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Is anyone following Syd Towle? I am rooting for her, but she is very poorly 
Was waking in the night and thinking of poor Lizzie. So sad for the family
Im so devastated for lizzie and her family. 
thats all i can say 
thats all i can say 
Me too, it's weird to be so sad about a stranger but I've followed her for so long, I feel really invested
I never thought this time would come, she seemed so invincible. It's just not fair.Me too, it's weird to be so sad about a stranger but I've followed her for so long, I feel really invested
I think the debate over what "should" and "should not" be posted regarding a content creator's cancer journey is an interesting one. I can see both sides.
I recall finding it quite jarring myself to read assessments and indepth analyses and prognostic factors here. I have no doubt it would be very difficult for a content creator to read, especially if they've recently had negative results or are faring poorly.
But, as @Saydee stated: "Nobodies let Lizzie or anyone else know nothing. Unsure why you are being all sensitive? I am sure Lizzie is fully aware of her prognosis considering she wanted to raise awareness?"
It's true that they don't have to come here to read. And it's also true that they have chosen to publicise their cancer journey, which brings with it unsolicited opinions and often misinformation. We can't always know what they may or may not be upset by. All we know is that it's human nature to have opinions on other people. We have very different standards on what is fine to post and what crosses a line. This was a big learning curve for me, to recognise other people's lines may be different than my own. We all have a different standard of what "acceptable" online posting conduct may or may not include, especially on another's health.
@Saydee wrote: "The nurse explained how upsetting and frustrating it can be when a patient accepts nothing more can be done, but someone in the family is in denial and believes "they" have to do something to prevent death.
I never knew how upset my husband had been finding his relationship with his mum in his final months/weeks. He was upset and frustrated and didn't want the false hope speech because he himself had accepted what was occurring"
@Saydee I am interesting in your perspective on this, about what you think is the best way to react to a person with a life threatening illness, given you have experience with this. What do you think might be the most well received and welcomed way to respond? Offer comfort, or ask the person what they need? Ask them if they want to talk about it?
How would you approach this sensitive topic?
I recall finding it quite jarring myself to read assessments and indepth analyses and prognostic factors here. I have no doubt it would be very difficult for a content creator to read, especially if they've recently had negative results or are faring poorly.
But, as @Saydee stated: "Nobodies let Lizzie or anyone else know nothing. Unsure why you are being all sensitive? I am sure Lizzie is fully aware of her prognosis considering she wanted to raise awareness?"
It's true that they don't have to come here to read. And it's also true that they have chosen to publicise their cancer journey, which brings with it unsolicited opinions and often misinformation. We can't always know what they may or may not be upset by. All we know is that it's human nature to have opinions on other people. We have very different standards on what is fine to post and what crosses a line. This was a big learning curve for me, to recognise other people's lines may be different than my own. We all have a different standard of what "acceptable" online posting conduct may or may not include, especially on another's health.
@Saydee wrote: "The nurse explained how upsetting and frustrating it can be when a patient accepts nothing more can be done, but someone in the family is in denial and believes "they" have to do something to prevent death.
I never knew how upset my husband had been finding his relationship with his mum in his final months/weeks. He was upset and frustrated and didn't want the false hope speech because he himself had accepted what was occurring"
@Saydee I am interesting in your perspective on this, about what you think is the best way to react to a person with a life threatening illness, given you have experience with this. What do you think might be the most well received and welcomed way to respond? Offer comfort, or ask the person what they need? Ask them if they want to talk about it?
How would you approach this sensitive topic?
Gosh I feel so bad for Lizzi. Can't stop thinking about her and her lovely family. I'm so sad for her 
Same. I really like Lizzie.Me too, it's weird to be so sad about a stranger but I've followed her for so long, I feel really invested
I'm glad she's strong enough to make it through to the planned surgery.
Well I’ll be saying a prayer for Lizzie tonight.
Maybe if we all think positive thoughts, it can’t do any harm.
She’s always been so positive and shared so much.
Come on Lizzie. We are all cheering you on 🩷
Maybe if we all think positive thoughts, it can’t do any harm.
She’s always been so positive and shared so much.
Come on Lizzie. We are all cheering you on 🩷
She has a great sense of humour so I will say, she picked a bad time to go back blonde 
the jaundice started not long after!
Hoping her surgery was a success and wishing her a gentle recovery.
the jaundice started not long after!Hoping her surgery was a success and wishing her a gentle recovery.
I've been thinking about Lizzie all day, hope her surgery went well 
Im so sad for syd and her family 
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Oh no. She's looked so poorly bless her. She seems like such a lovely soulIm so sad for syd and her family
No news from Lizzie since her surgery Hope it went as well as could be expected...
Hope it went as well as could be expected...Poor Syd has passed away. So sad for her family
im so sad for her Aww that’s ever so sad
my heart aches for her family and friends