Blocking a friend

[RoseBush23]

Hello! Just after some reassurance really!

I met my friend at work about 3 years ago and we both left the work place and remained really good friends, about a year and a bit ago we had a massive argument over nothing and she went a bit crazy at me but we sorted things out. Obviously we’ve been in a global pandemic so we haven’t really seen each other in the last year! We saw each other a few weeks back for a walk and things were fine. She asked to meet again and I said yes let me know, we made plans and when I text her to confirm the times, she said she forgot and had made other plans. Naturally I was disappointed but said okay and gave her another date to meet but she didn’t reply. I organised a lunch date with her and some other girls we used to work with and now she’s turned round and said that she will make up an excuse not to come as it will be so awkward as I’m still on a mood about her forgetting our plans. I’m seriously not! She then turned around and said that nobody likes her and I’ve invited her because I feel sorry for her. She was just going crazy at me saying she’s struggling through the lockdown and can’t bare to even think about going out and being around people, which is understandable. HOWEVER. She’s been to several garden drinks and works at an outside cafe everyday Sunday. It’s just me that she does this behaviour with, constantly messages like I’m struggling, thanks for not checking in, when I do! I ring, she doesn’t answer, I text etc and she’s either really vague or doesn’t reply! She then excused me of not being a mate and that our friendship is so black and white She doesn’t display this behaviour with anyone else! It’s got to the point where I’ve had to screenshot the messages to show others because they are in disbelief that she would act this way! She will just message me almost like abuse until I break? Do you think I’m bad for blocking her?

 

[LaurieLaurie]

Absolutely not.

 

[Fizzwhizz2020]

She sounds like a bit of a child who wants your attention by what you’ve said. She might have struggled during the lockdown though. Does she live on her own? Rather than block her, I’d call her out. Just maybe say that you’re thought you were friends, but her behaviour towards you is unacceptable and you don’t need a friend who thinks it’s ok to treat you like that. Let her know that this friendship seems very one sided. If she’s been a good friend, it seems a shame to just block her, it would almost make her feel justified in acting the way she has. It’s much better in the long run for you to come out as having taken the high road. You don’t need to stoop to her level. She probably only does it with you because she can get away with it. You’re probably just one of those kind people who keeps trying until you hit a wall. I’ve had friends like that and have always felt better just letting them know that their behaviour isn’t something I want or need in a friend.

 

[JoeBloggs]

Not at all. She seems very draining and while friendships are about being there for each other she seems to turn it all around. I think you’ve been very understanding and I would walk away, you don’t owe her anything.

 

[Bellaboo83]

Sounds really toxic. Block and be done with her

 

[Gloria Rostron]

Hello! Just after some reassurance really!

I met my friend at work about 3 years ago and we both left the work place and remained really good friends, about a year and a bit ago we had a massive argument over nothing and she went a bit crazy at me but we sorted things out. Obviously we’ve been in a global pandemic so we haven’t really seen each other in the last year! We saw each other a few weeks back for a walk and things were fine. She asked to meet again and I said yes let me know, we made plans and when I text her to confirm the times, she said she forgot and had made other plans. Naturally I was disappointed but said okay and gave her another date to meet but she didn’t reply. I organised a lunch date with her and some other girls we used to work with and now she’s turned round and said that she will make up an excuse not to come as it will be so awkward as I’m still on a mood about her forgetting our plans. I’m seriously not! She then turned around and said that nobody likes her and I’ve invited her because I feel sorry for her. She was just going crazy at me saying she’s struggling through the lockdown and can’t bare to even think about going out and being around people, which is understandable. HOWEVER. She’s been to several garden drinks and works at an outside cafe everyday Sunday. It’s just me that she does this behaviour with, constantly messages like I’m struggling, thanks for not checking in, when I do! I ring, she doesn’t answer, I text etc and she’s either really vague or doesn’t reply! She then excused me of not being a mate and that our friendship is so black and white She doesn’t display this behaviour with anyone else! It’s got to the point where I’ve had to screenshot the messages to show others because they are in disbelief that she would act this way! She will just message me almost like abuse until I break? Do you think I’m bad for blocking her?

She sounds quite manipulative. I hate people who pick you up and drop you when it suits them. You're well rid.

 

[BettyCrockerr]

Hello! Just after some reassurance really!

I met my friend at work about 3 years ago and we both left the work place and remained really good friends, about a year and a bit ago we had a massive argument over nothing and she went a bit crazy at me but we sorted things out. Obviously we’ve been in a global pandemic so we haven’t really seen each other in the last year! We saw each other a few weeks back for a walk and things were fine. She asked to meet again and I said yes let me know, we made plans and when I text her to confirm the times, she said she forgot and had made other plans. Naturally I was disappointed but said okay and gave her another date to meet but she didn’t reply. I organised a lunch date with her and some other girls we used to work with and now she’s turned round and said that she will make up an excuse not to come as it will be so awkward as I’m still on a mood about her forgetting our plans. I’m seriously not! She then turned around and said that nobody likes her and I’ve invited her because I feel sorry for her. She was just going crazy at me saying she’s struggling through the lockdown and can’t bare to even think about going out and being around people, which is understandable. HOWEVER. She’s been to several garden drinks and works at an outside cafe everyday Sunday. It’s just me that she does this behaviour with, constantly messages like I’m struggling, thanks for not checking in, when I do! I ring, she doesn’t answer, I text etc and she’s either really vague or doesn’t reply! She then excused me of not being a mate and that our friendship is so black and white She doesn’t display this behaviour with anyone else! It’s got to the point where I’ve had to screenshot the messages to show others because they are in disbelief that she would act this way! She will just message me almost like abuse until I break? Do you think I’m bad for blocking her?

She isn’t your friend. Yeah we’ve been in lockdown etc but if you were really proper mates you would have been in proper contact with each other throughout- calls/texts/facetimes etc etc etc and you would have a proper adult relationship with each other with proper communication and not this infantile nonsense she’s coming out with. She’s an old work colleague, and she sounds like a pain in the ass. I’d block her and just forget about her. It’s unnecessary bull drama that you don’t need.