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candyfloss99 said:

What did he actually say? I can't make it out.

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Clive is far from perfect but I don't actually think he was being nasty to her, I think he was joking with her and he was trying to jokingly tell her to stop recording. I think he just talks like that. I would say he has been telling her a lot to cut back on the filming as she hasn't filmed nearly as much recently and she spent the whole trip from arriving to showing the room to going for dinner with the camera out. I think he has said to stop and she has put the foot down and pointed out "they are only there because of her following" or similar and he has had to just grin and bear it but that's him trying to hint at her and you can see that when he looks down at her and asks what she is doing.
I may be completely wrong of course and he may just be a prick
Also on the subject of his drinking, do we know what support or help Clive has been offered through this. I would imagine if you manage to marry a beautiful, young, slim, successful, confident woman like Jemma (not trying to inflate her ego but she would have been a catch for him I'm sure) and you have 3 beautiful babies and a wee business going then you get told your wife has terminal cancer, how do you cope? I know mens mental health in Northern Ireland in particular is horrendous and there is a massive stigma to a man looking like he can't cope, especially when he is faced with the reality every day that very soon he will HAVE TO cope, I can't really say anything about him sinking the pints as I know that's quite a common coping mechanism. From the outside looking in we can see the big picture and how unsafe it is but put yourself in his shoes there for a second and it must be a horrendous place to be

lucy66 said:

What did she mean about some random woman sorting a nurse out for a week?

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She said a random woman had sorted out meals for a week for her family. Girls, I am all about calling out s####y behaviour, and I don’t suffer fools gladly, but this girl is dying… remember all the abuse Bowel Babe got, she was ‘faking’ it etc, as someone who had witnessed a good friend pass recently, from a similar illness to this one, rational goes out the window, desperation and fear set in, let’s not be too quick to judge? This girl is leaving her three children behind, she will miss all the landmark events in their lives, there’s no love greater than a mummy’s, having witnessed first hand, the absolute devastation a cancer diagnosis and outcome, I can’t help but feel desperately sorry for what those children are facing.. it’s beyond comprehension. It makes me wonder if she’s being ‘filmed’ and links are posted by ‘someone’ else? Because at this stage in her palliative care, she will be an absolute torrent of emotion, she believes she can fight this, my friend was adamant right up until her last 10 days that she would win the horrendous fight, unfortunately she didn’t, but I know 100% that a mutual friend met Jemma and told her about my friend, Jemma offered all sorts of creams etc to our mutual friend privately in order to help my friend, no publicity, no social media, nothing… i have not always agreed with how Jemma has conducted herself, I certainly have questioned Clive and his actions, but none of us know what way we would react in this situation?

Ah lads, please don't say this is a lie, as a fellow terminal patient (who at the moment is stable,) couldn't, for one moment, believe anyone could lie about their prognosis.
Thank you for eveone who wished me well etc, I'm stable at moment, until next scan, but for the moment, will enjoy my Christmas, with my family and friends, and will scrape by financially. But you know what, I'm alive, I've my family and that's all that matters xx

So glad she popped on to remind her scummy friends to go after me!! I've never been so popular. 43 friend requests in the last hour. I'm feeling the love . I've enough friends thank you very much

It's very sad, I'll have to unfollow.. as a stage4 patient myself with a young family, I find it so so upsetting

Absolutely heartbreaking. Honestly felt sick to the pit of my stomach when I saw the announcement. Knowing those kids are too young to ever have memories with her it truly soul shattering.

My heart goes out to them all, I hope she is at peace and that her family find the strength to get through the difficult days ahead.

All those people coming out of the woodwork, where have you been for the last 2 years? Why fight someone’s corner now instead of defending her in life? If you know in your heart of hearts what Jemma used the money on then why not come on and defend her and explain?

I’ve never saw one comment wishing Jemma any ill will on here. Trolls are people who are wishing harm on others, who are sending nasty messages to people, bullying them & making their life hell. That has never happened on here once.

Everyone’s question was where did the money go? Why wasn’t the GFM shut down once the Mexico trips stopped? At the end of the day, if Jemma had stated from the beginning that the money was going to medical treatment AND to make life a bit easier for Clive when she passes then there would have been no problem at all. Well not that I can see. I have donated to peoples GFM who have stated the funds were for their family after they leave… to make up for lost income their family will no doubt face due to being off work etc; I have absolutely no problem with that at all. I would have still donated to it personally.

When you ask for donations for medical bills and people donate, then see a lot of lavish and expensive items being purchased even after the Mexico trips stop, those Who donate are entitled to ask questions.

Because the reality of it is, Cancer is horrific, absolutely horrific!! But it effected more people than just Jemma. So when donators saw the designer bags etc, it was a kick in the teeth, as that money could have went to helping someone else who was struggling.
even if she bought the designer bags with her own money… it’s still a kick in the teeth, as if you can afford those kind of things & are needing help with medical expenses, why would you waste that money?
The only way I can put it is, she wasn’t helping herself… it was the public donations that was paying for treatment and the cost of a designer bag wether paid for by herself or not could have gone to helping another person. Those bags aren’t cheap, that could have helped out a family who were struggling financially due to a partner being off work to be a full time carer to the other partner.
This is literally all the people on this post are saying. It wasn’t fair.

GFM needs regulated to stop things like this. People should be made show they are spending the money on. Because now we have a whole lot of people who are reluctant to donate again. And who knows, the person they decide to not donate too could be sitting with an empty bank account due to loss of job and be struggling to make ends meet.

Regardless of what has been done, my sympathies do lie with the family. As they lie with all the other people out there who are battling this horribly disease.

Yes, her kids may read these one day. However, they will never read anyone wishing her badly. Tbh at this stage I was hoping it was all a scam and that she wasn’t dying, regardless of the GFM money, as no amount of money could make up for those kids losing their mummy.

I’ve gone off on a tangent but I really hate that people can’t see that none of us on here wished any of this on Jemma. Quite the opposite. All they wanted to know was why?

Sadsuzi said:

Try us.

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Jemhow#6 send me a fiver and I'll show you my driver.

By the way please do not use this, I am aware it's awful but you did ask

I’m medical and I can’t get over how much she has deteriorated. She looks so frail and is very clearly in a lot of pain. Is the addicted to painkillers? Quite possibly as opiates are highly addictive and she will need increasing doses to manage the awful pain that comes with metastatic cancer. I don’t agree with the GFM and money issues, but this is a 29 year old mum of 3 young children and it is awful to watch. I suspect her Instagram etc is partially a denial of the reality of her situation. I don’t blame her for trying everything. I know I would if I was in her shoes. Trust me nurses and doctors don’t go to someone’s house for no reason.

Lucydowl said:

She’s barely coherent . Whether it’s husband friends or family in conjunction with this hotel they’re all a disgrace. Ugh I’d never stay anywhere or eat anywhere patients with morphine drips hanging out of them have been

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Good. Can’t say I’d want to have someone like you in my company either. Terrible thing to say. Take Jemma out of the equation, people have all sorts of medical equipment to help them lead as normal a life as possible. Not by choice. Don’t think people should stop living their lives for fear of offending or disgusting people like you.

I've had to remove myself from social media today. Every single wannabe bestie, influencer etc all putting up their posts on how beautiful, genuine and caring jem was.

It's all lies! No she shouldn't have had to go through what she did and having had cancer myself I wouldn't wish it on anyone. But she lied! She cheated genuine people put of their honest money, time and time again. Including myself. When some of us were neither financially or physically well enough to do so. I held my tongue on the majority of what has happened lately but the amount of hypocrisy coming from a sad death is astounding.

The truth is she was a selfish girl in life. She was diagnosed with the worst illness and outcome anyone could have, this didn't change her as a person. Instead she used it to her advantage to take with both hands for herself. Not her kids. Her poor beautiful children who now have to grow up without their mother, their role in life and their first love. It's those kids I feel sorry for, not the selfish mother who chose to take more and more for herself than spend her time with her children.

I just wish someone stronger than me and more genuine would call her put and say it exactly how it was. Yes extremely sad but it doesn't take away from the type of person she was.

I really think that a proper investigation into Jemma is long overdue. I would generally never want to add stress to a cancer patient's life, but there are just so many things about her and Clive that do not add up – their various 'businesses', the multiple GFMs and other fundraisers, the advertising, the freebies...it's endless. Not to mention that her updates about her health status just do not make sense. I'm not suggesting that she doesn't have cancer, but I have serious questions about the claims she's made regarding her condition.

How can someone who was supposed to be dead months ago, who regularly claims that she can't walk and has to be carried to the bathroom, be strutting around in heels at every opportunity? How can she so consistently make a miraculous recovery every time she has the chance to go somewhere and then go straight back to being desperately unwell when she has no plans? I understand that cancer patients/chronically ill people have good days and bad days, but I've never encountered anyone who can have those days on such a regular schedule!

I can't speak for Tanya's SIL or her brother but I know Tanya and her husband personally and other members of Tanya's family I can just say the community is absolutely devastated by her loss she really is not in the same league as jem she was absolutely mortified to have to use a fundraising she fought her illness with dignity grace and determination I really thought she would beat it she lost her poor daddy to the same disease she was just a normal girl like done nothing but volunteer and fundraise for all sorts of charities for years before she got sick coached underage kids in gaa was always doing something for others and was a childcare manager and hard worker,please don't think her a conniving begging yoke like jem she really wasnt the area is really really heartbroken over her

I know I'll prob be lashed out of it now and accused of being a family member or something I'm really not I just felt compelled to give a little bit of insight into who Tanya was she really was 1 of the good ones and gone way way before her time

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