Worried about my friend

[cushtybert]

Not quite sure how to explain this but I’ve had a text from my friend who is so upset. The guy shes seeing has kicked off at her in a huge way by text. She made a comment to say that she is traveling down to see her auntie and he said that as the auntie is older she was selfish and could give her Covid and that if the auntie dies then how would she feel then.
My friend is the loveliest girl who is now distraught, I’m not sure what else I can say to her to reassure her. I think he’s an asshole but she won’t hear a bad word against him.

 

[LaurieLaurie]

Does she need to be so distraught over that? She needs to find out why he reacted that way, he may have lost an elderly family member to it.

 

[cushtybert]

Does she need to be so distraught over that? She needs to find out why he reacted that way, he may have lost an elderly family member to it.

I think it’s the way he spoke to her, I can understand concern about Covid but he’s over the top with how he talks to her

 

[LennyBriscoe]

I think if it was my friend, I’d encourage her to decide whether being spoken to badly is acceptable to her. The point of what he’s saying isn’t wrong but she could either point out that there’s no way she’d put her Aunt in danger or she could get a test before she goes - but I wonder if it’s more to do with him not wanting her to go.

There are ways of speaking to people without being rude and if she puts up with it, he’s unlikely to change