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Check your privilege Caroline . You are in your pjs on the couch or in bed numerous days midweek, you can close your work laptop with no consequence to take your son to a pet farm , you had a childminder and a grandparent both helping you this week as well as your husband working from home and on hand to help . Your Mam came up a few weeks ago to help you and cooked valentines dinner for you and Barry . You jumped on a plane home to Mammy last week where she cooked for you , ran you baths while you sipped Prosecco and cried on her shoulder . Meanwhile the rest of the adult population are juggling full-time jobs , parenting , kids with additional needs , health issues , financial issues etc , many with no help .
Stop recording your gorgeous little boy and moaning about how hard he is to parent. Imagine the damage to his self esteem in later years if he came to know that his mother recorded his every move , including him taking a bath and told thousands of complete strangers on a daily basis how difficult he was and how much he affected her mental health .

If they were my folks I'd piss on the couch too

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To recap:
Caroline's still a moanbag.
Runs, sorry flies to Kerry to her Mammy at the mere whif of a difficult parenting phase, but cannot seem to recognise her dependance on her mam mirrors her own sons attachment to her (?) For all the time she spends looking in the mirror, she has little self awareness.

Her mammy's up and down from Kerry like a whore's knickers, cooking Caz and the wet blanket Boring, sorry 'Barry' Valentines dinner, tidying her cutlery drawer (Caroline's much too important to do it herself) then brushing Caroline's hair

Caelan won't sleep, won't eat, won't bathe, won't go out without sunglasses, and is afraid of cows, he's highly sensitive you know.
Oh and the dog had to go because of him, guys, he's highly sensitive.

The stress of parenting such a highly sensitive child means Caroline gets limited time by herself asleep during the day, but she manages a same same makeup routine and upmarket stylish outfit daily. She still has a nice house, has no pressure to return to work apparently to cover the bills, has a childminder, has local helpful grandparents, and a mammy who still wipes her arse. She broadcasts said highly sensitive child's every issue for her followers, cos it might help one mammy and that's much more important than the child's privacy, of course.

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I think Caroline is the epitome of ‘a little knowledge is a dangerous thing’. She has styled herself as an anxiety expert and consumes tonnes of anxiety-related content, but doesn’t have the education or professional training to actually apply this knowledge. So when it comes time to parent her little boy, she just sees possible ‘anxiety’ and ‘triggers’ everywhere and is so afraid of ‘traumatising’ him that she indulges his every whim. She doesn’t seem to see the harm she’s doing by being so permissive, or understand that not every negative emotion a toddler has is something to be avoided at all costs.

The way she speaks about C ‘just needing to control what he can’ (like insisting she can’t change out of her pyjamas), the logical response there is to teach him he cannot control those things. It’s hard (I have a toddler too), but just requires some consistency and riding out the meltdowns to teach them how the world works. She has applied her very loose understanding of anxiety to all of these (very normal) toddler behaviours and has ended up in a mess of her own making. I do feel for her in some ways because she means well, but this is why you can’t become an accredited psychologist via Instagram

I've worked with ECE age children in numerous different cultural contexts. I've worked with little ones of all ages and backgrounds. I actually now work as a teacher trainer, helping newly trained teachers. Everything she has said is bullshit it goes against standard guidelines
She.is.the.problem.
I actually hope she sees this and takes stock. I'm not a troll. I'm fiercely concerned for her and her son.
Let him experience some discomfort
That's a part of life
Let him settle into an environment before whipping him out before he's had time to settle
Caroline you are doing your child a massive disservice
You are so afraid of him ever being upset or afraid but that's an important skill to develop.
You're not allowing him to develop at all if you swoop in every time he cries.

Ok I have no idea why, but Caroline's tv choice looks TINY! It reminds me soooo much of the scene from the American Office where Michael is showing off his amazing new TV

I can't imagine meeting a specialist and having my child assessed and being told i need to do ABC in the best interests of my child. Then thinking hmmmm now's a good time to go away for the weekend!?! Is it just me?

Multiple instances during the year of laying in bed in the middle of the day midweek while her mother / inlaws / childminder/ husband whoever looked after Caelen because she was overwhelmed at the slightest thing. Having the luxury of being able to cancel work commitments at the drop of a hat . Barry working from home to look after Caelen , with a childminder there as well , while she films herself doing her makeup. Her mother travelling up from Dingle to stay and help when she finds parenting the slightest bit hard or being able to get in the car and travel down to be minded by her parents and sit in the bath sipping Prosecco . I’d say that’s all pretty much putting yourself first !!. I don’t know many of us who have the luxury of being able to do any of that even once!!!

Didnt she get a night nurse in as well from early on? I followed Caroline from early on, pre wedding. Her story of anxiety resignated with me as I had a similar "episode" to her. However, it seems she reveals in this label. Everything has to be tears and tantrums that are blamed on her being highly sensitive and anxious and now projecting on her son. Having experienced extreme anxiety where I feared leaving my house, its something you want to conquer and never experience its debilitating grips again. You work on yourself, seek help from medication, therapy, cbt and keep those practices up. She constantly goes on about how she does not have a therapist and really needs to go back to one. For someone's whos whole brand is managing anxiety and "owning it" she really is a poor spokes woman on this topic. Also- the projection of her anxiety onto her son is worrying. Theres a digital footprint here that Caelan will be able to look back on. Imagine the boy has no diagnosis or even if he does, he will be able to see how his mother dealt with this in real time, the words she used to describe him and the audacity she has to speak to a large audience about it. These things should be done within the privacy of your own family, people you trust. Not to thousands of strangers on the internet

This might be the worst thing she's posted. I feel so sad for her little boy

everyone: working on a Monday morning
Caroline: off to get another tattoo in her rebel mid 30s era

So lemme get this straight - she's an expert on open relationships without being in one, an expert on anxiety without any medical qualifications, and an expert on "highly sensitive" children without a proper diagnosis, is there no end to this woman's talents!? Absolutely full of shit. Morto for wetwipe.

Nobody gives 2 fucks how many breaks you take from your child Caroline , that wasn’t the point of her message ! Stop coming on with your narcissistic mascara streaked selfies with the story that your terrorist toddler makes your life so hard and you can’t do anything because of his separation anxiety , while at the same time you can have a whole 24 hours to yourself to do with what you want after having tattoo appointments, facials , event attendances and 2 luxury nights away with your husband in the last few weeks . Check your bloody massive privilege before you start berating other woman for questioning you trying to spin a narrative but showing a very different reality !!!

Anyone who ever takes a selfie of themselves crying needs a kick in the hole.

Sorry but that child should be in Montessori playing and learning with children his own age instead of being dragged to Botox appointments. She's a disgrace

That child needs to be told NO, why is that such a foreign concept to her
How is this “gentle parenting” crap working out for her so far?
I have a 5 year old and he’s the best behaved kid going, probably because I parent the opposite to what Crazy Caz does.

Imagine searching shops around Dublin for yellow chalk, they’re a pair of wack jobs. Creating a spoiled little shit who rules the roost

Really really hoping someone close to her gets her to stand down from this insanity for a while. Leaving this legacy for her kid - the first time she experienced rage was as a mother? Absolutely dreadful stuff. Does she really think her future child wants his assessment/diagnosis shared? Can she not even stop and think he will grow and change, go to school, have future relationships, most likely a career..and this is the digital footprint his mother has created for him. It will follow him. He has no say or agency, and she seems so focused on how eveverything impacts her, it’s incredibly toxic and shocking. Edited to add as an apparent journalist who suffers from anxiety herself it’s shocking how little safeguarding of her son she does. Is she unaware of the predator elements of the internet/social media? And that maybe sharing the vulnerability of a child is not really keeping them safe. We know way too much about this kid already.

That mother’s instinct to immediately sell the results of your child’s diagnosis to thousands of strangers on the internet before even discussing it with your husband

2bornot2b said:

All of this is so so true. How are the montessori allowing it? With my own son when he started, we hit a rough patch about 6 weeks in. The montessori were fantastic. Wouldn't let him cry for too long, sent pictures to show me he was fine and advised not hanging around that they would settle him. Worked like a charm after a few (admittedly tough) few days. I don't think they would allow all this coming in late malarkey. It just boggles my mind tbh.

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Exactly this! Agree with what so many other posters have said today and yesterday. My little girl is a month younger than C, she's very sociable, has been at crèche for 2 years and did a summer scheme with all new toddlers during the summer YET today she had a total meltdown at preschool. It's our preschool's last day of the "adaptation period" and so parents were encouraged to drop off and leave asap. Teacher advised me to stay a while because my wee girl was in bits. My normally happy, confident, sociable girl was having none of it today and I needed to get to work, unfortunately that is life. When I did leave she had an absolute meltdown and I could hear her crying as I was walking down the corridor and I ended up crying myself which is out of character. But I didn't pull her out, I didn't take a photo for social media, I didn't let her pick up on how I was feeling. My daughter's wellbeing and education are more important than how I feel and I know it is very short term pain for long term gain. Of course part of you wants to scoop them up and run out of there and both go home and chill in your PJ's but what does that teach them? Sorry for rambling but I just think Caroline needs to understand that sometimes these things are hard for all kinds of children / mums / reasons and it is not just HER because she's sOoOoOo special. But most of us realise that the staff are highly trained and experienced in dealing with these situations and as hard as it may be for parents at times, we are helping our children learn about routinue and structure and also that their parents will always come back for them. Rant over.


Ps. Edited to add......and the pancakes! Sure why would you wanna go to school if you can get better treats and outings at home. I despair of her!