Adjusting to living with partner — help!

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Ughhh he’s just informed me that, “you do realise I’ll eat all of your chocolate if you just leave it in that cupboard?”

I’ve bought low sugar chocolate from Boots, why can’t he just not eat it?! I literally said, can you not even help yourself? And he said no, he simply can’t help himself, he’ll plough through it all, and I’ll just have to get used to it.

It’s like 3 bars of chocolate and some little wafers, it was four things for six quid lol. I like to keep stuff like that in the cupboards. Why can’t he just NOT EAT IT?! Seriously! He’s a grown man?

I’m going to KILL HIM! 🔪
omg lol. tell him he better replace it ASAP if he's gonna eat it!!
 
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It’s definitely hard to adjust haha. It’s also weird when you start living with someone new after being in a long term relationship with someone else. My partner now is bloody great and we don’t really wind each other up however having been with my ex for a decade, I’d got used to his annoying little idiosyncrasies and habits around the house, and it’s been weird getting used to someone else’s! It will settle down though. Although the food thing would drive me bonkers!
 
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Ughhh he’s just informed me that, “you do realise I’ll eat all of your chocolate if you just leave it in that cupboard?”

I’ve bought low sugar chocolate from Boots, why can’t he just not eat it?! I literally said, can you not even help yourself? And he said no, he simply can’t help himself, he’ll plough through it all, and I’ll just have to get used to it.

It’s like 3 bars of chocolate and some little wafers, it was four things for six quid lol. I like to keep stuff like that in the cupboards. Why can’t he just NOT EAT IT?! Seriously! He’s a grown man?

I’m going to KILL HIM! 🔪

He definitely wasn't just joking with you? If not that's totally uncool in my opinion, he's just being a head.
 
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My husband is a chocolate addict!!!! I’ve started hiding bits round the house for myself so I’m not let down when I want something nice for my tea in the evenings 😂 Ive hidden creme eggs behind the spices in the cupboard, kinder bars in the tea towels 😂😂😂😂 he never goes in them places hahahahha I sound like a lunatic but I know he can’t help himself eating them and then I get the last laugh when he sees me eating them 👌🏻😂
 
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My husband is a chocolate addict!!!! I’ve started hiding bits round the house for myself so I’m not let down when I want something nice for my tea in the evenings 😂 Ive hidden creme eggs behind the spices in the cupboard, kinder bars in the tea towels 😂😂😂😂 he never goes in them places hahahahha I sound like a lunatic but I know he can’t help himself eating them and then I get the last laugh when he sees me eating them 👌🏻😂
Cleaning cupboard for me 😂😂 can’t wait for that creme egg later!!
 
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My husband is a chocolate addict!!!! I’ve started hiding bits round the house for myself so I’m not let down when I want something nice for my tea in the evenings 😂 Ive hidden creme eggs behind the spices in the cupboard, kinder bars in the tea towels 😂😂😂😂 he never goes in them places hahahahha I sound like a lunatic but I know he can’t help himself eating them and then I get the last laugh when he sees me eating them 👌🏻😂
My mum does this, hiding her favourite treats from my dad - they’ve been married nearly 40 years and he still hasn’t twigged, it really does work! :LOL:
 
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I might have an unpopular opinion here but I would probs say you and your boyf need to have a serious conversation about this all. You will always find things your partner does slightly annoying (mine slams all doors at all times) but it’s very early on in your living relationship to be finding it so highly annoying. I’ve lived with my partner for about 8 years and found the first couple the easiest as it was the honeymoon stage and living together was just the most exciting thing ever 😂 he needs to respect your boundaries but also change his behaviour if it’s really boiling your blood - could it be that he just has no idea how it’s making you feel? Communication is key!
Also we are in a lockdown / wfh environment so i guess things will most likely improve when both of you can have more space but I’d be discussing this properly like adults before it progresses into something more. Just my two pence 😁
 
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I might have an unpopular opinion here but I would probs say you and your boyf need to have a serious conversation about this all. You will always find things your partner does slightly annoying (mine slams all doors at all times) but it’s very early on in your living relationship to be finding it so highly annoying. I’ve lived with my partner for about 8 years and found the first couple the easiest as it was the honeymoon stage and living together was just the most exciting thing ever 😂 he needs to respect your boundaries but also change his behaviour if it’s really boiling your blood - could it be that he just has no idea how it’s making you feel? Communication is key!
Also we are in a lockdown / wfh environment so i guess things will most likely improve when both of you can have more space but I’d be discussing this properly like adults before it progresses into something more. Just my two pence 😁
We definitely do need to have a proper chat about this I think, he’s doing my head in again today. We have had hardly any quality time together for the last few months, it’s all been quite stressful and fraught I suppose with a few big life events. We’ve been together about 3.5 years and seem to have lost any of the fun stuff we used to do, now it’s all just become really domesticated stuff which was never “us” and I think I’m finding it really hard to adjust. Starting to wonder why I signed a year long agreement tbh 😢 feel like perhaps I’m not cut out for living with a partner!
 
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We definitely do need to have a proper chat about this I think, he’s doing my head in again today. We have had hardly any quality time together for the last few months, it’s all been quite stressful and fraught I suppose with a few big life events. We’ve been together about 3.5 years and seem to have lost any of the fun stuff we used to do, now it’s all just become really domesticated stuff which was never “us” and I think I’m finding it really hard to adjust. Starting to wonder why I signed a year long agreement tbh 😢 feel like perhaps I’m not cut out for living with a partner!
Don’t be too hard on yourself! This is a tough time for everyone and doesn’t necessarily mean your relationship is doomed. I’d have an honest chat about the compromise needed and why don’t you suggest doing one nice big thing a week with each other to keep it fun? My boyfriend and I do this every Friday night - even if it’s just a takeaway / fancy dinner with no phones, bath together, doing a workout together (not my idea of ‘fun’ but it is actually hilarious depending on the workout) etc. Xx
 
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I might have an unpopular opinion here but I would probs say you and your boyf need to have a serious conversation about this all. You will always find things your partner does slightly annoying (mine slams all doors at all times) but it’s very early on in your living relationship to be finding it so highly annoying. I’ve lived with my partner for about 8 years and found the first couple the easiest as it was the honeymoon stage and living together was just the most exciting thing ever 😂 he needs to respect your boundaries but also change his behaviour if it’s really boiling your blood - could it be that he just has no idea how it’s making you feel? Communication is key!
Also we are in a lockdown / wfh environment so i guess things will most likely improve when both of you can have more space but I’d be discussing this properly like adults before it progresses into something more. Just my two pence 😁
Yeah, I disagree based on personal experience... Easily the hardest part of my relationship was the moving in part. It was horrible. There was no honeymoon phase; just two very opinionated, very different adults trying to merge our lives together. But you're right that sensible conversations need to happen and compromises made.
 
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Me and my boyfriend moved in together 2 months ago, we’ve been together a year. The main thing is just adapting and accepting other people do things differently and were brought up differently. Me and my boyfriend were actually having this discussion the other night and we asked eachother if we know what we know now about eachother would we move in? And we both said yes and there wasn’t anything we didn’t like. Mine said to me that he was shocked how much I do the washing 😂😂😂 and I said well if I didn’t it would all pile up. (He lived on his own for years and took his washing to his mums) he would rather save up the washing to do at the weekend which baffles me, as I’d rather keep up with it during the week. He’s really good and will sort out a problem straight away, we moved in and the gate was broke, fence was loose and a few teething problems and he knew exactly what to do and just did it, we both have different strengths and we know that, we’ve never had an argument at all in a year we might have a sarcastic word but end up laughing in the end and that’s what it’s all about, not every day is going to be fun and exciting when you’re at work (and in a lockdown!) but I think it’s worth it just being together. (🤢🤢😂😂)
 
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I’m so glad I found this thread. My partner moved in with me in January so that we could form a bubble with his mum and support each other. We drive each other mad tho. He went back to his last week. It doesn’t help that he’s been out of work since September (he does a very specific job which has been affected by covid and brexit), I work from home self employed and until a few weeks ago I was homeschooling my ten year old son. Lockdown also hasn’t helped as there’s no escape, no places to visit etc
I’m now sat questioning our entire relationship. I don’t want to make any rash decisions due to extenuating circumstances, but now he’s back at his we can’t see each other until lockdown ends.

I don’t like to generalise but I just think men and women are so very different. I just cannot fathom how their brains work.

My partner also skips breakfast and lunch most days as well then gets to teatime and gorges himself on way too much food.

It’s been helpful to read everyone’s comments
 
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