Jake's behaviour reminds me of my first ever boyfriend. His family all knew about me, my family knew about him, his close friends knew about me, my close friends knew about him, but to the outside world, it was like I didn't exist. He didn't post about me on SM and I didn't post about him. And I later learned that was because he was out flaunting himself about to all and sundry, cheating on me left, right and centre, without these girls knowing about me. I was young, naive, and looking back I think I was vulnerable. We were both very young, each other's firsts in fact.
I'm glad I got away and wised up. It's made me stronger today. The irony is, that years on, I often get a Facebook message every few months telling me how much he loved me and still does, and how stupid he was back then down to his age. I don't buy it, of course, that ship sailed years ago.
Point is, Jake was in his thirties, and it seemed he continued this behaviour, despite being a father. He was a player.