Would you tell a friend her wedding guest dress was inappropriate?

[LaLa247]

I’m no wedding expert so I could be complete off the mark here but my friend will be attending a wedding in a sort of ankle length satin cowl next dress in the colour ‘Oyster’ (as described on the website).

I feel awful because when she was showing us the options she had a few weeks ago in the group chat I was at work so didn’t really properly go through the messages when I’d finished, but has just sent another picture of the dress for the wedding this weekend and I don’t think I’d be happy with it at my wedding. I know she’s not done anything malicious on purpose it is a beautiful dress and I think this is the first wedding she’s attending.

It feels too late now anyway, plus it’s not my wedding and some brides really don’t mind. Don’t think it’s really any of my business, but as it’s her first wedding I kind of feel bad not saying anything.

I can post a photo of the dress is the comments if needed - I’m actually hoping you’ll all tell me I’m a twit and it’s fine for a wedding!!

Dress!

 

[Dearreader]

Personally? I don't think it's appropriate for a wedding. In all honesty, it even looks like something I would potentially wear to my own wedding one day(as a fan of a more simpler silhouette)

I don't think you are being a twit either, just trying to look out for a friend. You'll save her a lot of embarrassment and whispers about trying to upstage the bride on the day of.

I really would want a friend to give me the heads up.

 

[Apple In My Pie]

Personally I don’t think it’s appropriate and yes I would tell her on the basis that if it was me I’d need to know

 

[bubbadabut]

In my opinion it's too bridal. It reminds me of Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy's wedding dress.

I would expect eyebrows to be raised if she wore it.

I would tell her - hopefully she will take it well. Have you discussed it with any others on the group chat?

 

[Very traditional]

It's definitely not appropriate and I definitely would tell her! To be honest I'm unsure how she could not realise that herself If I chose something inappropriate and my friends didn't tell me and I wore it and there were bad vibes I'd be mortified and gutted no one had said so it's not being mean to tell her, she needs to know.

 

[Mr Daydream]

I’m no wedding expert so I could be complete off the mark here but my friend will be attending a wedding in a sort of ankle length satin cowl next dress in the colour ‘Oyster’ (as described on the website).

I feel awful because when she was showing us the options she had a few weeks ago in the group chat I was at work so didn’t really properly go through the messages when I’d finished, but has just sent another picture of the dress for the wedding this weekend and I don’t think I’d be happy with it at my wedding. I know she’s not done anything malicious on purpose it is a beautiful dress and I think this is the first wedding she’s attending.

It feels too late now anyway, plus it’s not my wedding and some brides really don’t mind. Don’t think it’s really any of my business, but as it’s her first wedding I kind of feel bad not saying anything.

I can post a photo of the dress is the comments if needed - I’m actually hoping you’ll all tell me I’m a twit and it’s fine for a wedding!!

Dress!

Is that the picture she sent, so she’s cropped it so it doesn’t say the name of the dress and price? I can tell it’s asos from the ‘selling fast’ part and I could bet it’s on the bridal section yes tell her it’s inappropriate

 

[Alexaj]

Inappropriate and if you're a friend you'd tell her

 

[LaLa247]

Thanks all - Just to say it was me who screenshotted and cropped out info from asos! I’d only ever seen the dress in like try on pics she’d taken and tbh it didn’t actually look quite as bridal, but seeing the asos pic actually does make it clearer to me.

I feel dumb to doubting myself now but I’ve only ever been to one wedding and basically wanted people to agree with me before I go have an awkward convo which I’m now off to have - thanks all

 

[Begborrowsteal]

Thats hilarious that she thinks thats ok

 

[Barbie2020]

Yes it is very inappropriate! Definitely looks bridesmaidy/bridal. I don’t feel you should have to tell her though, surely anyone can see that it’s inappropriate?

 

[Pixipoppy]

What’s your friend playing at Thats practically a bloody wedding dress. Of all the colours she could have chosen! I think someone needs to say something.
Edit: unless she knows the bride isn’t wearing a traditional gown and has okayed people wearing white/cream? That’s the only logical explanation!

 

[Mr Daydream]

Please update us what she says and what she chooses to wear instead

 

[LaLa247]

Omg guys I feel dumb for even questioning it now I knew deep down okay

 

[anon0503]

Does your friend not like the bride?

 

[Lola UK]

Omg that is sooo inappropriate it looks like a wedding dress!! Is she actually joking? Has she ever been to a wedding?