or very blunt answers. He used to tell me "It won't change anytime soon" and so on. So January last year, I called it off. I hadn't seen him for 4 months, barely spoke to him and in that time. I was really hurt by this, 7 months is a long time to be waiting around on someone for it to go nowhere. I met someone else and told him. He said he was gutted whatever.
So turns out he was lying about pretty much everything. Him and his gf did split for a small period of time, maybe a couple of weeks, but they got back together and were for the rest of the time he was also seeing me. So they split again last month. She had messaged me because someone told her about us. She confirmed his lies. He obviously tried to deny certain things but I kept every single message from him and sent her them across.
He told her I was some 'divvy slag' (which I aren't, I have more fingers on my hand than people I have been with so makes no sense!!!!)
I mean, I feel awful for her. And I know I am very stupid to believe lies and not tell her, some of the lies he told me are similar to the ones my ex told the girl he slept with so I should've known better and seen the red flags. When he said that about me to her it did hurt, not because he wasn't genuine but because I didn't deserve to be someone's toy. I am not a horrible person, I keep myself to myself and I just want to settle down.
Obviously how I feel about it doesn't compare to the hurt she's going through but idk. My own fault for being naïve, I guess I wanted to believe that I was worthy of love after being hurt in the past.
First boyfriend, we were together 3 years - lost our virginity together the lot, I adored him. About 2&1/2 years into it he’s really distant me, tries to end it loads and then gets back with me. My best friend at the time was always his cheerleader - he’s so canny etc, I loved that my friend and boyfriend got along 
