You do realise these men use this as a code for sex ? They invite themselves over under the guise of coming to cook you dinner or to have a coffee... it's concerning to me that your first reaction was that he's being tight rather than the fact you don't invite strangers into your safe space that you've met on a dating site. You don't know this man and keeping yourself safe should always be your first thought.So he has now said “What are you on about. I am making an effort. I told you I’d come down to you and cook for you. That’s an effort “
like these men are clueless.
My reply was “yes it would have been an effort and a good first impression if you showed up at my house with a bag of food and a bottle of wine and cooked for me but you then proceeded to tell me to get off my ass and go to Tesco to get the food. And it was only fair that I buy it if you’re cooking it.”
the original plan was bowling and dinner and it’s quite clear now why he didn’t want to do that which is fine. But like seriously.
EDIT: he has now replied “I was only messing about getting the food” - lies. He’s only saying that now because I’ve called him out on this shitty behaviour