TheWitchIsBack
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So whatever way you approach this - your feelings are valid. You deserve to feel secure in your relationship, and a lot of how you’re feeling sounds like it’s down to your own insecurities, however these are probably magnified and exacerbated by your boyfriends online behaviour.
I think first and foremost you should speak to your boyfriend about how you’re feeling and let him know that seeing this on tik tok is upsetting to you and you’re working hard to improve your self confidence however this is making it more difficult for you because you’re comparing yourself to these women.
I think it’s also important to remember that we all have shallow and lustful moments where we see particular men and women we find physically attractive and that’s ok - just because we find someone great to look at doesn’t mean we are compatible with that person. For instance the type of porn I watch is completely different to the type of man I’m married to - I love my husband deeply but am also able to find enjoyment in different types of people and body types through porn and that doesn’t diminish my love for any less and I have never cheated on him or had any desire to.
When you feel down on yourself it’s really easy to become overwhelmed with these feelings of not being good enough or not looking attractive enough but if your partner loves you he won’t care - the most attractive feature, and one I bet all these tik tokers will have in common - is confidence. Work on feeling better about yourself cause I guarantee you’re a bloody queen, you’re beautiful and you deserve the world - you’re just too worn down to realise it. I’m waffling on cause I’m tired but I hope you take comfort in what I’ve saidx
I think first and foremost you should speak to your boyfriend about how you’re feeling and let him know that seeing this on tik tok is upsetting to you and you’re working hard to improve your self confidence however this is making it more difficult for you because you’re comparing yourself to these women.
I think it’s also important to remember that we all have shallow and lustful moments where we see particular men and women we find physically attractive and that’s ok - just because we find someone great to look at doesn’t mean we are compatible with that person. For instance the type of porn I watch is completely different to the type of man I’m married to - I love my husband deeply but am also able to find enjoyment in different types of people and body types through porn and that doesn’t diminish my love for any less and I have never cheated on him or had any desire to.
When you feel down on yourself it’s really easy to become overwhelmed with these feelings of not being good enough or not looking attractive enough but if your partner loves you he won’t care - the most attractive feature, and one I bet all these tik tokers will have in common - is confidence. Work on feeling better about yourself cause I guarantee you’re a bloody queen, you’re beautiful and you deserve the world - you’re just too worn down to realise it. I’m waffling on cause I’m tired but I hope you take comfort in what I’ve saidx