Alivia D’Andrea

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Sigh. So she's "redoing" the newest "season" of "glow up diaries".

1)That's what you get for pretentiously calling your vlogs episodes and seasons. TV shows have seasons and episodes, because they are all scripted, structured and pre-made before release. She's just making it up as she goes.
2)She'll do anything not to include content warnings and reassess her toxic and outdated attitutes towards mental health. And her weird little fans will attack anyone who dares say something critical.
 
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I'm very much confused by her new video that's 12 seconds long called "My weight loss transformation." Like, we've seen your episodes girl... and your instagram posts. We get it. You lost weight.

I mean she wrote a comment talking about how she's testing out YouTube shorts? (which is supposed to be like TikTok?) But, I'm pretty sure you've always been able to post short YouTube videos so I'm not seeing how this is a new feature. She also could've chosen any other subject besides weight loss like a short trailer/announcement about the new redo season of her Glow Up Diaries.
 
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She uploaded a redo of her "season 2" intro, shortly deleted it, now it's up, but the comments are turned off. Girl... If you don't want to take people's opinions, sure, but just stick to what you do then, don't be like this.
 
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I forgot that I subscribed to her and decided to have a look at her content again: It's literally a pro ED account.
Every video is about weight, food or something that relates to them. And it will not change with this *newly edited* season 2.

She needs help, but I don't think she will get any - her mentality isn't the same as Eugenias, but her content is the same if not worse. She is being manipulative to her young audience.

It's hard seeing so many young girls and guys be manipulated into thinking this type of relationship with food and weight and her obsession with eating disorders is normal. I want to stop this content, but I don't know what we can do.
 
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This girl annoys me so much. I had BED for 7 years, I found the first season of glow up diaries relatable but now that I am recovered I find her videos unwatchable. Seeing her binging and talking bad about herself makes me too uncomfortable so I don't watch her anymore but I saw this "how did I go from this to this" short on my front page so I clicked on it and I just snapped lmao. I wouldn't mind her content existing out there on the internet because showing your ED behaviors and recognizing them as unhealthy will help other people who struggle with the same thing not feel alone but my issue is that she doesn't do it. It's not the old footage that does harm but the present one. Thinking that you can push through BED using strong will or a specific diet and achieve your "body goals" is a damn lie that everyone who has BED believes in and that's exactly what she's selling! I do not wish her to relapse but her content will keep her viewers stuck in the binge-restrict cycle and it's sad to watch.
Now when it comes to this yt short, it made me so mad because her journey was so long and ugly yet she decided to post this little video "how did I go from this to this" like she didn't spend years binging and restricting. No mention of a mindset change, just pictures of her body. Because apparently, the goal of recovering from an unhealthy relationship with food is getting a new body and not a new mindset. I literally saw comments saying "ok but tell us how did you do it", obviously these people aren't going to watch hours of her crying and talking bad about herself on her channel, they will just think it was a flawless and linear weight loss journey and she's proud of it. Disgusting
 
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I watched Alivia's new intro to season 2, and I am concerned and confused. For a moment I was hopeful when she said that the being harsh on herself wasn't sustainable, which is great messaging for anyone suffering with debilitating mental health problems. I mean, if we could all will ourselves into great health we wouldn't need doctors and there would be no disease in the world! There certainly wouldn't be a need for dieticians, recovery groups, therapists, etc.

However, Alivia then spoke about how the issue is that we didn't see how she was "too soft" on herself at the beginning. She seems completely unaware that she was likely having brutally harsh thoughts behind these "soft" ones: you cannot speak of treating yourself like garbage, and then claim that you were being kind to yourself. People don't have low self-esteem because they're "too nice" and "too soft" on themselves. Yet the solution for Alivia, according to this intro, was to simply integrate being "a flower" and "steel", and thus becoming a "flower with steel on the inside." I'm intrigued as to what this means but also concerned that it could well be the original ED-esque messaging tied up in a new bow that could be very triggering; self-parenting and self-love don't really go well with terms like "being made of steel". Also, Alivia chose to emphasise Goggins and that PT's strict diet regime in her first version, so I don't see how she can change that truth (as an aside, that PT makes me cringe every time I see him on YT - Obesetobeast did a great breakdown of why he's not necessarily great).

This is all purely speculative, of course, and I have no idea what Alivia's thoughts are. I am not a therapist. I say all this because I have long-term recovery from mental health issues, and part of staying well for me is trying my best to see and breakdown these sorts of messages so I don't become unconsciously triggered. I don't have an ED but, like most women, find that diet industry messaging triggers unhelpful thought patterns.

I was wondering if it was wrong of me to comment about Alivia on this forum as she seems quite fragile in a lot of ways, and I don't want to post things that could harm her. However, I know that she is attracting a lot of followers with EDs who might need to look for safe spaces that are highlighting some of the disordered, triggering messages in her content. Looking at this forum, it's clear that this the case. I also forget that Alivia is older than she looks - she sometimes looks like a teenager - and I think that's why there aren't many active forums or discussions about her content. Holding an adult content creator accountable is very different to holding a minor accountable. I really hope that as season 2 unfolds, members on here can have helpful discussions that can provide some support ❤.
 
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I like the new episode a lot better than what she did originally for S2, it feels a bit more like the first series.
Her editing style is really good, I like the way she chooses to present things so creatively.
 
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I've caught up on the first three episodes of the new and improved glow up diaries. Some thoughts:
- the overall editing and flow of this series is way better this time around. Alivia is a very talented lady, that is for sure.
- in episode one, I got really excited because I thought she was going to say "every time you see this sign, take a moment to check in with yourself because these topics can be triggering". Instead it was a check in to "hydrate" and an advert for a water bottle she will be selling.
- on that note, it really does feel much more commercial than the first version. There's a lot of glow up merch. Episode 3 was literally one third intro, one third Skillshare ad, and one third new content. Not mad at Alivia for running her business, but it does leave me feeling a bit strange...
- Alivia added a trigger warning at the beginning of episode 2, yay!...
- ...but she then gave a quick shout-out to why therapy wasn't her path and why it doesn't work. I want to touch on this for a sec because this is my biggest problem with Alivia's content: she is dishing out advice everywhere and posing as something of an expert through experience - she is paid a lot of money by sponsors to influence people because she is highly influential - so she is not merely "sharing her journey". Slating therapy is a bad move, especially as it's not something she has ever actually done to any significant degree. Therapy can work, but it a) takes time, and b) can sometimes be difficult to find the right therapist and the right treatment. There are a tonne of different therapies and therapists out there! The way Alivia talks about therapy reminds me of when addicts refuse to go to treatment programmes because "they just don't work for me".
- I think the ED talk is a lot less, but I don't have an ED and am not an expert, so the content may actually be a lot more triggering than I realise. I will say that whilst the notes to hydrate seem harmless, I'm wondering if there's an ED-esque narrative underlying them because one of her tips is to "always drink water when eating a dessert". You don't need to satiate your appetite with zero calorie liquid every time you eat something on your "naughty food" list.
- Alivia says that experiencing pain when cutting a pineapple demonstrates her low pain threshold. Not sure if this is building to her Goggins makeover later on, but there are scientific studies indicating that people with high anxiety levels have lower pain thresholds, which could well apply to Alivia.
- overall, I appreciate that Alivia does seem to have taken much of people's feedback on board.

Would love to know what other people feel about the series thus far.
 
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Hey guys, just reading all your comments- and I have to say I agree with most of it. I really enjoyed the Glow Up series so far and was looking forward to the new season, and I must admit that I get where a lot of the critique comes from, but also that it might be really unhealthy for her to hear because it is clear that she takes it very personally. My two scents, and maybe this is harsh, is that she still has issues but they come in a different form than what they used to. When the new series started again (the episodes that got backlash) she was open about sitting inside for days without sleep or food or taking care of herself because she was editing. The reposting and deleting and just behaviour in general online to me shows that even if she did a 180 with her diet, she still seems like a girl with very low self worth and perfectionistic traits that are at an unhealthy level. She is really good at editing and creating content but she does not practice what she is preaching. I think at this point she needs to just either go for it and publish consistently until the series are done, or just let it be. I get the impression that the series isn't something positive for her anymore, rather something she feels like she needs to perfect before posting because she does not want backlash.
 
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Hey guys, just reading all your comments- and I have to say I agree with most of it. I really enjoyed the Glow Up series so far and was looking forward to the new season, and I must admit that I get where a lot of the critique comes from, but also that it might be really unhealthy for her to hear because it is clear that she takes it very personally. My two scents, and maybe this is harsh, is that she still has issues but they come in a different form than what they used to. When the new series started again (the episodes that got backlash) she was open about sitting inside for days without sleep or food or taking care of herself because she was editing. The reposting and deleting and just behaviour in general online to me shows that even if she did a 180 with her diet, she still seems like a girl with very low self worth and perfectionistic traits that are at an unhealthy level. She is really good at editing and creating content but she does not practice what she is preaching. I think at this point she needs to just either go for it and publish consistently until the series are done, or just let it be. I get the impression that the series isn't something positive for her anymore, rather something she feels like she needs to perfect before posting because she does not want backlash.
I agree with all of this. I really wish Alivia had worked with a registered dietician who specialises in binging and/or weight loss. It could have been a really nice middle road between therapy and a weight loss programme. That Steve guy is a total hack, and did not ultimately help her get to the root of what's holding her back elsewhere in her life.

Alivia is definitely a very talented woman, and I wish her all the best. As problematic as her messaging is, I don't think she's doing it to be exploitative or harmful. Most influencers seem to peddle rubbish half-assed products and content as quickly as they can for as much money as they can get. If Alivia was in it for the money, she'd have already finished Season 2.1, topped off with a host of spin-off episodes and streams of Insta content. The amount of money she has already made is likely eye-watering, but the amount she could make with her views would be insane. I hope Alivia can learn the wisdom of "done is better than perfect" because when she does, she will absolutely fly.
 
I've just started watching her latest video, lord knows why.
Firstly that quinoa is surely undercooked but anyway why does her voice give me haunted vibes lol
 
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