After reading this thread I actually don't know where to begin. Sadly, there are a few times that things have happened to me, I know now looking back that they were not right and if I question myself, actually, I knew they were not right back then when it happened, in school, we had a Science teacher who had MS and was in a wheelchair, very often in class he would just fall asleep. Those in the class who wanted to learn carried on studying and those who had no interest just took that as an opportunity to act out. Sadly I was sat next to those boys who were acting out and no matter how many times I told them to leave me out of it they never did, One day they were really really loud, shouting, swearing and just being idoits and one of them (Who I kinda knew outside school, but not very well) took an opportunity to lung at me and before I knew what was happening his hands were down my trousers and underwear. the desks we had in Science were really tall off the ground and due to all the havoc that was being caused nobody really seen what he was doing. I was trying frantically to stop him but I was also in shock. another teacher came into the room and that's when he backed off but sadly none of that ends there.
I would sad over the course of the next year and leading into the summer I had made new friends from school and would meet up with them to hand out - we had 2 primary schools where we stayed so there were girls I befriended from the other school and these boys all came from the other primary school too and they lived near her, anyway, we all decided that we were going to camp out one night and not tell our parents - not that mine would have really cared or noticed I wasn't there anyway but as the night drew in a lot of the girls decided to head home as it was cold and they were tired ect ect but by this point it was around 3am and I didn't fancy going home to a drunken mum and her partner arguing and fighting so I decided to stay out and head home as soon as it was light. Staying out was the lesser of 2 evils, or so I thought but I was very wrong. I never ever speak of this and I have never told ANYONE but that night I was raped by not one but two of them.
I felt so dirty, ashamed, hated myself and just confused and that it was my fault (please do not reply to me and say it wasn't, I know people mean well but this has been buried for 20 years and after I finish this I wont go there in my head again)
When school started up the boys were in a lot of my classes, they had other friends and all of them would call me names relentlessly, they would write things about me in local bus stops and make my life hell. Some teachers did catch on and tried to help but I just denied it ever happened until one day, they had wrote all over the bus stop about me at the back of my house and "the mother" seen it, next thing I knew I was pulled out of class and questioned, again I said it wasn't true - they were saying I was a slag, I sleep about with everyone ect - when I got home "the mother" belted my up and down the house for the longest time and I was made to show her I was on my period so she knew I wasn't pregnant. There was no TLC from "the mother" ever and she didn't even want to hear anything from me, as far as she was concerned it was all true.
By this time, it was almost the next years summer holidays. I had became really withdrawn from everyone and everything and never wanted to go out, see friends, do anything, my best friend was an N64 in my room my dad had bought me! So, "the mother" decided she needed a break from me and I was going to stay with my dads friends for a few weeks.
She had never set eyes on them as her and mum dad were split up but they were an older couple from where my dad has a caravan, lets call them Pat & Derek, Pat drinks like a fish, I loved going there for bad reasons...Pat allowed me to drink and smoke and if she ever ran out she would jump in the car with me and go get more.....off her face, Derek was a fair bit older than Pat and always seamed really nice at the caravan, they had a daughter a couple of years older than me but she was already living on her own with a baby. Once night after Pat went off to bed drunk, Derek came over to where I was sitting on their sofa and put him hand on my knee and started to move it up, again I froze for a few seconds but quickly said I wasn't feeling well and needed to go to bed too. I can remember shaking like a leaf all the way to the room. Pat & Derek also didn't share a bedroom btw and the room that he slept was next to mine. I remember sitting on the bed clutching my mobile(they had just came out) and wondering who I could call....given that I wasn't close with any of my friends anymore and the way "the mother" was with me I quickly realised I had nobody to call. plus, I was around 3 hours drive away from anyone that I knew. After that night Derek always tried to get me on my own but I stuck to Pats side at all time until it was time to go home and never ever went back!!
Fast forward to when I was 16, I had moved out of the house at 15 as "the mother" didn't want me there, wasn't getting any money for me and wasn't happy I chose to go to college instead of getting a full time job to pay my way and my part time job only covered my travel expenses to and from college. I was dating at 18 year old guy who I ended up living with (and his parents) I then moved away to live with my aunt, I got a job in an office as a jr and one day my mobile rang, A number I didn't know and it was Derek!!!asking me what I was wearing, if it was sexy, would I come meet him sometime. I quickly ended the call and never answered it again after.
I think since then I have always struggled with sex, it makes me feel like I am dirty and causes issues in my relationship and my partner has no idea about any of this, I just keep it all locked away. Sorry this was a long one but that to me was the most terrifying part of my life and I thought it was never going to end