2023 plans

[candyland_]

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with settling for someone that ticks boxes. I have had many relentless men wear me down too but they end up being shit in the end.. Should have went for a nice one that I wasn’t overly bothered about

 

[OatMatchaLatte]

Finish writing my book. I started at the end of last year. I am terrible for starting things and not following through. I'm determined with this one.
Continue establishing and respecting my own boundaries. I've been in therapy for over a year now, and I'm really starting to feel better for it. And related to that, continue to improve my communication, not avoid confrontation at all costs.

 

[Lalalalaaaaaa85]

Lovely idea bettyboo. I want to lose the weight I’ve gained since starting anti depressants and hopefully meet mr Right

Marcus is on the market Beaut

 

[candyland_]

I’d like a no spend January but I already have things pre booked.
I’ll be cutting takeaways down to one a month and stopping the ‘pop in/top up’ shops i do far too often though.

 

[JSquared]

Aww thank you, I know you're right, just so bloody fed up of waiting and falling for the wrong ones

I know what you mean. I tried to live my ‘best single life’ but always felt something was missing. When I finally gave up on finding someone, that’s when Mr JSquared came along. He was very persistent and wore me down

 

[Sibz]

- Go on a nice holiday somewhere, either Greece or the Canaries, haven't been abroad since 2019

- Stop mucking about waiting for the perfect man and just settle with one who'll have me

 

[Sibz]

Never ‘settle’. No such thing as a perfect man/woman but you will find someone who is perfect for you. It happens when you least expect it. I was single 4 years before finding my guy and he was in front of me the whole time. Good luck for next year x

Aww thank you, I know you're right, just so bloody fed up of waiting and falling for the wrong ones

 

[MM85]

Mainly practical things for me, I need to learn to drive as that will help me no end, and to get a second job to top up my income, and hopefully move to a new rental property that I can better afford.

 

[Gymhoned]

1) Make more friends/social contacts. I have found myself feeling lonelier than ever the past few months: I think a combination of the pandemic, friends having babies / settling down & not being interested in doing anything/ meeting up anymore (radio silence now from those who constantly messaged about doing stuff when they were single ), & moving to a new area and wfh, so never in the office, haven’t helped.

I also find that living in London means that every few years, as friends either move back to their hometown or elsewhere in the country (due to obscene living costs), I am in this same predicament, having no one to do stuff with, so I need to find a long term hobby so I don’t find myself in this position again in 2026!

2) Linked to the above, join a book club/Meet-up group, badminton/tennis club. Things I am interested in but I waste time surfing the net instead of doing something more productive and beneficial.

3) Put myself first: I have become a lot better at this over the last few years, but I am going to improve on this in 2023. I am far too lenient with some people, and put my happiness and contentment in other people’s hands, so will continue to work on this aspect this coming year.

Yes i live in London and use Meetup. Its wonderful. Mine was mainly hiking groups. I met 3 good friends all London based and now a partner of 3 plus years. Its been a slow but more importantly consistent process. Making connections does take time and patience. I also made friends with neighbours and moved jobs and kept a few friends a long the way.