Without giving too much away and outing the industry in which I work .. I'm facing disciplinary after a situation at work today , however , after talking to my husband who's very high up in the food chain as managers go , but a different industry altogether, he reckons they dont have a leg to stand on if they pull me in for various reasons which he listed.. and hes right when he lists the reasons why they can't touch me.. he does disciplinaries and he knows stuff .. but , I'll feel like I'd be throwing my colleague under the bus as technically the onus was on her , .. I only worked with her for the very first time tonight and she is so lovely and I'm not willing to absolve myself of blame if it means she gets the disciplinary, I should have known better too , but because of situations they have nothing on me .. but it doesnt stop me from feeling rotten.. i currently feel like tit because like I say I should have seen it ( the situation that is causing the disciplinary) but I can get out of it .. I'm having a drink tonight as I feel like crap and I dont know what to do ... it's not gross misconduct, but it's worthy of a stage 1 for sure . I dont want that on my record