Earlier today. Had a bereavement in my family on Friday and still struggling to come to terms with it. Went to see my grandmother and we both just cried and hugged each other
I'm so sorry for your loss. Please remember that there are no rules when it comes to grieving. You just make sure that you do what is right for you. Take lots of care xLast night, been holding it in today. My dad died last week
My thoughts are with you xEarlier today. Had a bereavement in my family on Friday and still struggling to come to terms with it. Went to see my grandmother and we both just cried and hugged each other
I hope all goes well today.Yesterday, just out of sheer frustration of my own fears about a procedure I’m having tomorrow. I know it’s the unknown, it’s the not knowing that’s the worst.
Thank you for your well wishes It was honestly vile but I survived and I’m glad it’s over and done with.I hope all goes well today.
Oh I’m sorry to hear this. Tell him you will be there when or if he is ready to talk and then leave it at that. It’s all you can really do. If you bombard them it only makes things worse but I do think he will contact you eventually - they always do but for now respect that he wants a break and live your life.My lovely boyfriend, who I have had the best relationship of my life with, who has always treated me with respect and been absolutely delighted with me (and the feeling is mutual), consistent and affectionate, has withdrawn and just stopped talking to me. Don't live together. Said he needed "a break" by text. Then changed his relationship status on Facebook like a bleeping teenager, and someone else had to tell me because I don't really use it. Utterly out of the blue, and has since ignored me. I've tried to speak to him (kindly and supportively because I know things are getting on top of him lately and I'd do anything for him) but nothing. It feels like I won't hear ever from him again.
I know his abusive ex wife probably has something to do with it and using his kids against him but I am heartbroken. I was abandoned by both parents as a kid so he knows people just disappearing on me is a major issue for me and its like he's a stranger being vindictive. If he'd wanted to end it he could have talked to me, but this is horrifying. He's done this just after we went away with his friends, so now I get to feel humiliated in front of them too.
My last relationships were abusive and I thought I'd finally met a diamond. I haven't trusted anyone for years and now the person I trust this does this to me. Just the other day he was telling me I'm #1 and how proud he is to be with me. My friends are all baffled, we were that gross couple who were totally mad about each other, but once again I've been proven to be disposable, less than nothing. I'm not sure how someone recovers from this.
Thank you. I know a wall of text doesn't make anyone respond so I haven't. If he's the man we all thought he was he'll be suffering but I've believed a load of tit before. He didn't have to annihilate the last remaining shred of my self esteem on the way out of the door.Oh I’m sorry to hear this. Tell him you will be there when or if he is ready to talk and then leave it at that. It’s all you can really do. If you bombard them it only makes things worse but I do think he will contact you eventually - they always do but for now respect that he wants a break and live your life.
I have been through something similar and it ended up being the hardest time of my life and it made me ill. Sounds cliche but if someone wants to walk out of your life - let them. Please look after yourself.
You aren’t a waste of space at all. This is all on him. Men tend to switch off when they are struggling but I’m sure he will contact you in a few days - it’s worth thinking is this the sort of person you want a relationship with if he does come back.Thank you. I know a wall of text doesn't make anyone respond so I haven't. If he's the man we all thought he was he'll be suffering but I've believed a load of tit before. He didn't have to annihilate the last remaining shred of my self esteem on the way out of the door.
I have to try and work today and I don't know how when I feel like an utterly pointless waste of space.
You're right. It will take a lot for me to forgive this. That a middle aged man couldn't call me to talk at the very least is embarassing. I've been insecure lately but generally I'm pretty easy to talk to (so my friends tell me). I have a lot of very close friends who are also furious with him and I know they will never look at him the same again, and they're very important to me.You aren’t a waste of space at all. This is all on him. Men tend to switch off when they are struggling but I’m sure he will contact you in a few days - it’s worth thinking is this the sort of person you want a relationship with if he does come back.
You haven’t done anything wrong and you do not deserve to be treated like this. This is all on him! Sending you hugsYou're right. It will take a lot for me to forgive this. That a middle aged man couldn't call me to talk at the very least is embarassing. I've been insecure lately but generally I'm pretty easy to talk to (so my friends tell me). I have a lot of very close friends who are also furious with him and I know they will never look at him the same again, and they're very important to me.
All that said, given the wonky way my brain works all I can think is that I've done something horribly wrong and deserve to be treated like this.
Thank you . My parents did me a favour tbf, life would have been worse with them but they've caused a lifetime of mental chaos.@nothanksbabes I’m so sorry to hear this. I feel your pain- although my parents didn’t abandon me (I wish they did) they made sure that I‘ll be struggling with self worth for rest of my life (therapists who know my situation are horrified about what I was put through as a child so it’s not just me being ungrateful).
I know it’s hard but try to pamper yourself and move on, maybe tell to yourself that this is temporary (if nothin else helps) BUT try to avoid any direct or indirect communication. You need to try to get him and his world out of your way. And don’t blame yourself about anything. Whatever goes on in his life is his responsibility, if he chose to walk out on you it’s on him, and don’t try to help him or support him in any way. You need space for yourself now, no updates on how he is or what is he doing. Sending you lots of
Pain at the end of the day is pain. What you're going through is not trivial. Wishing you healing.This is bloody trivial compared to the other stuff in this thread. Thanks for your kind words.
Seconded. Your experience and how it makes you feel, matters. You matter. Take joy in small things. Who ever said that what other people have is what you need? It’s all a matter of perspective - put YOU at the centre of your story. Sending healing hugs on a stormy wind.Pain at the end of the day is pain. What you're going through is not trivial. Wishing you healing.
Come over to the dating after lockdown thread. It isn’t just us going on dates and the woman on there are amazingly supportive for things just like this.You're right. It will take a lot for me to forgive this. That a middle aged man couldn't call me to talk at the very least is embarassing. I've been insecure lately but generally I'm pretty easy to talk to (so my friends tell me). I have a lot of very close friends who are also furious with him and I know they will never look at him the same again, and they're very important to me.
All that said, given the wonky way my brain works all I can think is that I've done something horribly wrong and deserve to be treated like this.