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I found Tiffany when I was diagnosed with cancer in April. I was diagnosed with stage 4 (initially I was told it was a pre cancerous mass that would be removed via an easy surgery, then was diagnosed stage 3 and then stage 4 within 4 weeks) lung cancer (never smoked).

sometimes she rubs me up the wrong way, usually with the baby voice. But I think it’s unfair to judge her for being in denial. I think she was in denial. As was I at first, but she is grasping it now.

sometimes I think stage 3 is as hard as incurable stage four, because you have the hope of a cure but the anxiety that it’ll spread further and become incurable, atleady at stage 4 I know my fate and everything I do is to prolong life not save it.

there are many people on these threads on their own cancer journey but there are many who aren’t. And what I will say to those who aren’t, isthat you will never know how you will act after a cancer diagnosis, the rollercoaster of emotions is unbearable. The medication makes it even worse,mine sent me into complete psychosis.

I have (had) a very close friend who was my main support system.He is deeply religious and tried to convince me prayer would save Me. No matter how many times I told him my cancer was incurable hetold me to be positive and ignore facts. He said bad things about my doctor and told me they are there to drag me down and I shouldn’t trust them. He almost convinced me…at a very low point where Ifelt helpless I started to pray and read the bible. I refused to Google my cancer or listen to the doctors.

I have been in treatment non stop and continue to take entrectinib but 4 weeks after finishing chemo and radiation a tumour in my liver has grown 40%. I told my friend I need to go back on active treatment, he asked me am I sure, should I not give my body a chance to heal.

i don’t have time for that. I’ve made the hard decision to remove my absolute best friend from my life and the pain is indescribable.

we never know what people are saying to Tiffany, her friends, family, Matt could all be giving her hope. Throw in religion and it’s a recipe for disaster. I do not blame her for ending up in this position, it’s very sad. I don’t think matt will everunderstand the gravity of cancer and that it cannot be healedvia God.Amma is also in denial as she can’t face losing her daughter. This all rubs off on Tiffany who is clearly a people pleaser. I wonder if she was truly happy to watch and wait or whether it was Matt pushingfor this.

sorry for the long message, I am still coming to terms with my own cancer, watching Tiffany has been difficult but I can’t seem to look away.

I hope everyone on This thread is doing well, I know many face cancer themselves or their loved ones which is how we ended up watching Tiffany in the first place. I think her YT is almost a cry for help, she cannot talk to family about the realities as they’re all in denial. She’s seeking the public instead

sorry for any typos, I am tired!

I have to say that her obsession with the fact she is apparently so much younger than other cancer patients is really quite offensive.
She has mentioned this in many videos, the fact that when she's in the waiting room at the hospital everyone around her is old.
I was 49 when diagnosed with breast cancer, I turn 50 in a week and I don't feel like the "old" person she refers too.
It's almost as if she is saying that it's more unfair that she has cancer than someone my age. I completely disagree, getting cancer at any age is entirely unfair.
It has broken my heart to see young children at the Marsden dealing with the same scans and procedures that I have, but equally seeing a frail pensioner doing the same is just as heartbreaking.
She needs to realise that if she she is putting "Cancer" in her video titles then fellow cancer sufferers will be watching, therefore a little compassion and tact is needed.

I think some people have just turned genuinely nasty on here. She might be an annoying moron but she's a young woman with cancer who is clearly struggling, to minimise this because some of you are too blind to see the visible tears because you want to have something to pick at stuns me. And to try and say she isn't suffering because she can post a couple of tiktoks, really?? There are people with cancer who are still working, who try and complete bucket lists. One minute it's not believing her because she's not laid up in bed and then it's scolding her when she gets help with things from Amma.

It's a shame because this thread used to be a good place to unload honest feelings which we could no longer do in her comment section, now I feel like it's a place full of fruit loops with conspiracy theories.

Honestly her videos make me even more confused. Darling Matt talks absolute shit, I'm convinced he's not all there. She's says it's grown, then she says it's come back, then she says the surgeon wants her to live her life without surgery, then she says 12 hour surgery, then she says multiple days, then she suggests the surgery will only go ahead *if* it's cancer, then they say it's in the colon and wasn't before. Like honestly, 3 of you in there for over an hour and you still haven't got a clue what the fuck you are talking about? At this point I really don't think she's manipulating, I think the lot of them are just thick as pig shit and don't have a brain cell between them. It's terrifying.

They are seriously under the impression they'll just chop it out then it's gone and no more scans or tests. How do they still not understand this is not how cancer works? A surgery this extensive and you think it's once and done? Fucking hell. How can anyone be this in denial?

Comments are currently being monitored and deleted in real time. Fucking despicable that they're on there protecting their cash cow but can't spare 30 seconds to pin a fucking update.

chelmstead67 said:

Does anyone else here struggle to feel proper sympathy for Tiffany because of what seems to be her wilful ignorance (not to mention Matt's)?

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No. Whatever you think of her, this situation is absolutely unimaginable and noone should ever have to go through it. It's horrific beyond belief and as much as we can all try and imagine, none of us can truly know the depths of terror and despair she will be in. I am absolutely heartbroken for her and her behaviour doesn't take that away at all. I don't know how anyone wouldn't to be to be honest. Really sobering tonight seeing it actually all sink in for her. Truly harrowing.

Where have all the newbies suddenly come from@. Go and leave the comments on her YT page! This s a gossip forum. You will be very hard pushed to find anyone who wishes ill on Tif any. Questioning her behaviour is not trolling. We are all relived she has actually got the surgery and from here in wish her a speedy and full recovery. For the live of god though, don’t come on here being preachy. You are in the wrong place.

Tiffany made a mistake and didn't edit it out - look at the expiration date (November 30). So it's a proof the vlog was filmed a week ago.

I really hate that I'm commenting here. I've been following Tiffany for about 9 months but lately more and more alarm bells are ringing so I found this thread. I just never assumed Tiffany would have a tattle thread. Anyway, what brought me here are these things:

- her eating issues are becoming more apparent, especially because she was told to gain weight. She's known about surgery for months now so she could have been gaining weight for months. It's not that difficult to gain weight if you are using nutritional drinks properly. There are so many fattening foods she's not eating.
- (something petty) the white nail polish despite her sister encouraging her to get another colour. I'm just mentioning this because it shows how nervous she gets about the unknown
- her awkward relationship with Matt and the weird repetitive interactions they have (I'm very autistic and even I can see this)
- she is taking the sick role and reverting to childhood habits which is understandable given her situation, but her vlogs are hard to take seriously. She is never urging subscribers to know the signs of bowel cancer and get checked etc. She is not really raising awareness or being encouraging to others going through cancer. She only mentions encouraging others if she's trying to sell her jumpers
- I've become very confused about her treatment story. I was with her 100% when she was having chemo and radiation, but nothing makes sense any more. She is not having the right emotions to surgery being so delayed. I would be angry and in full on self advocacy mode if a doctor delayed my surgery, wrongly told me to watch and wait, left me without treatment for months and still can't give me surgery date
- when you are in pain like that, you take your meds at home, get a banana (or something) to fill your stomach, lay down with a hot water bottle and keep fluids up so you don't dehydrate. Where have her water bottles gone? Why doesn't she know how to take her medication, alternate between paracetamol and ibuprofen and stronger meds when necessary? Why is Amma having to syringe her meds? I am the same age as T with health issues. The idea of my mother syringing my meds is foreign to me
- why doesn't she have a GP? A few vlogs ago when she visited emergency last, she talked about not wanting to see her GP becayse they don’t know what's going on. A GP should be part of her medical team and know everything about her. She should be checking in with a GP every couple of weeks/ at least every month for the additional support she needs that her specialists can't offer and to get additional referrals to allied health
- why doesn't she see allied health professionals? A physio could have helped her learn basic strengthening activities. A dietician could have been helping her gain weight and keep it on. She should be getting psychology or counselling.

Well I didn't think I'd be writing such a long post and I really feel bad about it. I just have so many questions that so many others here are asking and I hope she can prove us all wrong, get through the surgery and become cancer free. I really want the best for her.

Oh wow check out this comment

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Hey Everyone, I know most of us are going to get upset & angry the more we hear/read about comments of her followers sending her checks & gifts. I find myself getting so upset when I read that the comment were that one person a check and telling Tiffany Amma and Matt to go on a trip (must have been a big check!) I was surprised that I was all worked up about this stranger on YT.
I’m going to focus my energy on my loved ones and donating to charity.
I’m not going to watch any of her videos until after January 10. By then she should have had some type of sx or not. I’ll also take a break from here on Tattle. I hope you all have a great holiday season!! Stay safe!! You guys have been soo funny!!!

Tiffany says "Hopefully after the surgery my vlogs won't be about cancer anymore".
Like they're about cancer NOW

Hi all, this if my first post on this particular person. So, embarrassing disclaimer - up until recently I was a HUGE fan of T, would defend her till the cows come home etc.. (no I'm not the fluffy fox person but I wouldn't be surprised if a screenshot of one of my posts showed up on here). But things have really really started to irk me and reading through some of the previous threads I feel like I need to post to get some of this off my chest - as clearly I'm not alone in my thinking.

1. I HATE how she keeps trying to tell us she is trying to protect Amma by not having her visit in the hospital or attend appointments. Is she that deluded?? Does she actually think that when Amma isn't at the hospital, she is out living her life as if nothing ever happened and this whole thing is just a dream? Does she actually think it's better for Amma to be at home by herself? Ffs, how cruel. All I can picture is that poor woman sitting at home crying her eyes out waiting until it's OK to visit her own daughter.

2. Her diet. Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not surprised someone with cancer would lose weight, especially one involving the GI tract. But, if eating was truly out of the question, she wouldn't go on and on about needing to eat more, and wanting to eat as much as she can to gain weight. If her surgeons say to her "You need to gain weight" and she knew she wasn't able to, she would be saying "you need to provide me with some form of nutrition because eating orally is not an option." She also keeps offering her food to everyone else "amma you have a hash brown" or "matt you have a bite" .. it's like she has some funny thing about eating on her own, or eating something that others aren't?

The other thing about her diet - I'm so over hearing her say she wants to eat things that are not going to upset her tummy, then eats things like fucking croissants, fries and hash browns (fat and grease) OLIVES (salt is an emetic), dairy, coffee and tea (tea has tannins which will cause nausea on an empty stomach. Like all the foods you never eat when you have a stomach bug.. wtf happened to plain toast and crackers? The hospital even gave her toast, but she said "I think I just want a hash brown to be honest" - At 11:20 Her food choices just don't seem to be what someone suffering severe nausea would want.

3.. The way she talks like she's on repeat. Honestly her videos could be half the length they are the way she says the same sentence over and over .. and then pauses .. and then says it again just in case we missed it the first time. The 'Tea with Tiffany' ones are brutal.

4.. The way she keeps thinking we're "expecting" a video so she has to get one up. Wtf.. no we're not. No one expects a video from her, anyone would understand if she could't upload. And no one would expect post surgery videos. Does she think we love her that much? I don't get why she struggles to work out how to update us. She uses insta stories, surely Matt can just update us that way? Why does it have to be edited youtube videos.

Thanks for letting me vent. I think I'll be a regular here.

I'm sorry but I'm not buying it. She's in pain and vommiting so instead of going to the hospital to meet with doctors who can help her she decides to go home? It's obvious to me that she just didn't want to hear what they'd say during the appointment concerning her surgery and this was her excuse to bow out. You could see from her expression after the first appointment that she didn't want to go through with another. I think Amma is right and it was the anxiety over what she hard in that first appointment which made her vomit. Tiffany didn't want to see any more doctors so she decided to go home thinking they'd all just reschedule around her with no issue as though they aren't all busy people who are literally saving lives. Those doctors probably had a hard enough time being available for that appointment as it is and then Tiffany goes and pulls something like this and is surprised when Matt tells her that the receptionist thought skipping the appointment was 'not good.' At the end of the video she even says that the surgery needs to happen ASAP with no mention of the fact that her MEETING WITH THOSE DOCTORS needs to happen first!

Hi! This is my first post...sorry if it is a bit of an essay. I have been following the threads on here as well as Tiffany's videos and I wanted to interject on the food and eating issue. I do think people need to be open to the fact that Tiffany might have an eating disorder. For context, I am not a professional expert. I am however very familiar with the signs and symptoms and how they present themselves because of multiple experiences in my family. I apologise in advance if this post is triggering for some people.

• In early videos of Tiffany's she would post videos of herself eating food (Mukbangs, I think you called them!), often mentioning how long she had gone without eating (all day, 8 hours, etc). When this becomes a pattern, I do think one could assume she might be restricting her food intake, only to later "reward" herself with high calorie food seen in her Mukbangs. Most people find time in the day to eat something, and most jobs permit us to take lunch breaks etc. I have had days where I didn't eat because I've been busy or stressed but (even now) Tiffany always talks about how long it has been since she last ate and I do not think this is reflective of someone who is trying to maintain or increase weight gain.
• She generally posts a lot of videos about food: without actually eating much. In one of her earlier videos posted during lockdown (not linked), she boasted about how much she had been eating, then immediately stood up and turned to the side to check out her side profile (flattening her clothes against her stomach etc) which I thought was really off, and something she would have chosen to edit out, but also quite normal behaviour if you have had a difficult relationship with food for much of your life. I also find it hard to believe that someone who was eating non-stop would maintain such a low weight as the maths does just not check out. I appreciate her cancer may well have had a role here, but these people have often gone through much of their lives exaggerating about food and what they eat, but if you were to spend a day with them, you'd soon see they ate very little for meals, if at all.
• Tiffany has been told she needs to put on weight for her surgery. I think it is entirely possible (or probable) to assume that her cancer could be resulting in weight loss. But nevertheless she continues to talk about food all the time without really eating much. Notwithstanding the times when she is forced to fast because of scans, she constantly talks about how hungry she is, but she is almost always in a situation where there is no food e.g. in the car. She talks about what she will eat, but we don't really know if she does it when she gets home. If you had a lifeline thrown to you like this I really do think you would have a constant supply of high calorie food on you at all times.
• Even when presented with food, Tiffany uses extremely restrictive language around food. When offered food by her family, she often emphasises how she just wants a "tiny" piece, or how she "won't finish" something, or even how she "can't/won't/shouldn't" or is worried she will "overeat". The overeating comment was actually taken from one of her most recent videos, and she quickly corrected herself. But then why include it in the video?

I think it is very likely that eating might cause Tiffany pain and perhaps she is not transparent enough about those symptoms, so maybe this post of mine is unfair or presumptuous. Perhaps I am being really unfair. However, I do feel that her language around food, her size, and her behaviour are all very characteristic of someone with disordered eating, and this is something I have also seen in her earlier videos, from before she was diagnosed. She could well have been affected by cancer then too (albeit unknowingly) which could have affected her weight, but I don't think it would account for her overall relationship with food which I would argue has been unhealthy for years.