Just wanted to put an alternative take on all the baby comments out there...
I've had 3 babies and each time I never felt the need to be prepared, nurserys ready, house all stocked up nor did i feel the need to only focus on the impending birth.
It didnt mean I was in denial, nor didnt love my baby nor did it mean i was under any illusion that my life would change & my house might be a little untidy.
I just dealt with it in a low key way.
I have a nice house with nice things, and my kids didnt slobber, shit or wreck everything the way people seem to be putting out as a given. Not saying this is always the case...but in my experience my kids didnt do this.
What im just putting out there, is a different approach/ perspective that people have when having babies.
We aren't all the same...some feel comfort in being incredibly prepared...some people arent overly bothered.
I was pretty laid back, knew my husband could get us anything we needed - but appreciate others aren't.
I also sent my sister to buy lots of the baby stuff. I knew she would love this...i knew i wouldn't. And it wasn't a precursor to not bonding with my children. I just knew she had the time & interest ...& I didnt.
Just a different pov from me.
Men are just as capable.
I dont think we should be putting her down for taking time out & doing fun things before her baby comes.
Just find it really surprising the attitudes from women on the roles & expectations of other women - in particular pregnant ones!
I've had 3 babies and each time I never felt the need to be prepared, nurserys ready, house all stocked up nor did i feel the need to only focus on the impending birth.
It didnt mean I was in denial, nor didnt love my baby nor did it mean i was under any illusion that my life would change & my house might be a little untidy.
I just dealt with it in a low key way.
I have a nice house with nice things, and my kids didnt slobber, shit or wreck everything the way people seem to be putting out as a given. Not saying this is always the case...but in my experience my kids didnt do this.
What im just putting out there, is a different approach/ perspective that people have when having babies.
We aren't all the same...some feel comfort in being incredibly prepared...some people arent overly bothered.
I was pretty laid back, knew my husband could get us anything we needed - but appreciate others aren't.
I also sent my sister to buy lots of the baby stuff. I knew she would love this...i knew i wouldn't. And it wasn't a precursor to not bonding with my children. I just knew she had the time & interest ...& I didnt.
Just a different pov from me.
Also...just wondering why there seems to be such a focus on Nikki doing these tasks? Why does she have to do the traditionally 'womens' tasks of cleaning, shopping tidying?
Men are just as capable.
I dont think we should be putting her down for taking time out & doing fun things before her baby comes.
Just find it really surprising the attitudes from women on the roles & expectations of other women - in particular pregnant ones!
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