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Check your privilege Caroline . You are in your pjs on the couch or in bed numerous days midweek, you can close your work laptop with no consequence to take your son to a pet farm , you had a childminder and a grandparent both helping you this week as well as your husband working from home and on hand to help . Your Mam came up a few weeks ago to help you and cooked valentines dinner for you and Barry . You jumped on a plane home to Mammy last week where she cooked for you , ran you baths while you sipped Prosecco and cried on her shoulder . Meanwhile the rest of the adult population are juggling full-time jobs , parenting , kids with additional needs , health issues , financial issues etc , many with no help .
Stop recording your gorgeous little boy and moaning about how hard he is to parent. Imagine the damage to his self esteem in later years if he came to know that his mother recorded his every move , including him taking a bath and told thousands of complete strangers on a daily basis how difficult he was and how much he affected her mental health .

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I feel for whoever has to assess him.

Obvious autism traits or not, it's certainly not an easy clinical picture - There is no doubt that SO many of his traits have come about due to his environment. Right from the get go he was treated as not "right" - For the most normal of behaviours such as not sleeping through the night at a few months old, the fact he didn't like his hair washed as a toddler and didn't like baths. And she's still doing this now - Commenting that he was afraid of a pressure washer, always reinforcing these fears to him, it was the same when he was scared of the dog, which he is now fine with. She's always made his fears into a big deal and made it harder for him to get over them, even though she may believe she is trying to help him, by making them into things, it just is completely backwards and not the appropriate way to help children navigate these issues.

He's had next to no access to socialising with other children, has been kept cooped up in a house all day every day with one adult who has a financial interest in portraying things a certain way and who has no respect for his privacy, who kept no routine in place for him, doing this, then that, and giving him everything but normal appropriate experiences for him. Buying him a double bed then sleeping in it with him, then complaining she didn't like co-sleeping and acting like she resented it towards him. Constantly reorganising and redecorating the house so he's got no consistency, which she says he really needs and struggles not having.

She'd take him to Botox appointments over play dates, has constantly filmed him even in his most private moments, sharing about his potty training and God knows what else to tens of thousands of strangers, then profiting off it. Going on holidays which were completely non engaging for a toddler and wondering why he was challenging. He was bored as fuck. Keeping him in baby bottles with the colic inserts and tiny bibs way past when he needed them, and not encouraging him to develop into next stages.

I dunno, it's a terribly sad situation. Yes he likely has autism traits, and autism absolutely is a condition and is not learned behaviour but let's be honest, you could put the most neurotypical-brained child to ever exist into this start, and they would not develop well.

Watching this entire car crash as a late diagnosed autistic adult with my own child is awful yet I can't look away sorry this post got very long.

Hibernia said:

Her advice for travelling with "offspring"

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C should have his own substack on travelling with cunts - I’d sign up for that

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He was due for school last September

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I think this will always infuriate me. I’m glad I don’t know them personally because I don’t think I’d be able to sit back and let her treatment of that little boy go on. And I’m not surprised that Caroline has fallen out with people over her “parenting” (and I lose that term very loosely) because she is just so, so bad and is so enabled by her Mam and that doormat husband that she is so unaware of the damage she has caused her son and continues to cause. There will literally be no end to it. That poor boy will be 14 and his Mam will still be posting pictures of them holding hands on the couch when he’s unwell because she just is so clueless and selfish.
I genuinely think, and as harsh as it sounds, that if Caelan was born to different parents then he would be a totally different child who would be encouraged to grow and integrate and not be limited to fit a constant narrative and money making scheme, sold off to anyone who’s willing to subscribe to a substack. It’s absolutely gross

Rant over. Apologies. Caroline just does my fuckin nut in

If they were my folks I'd piss on the couch too

Not to moderate (and as the parent of an autistic child I may be more sensitive to this), but can we please be more aware of how we speak about C here. He's a young child that will very likely read what's been said about him in a few years. "He's the most autistic looking child I've ever seen" etc is a vile way to speak. Whether he is or not shouldn't be up for debate, we can't diagnose him here nor should we.

Back Caroline the cretin

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To recap:
Caroline's still a moanbag.
Runs, sorry flies to Kerry to her Mammy at the mere whif of a difficult parenting phase, but cannot seem to recognise her dependance on her mam mirrors her own sons attachment to her (?) For all the time she spends looking in the mirror, she has little self awareness.

Her mammy's up and down from Kerry like a whore's knickers, cooking Caz and the wet blanket Boring, sorry 'Barry' Valentines dinner, tidying her cutlery drawer (Caroline's much too important to do it herself) then brushing Caroline's hair

Caelan won't sleep, won't eat, won't bathe, won't go out without sunglasses, and is afraid of cows, he's highly sensitive you know.
Oh and the dog had to go because of him, guys, he's highly sensitive.

The stress of parenting such a highly sensitive child means Caroline gets limited time by herself asleep during the day, but she manages a same same makeup routine and upmarket stylish outfit daily. She still has a nice house, has no pressure to return to work apparently to cover the bills, has a childminder, has local helpful grandparents, and a mammy who still wipes her arse. She broadcasts said highly sensitive child's every issue for her followers, cos it might help one mammy and that's much more important than the child's privacy, of course.

Did I miss anything?

I posted here a while back wondering what all the bad comments were about and initially wondering what people thought of the random Palestine/Isreal posts thrown in between makeup videos etc. It didn’t fit and I’ve been following things since. Unsurprisingly these have fallen by the wayside. I always found the anxiety podcasts helpful and have a “difficult/sensitive” aka normal toddler so I felt I could relate to Caroline but I haven’t been able to bring myself to listen to any new ones with the latest shenanigans. And as i push through difficult phases with my child it becomes more obvious how she is holding him back. I hate to say that, every parent is doing their best but dear god, keep him offline and send him to preschool.
Pot plants and candles have been removed from my house.
I barely get a minute to p*ss nevermind take a bath.
Makeup - I forget what this is.
Time to hair curl - well that’s a real treat.
Brunches, events and dinners are a thing of the past.
Calling her followers c*nts and the likes is disgraceful.
The way she portrays the poor child is dreadful.
Getting a whole new engagement ring is so superficial and feeling sorry for all the other husbands because they will be inflicted with the same irrational request… Not in my world.
The whole thing is bizarre and possibly sad, she’s either on a downward spiral or taking some poor influencer advice, either way it looks like it will go t*ts up.
How can you be so mean about your child online, ruthless with followers and expect this to end well.
I literally have no family to help out and she’s so lucky but ungrateful she has her mother and mother in law. This one hits to the bone for me.
Every post lately is just uncomfortable to watch. I’ve been following her for years so i’m not quite ready to pull the plug but I might have to soon.
Unbelievable.
Also feel sad her in a way but definitely for the child. Hopefully he gets a second chance at preschool before he’s thrown to the wolves in primary. And talk of a second is so delusional.
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I think Caroline is the epitome of ‘a little knowledge is a dangerous thing’. She has styled herself as an anxiety expert and consumes tonnes of anxiety-related content, but doesn’t have the education or professional training to actually apply this knowledge. So when it comes time to parent her little boy, she just sees possible ‘anxiety’ and ‘triggers’ everywhere and is so afraid of ‘traumatising’ him that she indulges his every whim. She doesn’t seem to see the harm she’s doing by being so permissive, or understand that not every negative emotion a toddler has is something to be avoided at all costs.

The way she speaks about C ‘just needing to control what he can’ (like insisting she can’t change out of her pyjamas), the logical response there is to teach him he cannot control those things. It’s hard (I have a toddler too), but just requires some consistency and riding out the meltdowns to teach them how the world works. She has applied her very loose understanding of anxiety to all of these (very normal) toddler behaviours and has ended up in a mess of her own making. I do feel for her in some ways because she means well, but this is why you can’t become an accredited psychologist via Instagram

Imagine being the mother of a beautiful little 4 year old boy and the REAL love of your life is your mother. This is everything that is worn with Caroline. She does not love her son. And is a perpetual child herself. Being privileged enough to go and spend a weekend being babied by her bother isn't actually enough for her. She has to gloat and flaunt it all over Instagram. She may as well just tell the world that she really HATES being an adult and a mother and is really really bad at it all.
We all would love a break from life for a little while but this woman, it feels has just had a mental breakdown and left her family to be mollycoddled by her mother who is doing her a huge disservice participating in this shite.

I've worked with ECE age children in numerous different cultural contexts. I've worked with little ones of all ages and backgrounds. I actually now work as a teacher trainer, helping newly trained teachers. Everything she has said is bullshit it goes against standard guidelines
She.is.the.problem.
I actually hope she sees this and takes stock. I'm not a troll. I'm fiercely concerned for her and her son.
Let him experience some discomfort
That's a part of life
Let him settle into an environment before whipping him out before he's had time to settle
Caroline you are doing your child a massive disservice
You are so afraid of him ever being upset or afraid but that's an important skill to develop.
You're not allowing him to develop at all if you swoop in every time he cries.

Guarantee if she had a job to get to each morning and didn't have the time to be standing outside the room pandering to this nonsense it would stop sharpish

It's fucking demented how much the brother looks like Barry. Closest thing she could find to riding herself was getting a hubby lookalike

Ok I have no idea why, but Caroline's tv choice looks TINY! It reminds me soooo much of the scene from the American Office where Michael is showing off his amazing new TV

I don’t know if he’s autistic or not but she’s hell bent on self diagnosing something for that little boy from the internet. And the chopping and changing of stuff to try and “fix” him without him actually being diagnosed with anything is exhausting, no wonder the poor child is overwhelmed and confused !
One week it’s ostepath, then switched to play therapy, and then he’s pulled out of that for some other therapy instead , now she’s trying some unproven whispering to him in his sleep method. One week he’s pulled off dairy , the next week he’s taking supplements she ordered from America . She went from dumping him at the door of a childminder and running away with no goodbye to sitting in the same room as another childminder for the duration of the time he was being minded . She flicked from sleeping in his bed every night because of separation anxiety to fucking off the Kerry away from him for 3 days to be minded by her Mammy and sip Prosecco . And the fact that all us strangers know all this about that little boy is disgusting !!! instead of chopping and changing between methods of “fixing “ him maybe just consistently parent him and keep his life private !!!!!

I’m an actual psychologist with an actual PhD and I cannot stress enough how batshit and without evidence this Goulding method is. Proper woo-woo nonsense and I have second hand embarrassment that she continues to promote it… she’d be as well off reading him the back of her make up bottles in the middle of the night for all the good it’s doing him

I can't imagine meeting a specialist and having my child assessed and being told i need to do ABC in the best interests of my child. Then thinking hmmmm now's a good time to go away for the weekend!?! Is it just me?

Multiple instances during the year of laying in bed in the middle of the day midweek while her mother / inlaws / childminder/ husband whoever looked after Caelen because she was overwhelmed at the slightest thing. Having the luxury of being able to cancel work commitments at the drop of a hat . Barry working from home to look after Caelen , with a childminder there as well , while she films herself doing her makeup. Her mother travelling up from Dingle to stay and help when she finds parenting the slightest bit hard or being able to get in the car and travel down to be minded by her parents and sit in the bath sipping Prosecco . I’d say that’s all pretty much putting yourself first !!. I don’t know many of us who have the luxury of being able to do any of that even once!!!