Realistically I know deep down that the only solution to this is to communicate with my partner, but it's just a really awkward subject... I've spoken about this issue with my best friend and she thinks I'm perhaps overthinking things.
Basically, I've been feeling really low about my body recently. I've been overweight for a few years now, and last year I put on even more weight due to snacking working from home / no walking from no commuting, etc. In the last week or so I've started to finally make an effort - getting an hour's walk a day in my lunch break; drinking 2L of water; eating my 5 a day; counting calories... Already I'm feeling the best I've felt in a long time.
I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years, living together for just over a year and a half. He tells me I'm beautiful a lot / gets annoyed when I say not nice things about myself - I know he loves me but I just feel so badly about myself I don't understand why he would find me attractive. I've noticed recently that the majority of people he follows on TikTok are young, very slim women - all suggestively posing and dancing, asking suggestive questions etc. A couple of them have 'your TikTok GF' in their bios and their content to me looks like it's aimed at single men - asking them questions like where they'd take them out on a date, what clothes they'd like to wear, etc... It makes me really uncomfortable. I don't mind porn, but for some reason this irks me - it just seems a lot more intimate. None of them look even remotely like me, either. It's just really awkward cos I know if it's making me feel this way I should talk to him about it (I've never seen him watch these videos; but we follow each other on TikTok so I assume he knows I can see who he's following?) but it's such a private, embarrassing subject...
I suppose I'm just looking for any opinions on why you think he's doing this, and if it's something I should be concerned about? Is it just typical guy behaviour and I'm reading too much into it as my self esteem and confidence is pretty low? For reference, I'm 26 and he's 30.
Basically, I've been feeling really low about my body recently. I've been overweight for a few years now, and last year I put on even more weight due to snacking working from home / no walking from no commuting, etc. In the last week or so I've started to finally make an effort - getting an hour's walk a day in my lunch break; drinking 2L of water; eating my 5 a day; counting calories... Already I'm feeling the best I've felt in a long time.
I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years, living together for just over a year and a half. He tells me I'm beautiful a lot / gets annoyed when I say not nice things about myself - I know he loves me but I just feel so badly about myself I don't understand why he would find me attractive. I've noticed recently that the majority of people he follows on TikTok are young, very slim women - all suggestively posing and dancing, asking suggestive questions etc. A couple of them have 'your TikTok GF' in their bios and their content to me looks like it's aimed at single men - asking them questions like where they'd take them out on a date, what clothes they'd like to wear, etc... It makes me really uncomfortable. I don't mind porn, but for some reason this irks me - it just seems a lot more intimate. None of them look even remotely like me, either. It's just really awkward cos I know if it's making me feel this way I should talk to him about it (I've never seen him watch these videos; but we follow each other on TikTok so I assume he knows I can see who he's following?) but it's such a private, embarrassing subject...
I suppose I'm just looking for any opinions on why you think he's doing this, and if it's something I should be concerned about? Is it just typical guy behaviour and I'm reading too much into it as my self esteem and confidence is pretty low? For reference, I'm 26 and he's 30.