Anxiety help

[georgiecait]

Thanks, will check them out!



Ugh, yes! I feel like lots of people have a particular symptom which their body gravitates to under stress, and mine is definitely stomach/nausea type stuff. It's so unsettling, isn't it? I feel like the build-up goes on for so long that I'm exhausted before it starts. We are going to stay with relatives and that's very stressful.

Mine is exactly the same When my anxiety is really bad it triggers IBS symptoms and it's hell. Also physically sick and my sleep schedule gets messed up which is a recipe for disaster.
I think the best thing is to really insulate and shut off those triggers that's making your anxiety worse. Easier said than done but tiny little tricks.
Also for a quick fix - mints (Trebor if you can get them) when you have nausea as it tricks your mind into thinking you're eating and the nausea is pushed to the side temporarily. Really helps me

 

[Bananabadger]

@ChampagneBox, I don’t take medication apart from an occasional diazepam which is, frankly, a complete wonder drug. I was given loads for flying, and if I take one it’s a huge help. But my GP practice won’t prescribe them for use for anxiety (unless it’s eg fear of flying).

@georgiecait — yeah, I agree, unfortunately Christmas (which I otherwise love!) contains a lot of my triggers! I just feel sick. I also had the booster recently and it’s wiped me out, and given me nausea which reinforces the anxiety feedback loop.

 

[georgiecait]

@ChampagneBox, I don’t take medication apart from an occasional diazepam which is, frankly, a complete wonder drug. I was given loads for flying, and if I take one it’s a huge help. But my GP practice won’t prescribe them for use for anxiety (unless it’s eg fear of flying).

@georgiecait — yeah, I agree, unfortunately Christmas (which I otherwise love!) contains a lot of my triggers! I just feel sick. I also had the booster recently and it’s wiped me out, and given me nausea which reinforces the anxiety feedback loop.

You're the same as me, I love Christmas but it's quite difficult to get involved when I'm not feeling 100% Try the mints and get as much rest as you possibly can. I had my booster on Friday and had a few weird anxiety related elements pop up too, I hope it passes soon.

If you need anything just post, I know Tattle can be seen as a nasty gossip thread but I love it and it's helped me in the past with things like this and there's always someone to chat to

 

[Bananabadger]

Oh that’s interesting, thank you! I did wonder if the booster was messing with my MH a bit — and yeah, rest is key. I know it’s silly but I try and focus on things like basic self-care each day as a bit of a distraction from all the other stuff I have to do.

 

[Crazycatlady18]

Hi all, hope I’m ok to join in. Recently been prescribed sertraline for anxiety and pnd. I’ve been having loads of problems feeding the baby and she isn’t gaining weight very well. I worry sick that I’m a bad mum and failing her as we gave up breast feeding due to the issues. I also have such a horrible anxiety about her breathing and atopppng breathing in her sleep I lie awake for so long and I’m exhausted. In the evenings im looking at the tv but not watching it, im in a constant fog. I’ve always been a “natural born worrier” but never seeked help for it. Previously I’ve been obsessed with my heart, people don’t like me etc
Now I’m a mum I am actually reaching out for help but when we have bad days with the baby it just sets me back so much and I can’t control my emotions. I just want to feel better so I can be a good mum.

 

[georgiecait]

Hi all, hope I’m ok to join in. Recently been prescribed sertraline for anxiety and pnd. I’ve been having loads of problems feeding the baby and she isn’t gaining weight very well. I worry sick that I’m a bad mum and failing her as we gave up breast feeding due to the issues. I also have such a horrible anxiety about her breathing and atopppng breathing in her sleep I lie awake for so long and I’m exhausted. In the evenings im looking at the tv but not watching it, im in a constant fog. I’ve always been a “natural born worrier” but never seeked help for it. Previously I’ve been obsessed with my heart, people don’t like me etc
Now I’m a mum I am actually reaching out for help but when we have bad days with the baby it just sets me back so much and I can’t control my emotions. I just want to feel better so I can be a good mum.

Oh sweetheart that sounds really hard. Can I ask how long you've been on sertraline? I know that it does take up to a few weeks for the anxiety edge to disappear so it could be that it's not quite working yet? I'm not a mum so probably can't help much on that front.
Type in meditation for mothers on YouTube and give yourself 20 mins out of your day to listen and relax <3

 

[Suzesnooze]

Hi all, hope I’m ok to join in. Recently been prescribed sertraline for anxiety and pnd. I’ve been having loads of problems feeding the baby and she isn’t gaining weight very well. I worry sick that I’m a bad mum and failing her as we gave up breast feeding due to the issues. I also have such a horrible anxiety about her breathing and atopppng breathing in her sleep I lie awake for so long and I’m exhausted. In the evenings im looking at the tv but not watching it, im in a constant fog. I’ve always been a “natural born worrier” but never seeked help for it. Previously I’ve been obsessed with my heart, people don’t like me etc
Now I’m a mum I am actually reaching out for help but when we have bad days with the baby it just sets me back so much and I can’t control my emotions. I just want to feel better so I can be a good mum.

You’re a good Mum. Having a baby is hard work as there’s a lot of sleep deprivation that makes the anxiety worse but you’ve sought help and that’s a good thing.

I was the same with my first baby, when she was asleep I used to think she looked like she wasn’t breathing and so I’d wake her up to reassure myself .

Don’t stress about the feeding. I breastfed and was told by a horrible health visitor that baby wasn’t gaining enough weight and that I needed to cook myself a full English breakfast another health visitor told me to ignore her.
If breastfeeding is not working for you then switch to bottle feeding.

Try to relax and just do your own thing. Don’t worry too much about what other mothers do and hopefully the medication will help but bear in mind it can take 6 weeks to kick in.

 

[Crazycatlady18]

Oh sweetheart that sounds really hard. Can I ask how long you've been on sertraline? I know that it does take up to a few weeks for the anxiety edge to disappear so it could be that it's not quite working yet? I'm not a mum so probably can't help much on that front.
Type in meditation for mothers on YouTube and give yourself 20 mins out of your day to listen and relax <3

Hi, it’s been just over two weeks now so yes you’re right the full effects won’t have started yet. Thank you I’ll have a look x

You’re a good Mum. Having a baby is hard work as there’s a lot of sleep deprivation that makes the anxiety worse but you’ve sought help and that’s a good thing.

I was the same with my first baby, when she was asleep I used to think she looked like she wasn’t breathing and so I’d wake her up to reassure myself .

Don’t stress about the feeding. I breastfed and was told by a horrible health visitor that baby wasn’t gaining enough weight and that I needed to cook myself a full English breakfast another health visitor told me to ignore her.
If breastfeeding is not working for you then switch to bottle feeding.

Try to relax and just do your own thing. Don’t worry too much about what other mothers do and hopefully the medication will help but bear in mind it can take 6 weeks to kick in.

Health visitors put so much pressure on you don’t they. She’s gaining all be it slowly. It’s absolutely destroyed my mental health though.
Edit to add I also give her a gentle poke to check she’s still alive. To be fair I think all mums at some point are guilty of that one the anxiety they give you about SIDS is unreal

 

[Bananabadger]

Health visitors put so much pressure on you don’t they. She’s gaining all be it slowly. It’s absolutely destroyed my mental health though.

I am sure there are great HVs out there, but most of my friends have really, really suffered with them, esp with first births. You sound like you're doing really well, all things considered. I haven't got a baby (I wish I had!) but I'm sure I'd be completely the same. Everyone seems to have a "I poked my kid when she was a baby to check she's okay" story about their really healthy six-year-old.

Also you're TOTALLY fine to join in! This is a space for being kind to each other and venting!

 

[Suzesnooze]

Hi, it’s been just over two weeks now so yes you’re right the full effects won’t have started yet. Thank you I’ll have a look x


Health visitors put so much pressure on you don’t they. She’s gaining all be it slowly. It’s absolutely destroyed my mental health though.
Edit to add I also give her a gentle poke to check she’s still alive. To be fair I think all mums at some point are guilty of that one the anxiety they give you about SIDS is unreal

My anxiety went through the roof when I became a parent. I worried a lot and panicked when I was on my own with them but I got through it and you will too. Try to sleep when baby sleeps as honestly being tired makes anxiety a thousand times worse.

Don’t stress too much over the weight gain as I was told the centiles are based on bottle fed babies so breastfed babies always show lower on the centile. I breastfed two of mine and the third was breast and bottle. The third one definitely weighed the most due to the bottle feeds and was always spot on in the centile charts (before anyone jumps on me, I’m not saying bottle fed babies are large!).

Hopefully in another few weeks your medication will kick in and you’ll start to feel less anxious.

 

[Crazycatlady18]

I am sure there are great HVs out there, but most of my friends have really, really suffered with them, esp with first births. You sound like you're doing really well, all things considered. I haven't got a baby (I wish I had!) but I'm sure I'd be completely the same. Everyone seems to have a "I poked my kid when she was a baby to check she's okay" story about their really healthy six-year-old.

Also you're TOTALLY fine to join in! This is a space for being kind to each other and venting!

Thank you! How are you feeling? X

My anxiety went through the roof when I became a parent. I worried a lot and panicked when I was on my own with them but I got through it and you will too. Try to sleep when baby sleeps as honestly being tired makes anxiety a thousand times worse.

Don’t stress too much over the weight gain as I was told the centiles are based on bottle fed babies so breastfed babies always show lower on the centile. I breastfed two of mine and the third was breast and bottle. The third one definitely weighed the most due to the bottle feeds and was always spot on in the centile charts (before anyone jumps on me, I’m not saying bottle fed babies are large!).

Hopefully in another few weeks your medication will kick in and you’ll start to feel less anxious.

Thank you. Hope you’re ok x

 

[Jadejones9596]

Hi all

Serious Anxiety sufferer here, I’ve just started dating a guy for the first time in 10 years, in that time I’ve been very unlucky and mistreated

I’ve now started getting feelings for this guy after 5 weeks of dating but my anxiety is raging, I’m overthinking everything and terrified he is changing his mind or will lose interest or even has lost interest. Advice or insights appreciated, has anyone else experienced something similar?

 

[Suzesnooze]

Thank you! How are you feeling? X


Thank you. Hope you’re ok x

I'm going through a good patch at the moment thanks (but it never lasts!!)

 

[Dwightschrute]

Hi all!
Anyone tried any CBD oils or gummies etc that have helped with anxiety? Or even things similar to Kalms or Rescue Remedy

My anxiety is at an all time high at the moment and can’t seem to get a hold of it. I lost my mum 15 months ago and my anxiety has just got worse and worse since then. I am going to speak to a professional in the new year but wondered if there’s anything good out there that might take the edge off over Christmas!

Lots of love to you all xxxx

 

[Bananabadger]

Hiya, the Holland and Barrett Jacobs one is good

Feeling very anxious about it all this morning, wishing you all a peaceful Christmas Day. Spare me a good thought, I need it!

 

[aouc23]

Hi does anyone get anxiety after drinking on a weekend ? I drank with my partner yesterday (Sunday) in a pub and we got a bit carried away, we had a great time but I’ve woken up this morning working from home today absolutely hating myself and riddled with anxiety/hungover. My hearts been beating fast and feels like it’s been pounding all day. I think because I’m in a new job role and I ended up getting carried away it’s made me feel bad but I beat myself up so much over everything wrong I do Now today I’ve ended up binge eating, having a bad day working and will have stomach pain through to tomorrow now. It also makes me not want to ever go in that local pub ever again even though I know I didn’t do anything wrong.
Does anyone else get this?

 

[allyouneedislove]

I get this all the time after a night out. Even when I’ve had a good night and haven’t made a fool of myself I still wake up with dread. I think it’s quite common. Hope you’re ok x

 

[georgiecait]

Alcohol is a well known stimulant for anxiety. If you didn't have it before, perhaps it's the change in job and now anxiety is accelerating it to be full-fledged anxiety?
What sort of alcohol was it out of interest.

 

[GiftedNotFree]

Does anyone else suffer with season affective disorder? I’ve got usually manageable generalised anxiety which I can cope with (mostly). But at this time of year -well, since November!- SAD makes my mood / general well-being absolutely horrendous. I feel awful every single day, even when I try and be as proactive as I can to combat the symptoms. I’m literally counting down the days until it’s light at 6pm again……

 

[DoctorWho]

Hi does anyone get anxiety after drinking on a weekend ? I drank with my partner yesterday (Sunday) in a pub and we got a bit carried away, we had a great time but I’ve woken up this morning working from home today absolutely hating myself and riddled with anxiety/hungover. My hearts been beating fast and feels like it’s been pounding all day. I think because I’m in a new job role and I ended up getting carried away it’s made me feel bad but I beat myself up so much over everything wrong I do Now today I’ve ended up binge eating, having a bad day working and will have stomach pain through to tomorrow now. It also makes me not want to ever go in that local pub ever again even though I know I didn’t do anything wrong.
Does anyone else get this?

yes hangxiety is a real thing! I get it horrendously but never bloody learn