My father in law has been diagnosed with inoperable stage 4 lung cancer, he doesn't want chemo either. My husband is so angry, as been trying to get him to doctors for months, but he never wanted a fuss. He is beyond stoic, and refusing pain meds, even though he is in agony. My husband has depression and past history with alcohol abuse. Anyone have any experience with this, I feel like I'm just saying useless platitudes. Any advice appreciated.