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slugella

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I wonder if her parents/friends ever questioned how quickly they got together/got married...I know mine certainly would have!
Do you think it was partly because he was American so they could live together? I have no idea if they were already living together or not though just curious!


Venetia is one of the few influencers that I still check in on as I do like her sustainability message. However I posted this on another thread a few weeks ago before I realised she had one..

It reminds me the other day someone commented on one of Venetia Falconers posts asking does she have any sustainable underwear brands she recommends. Venetia replied recommending one, I forgot the name, to which the original girl replied saying thanks but too expensive. Someone else then replied saying why not try stripe and stare (and tagged them). The brand then replied saying oh venetia we are gonna email you and send you some!! ... so another poster then replied like why not send them to the original poster who is ACTUALLY LOOKING FOR SOME. Which I loved to see someone calling them out.

I mean I get it's advertising but it's so frustrating to see. Venetia didn't even originally recommend that brand, and then a few days later she had a insta story of loads of free underwear she got sent from them. I ended up unfollowing her. Considering she constantly talks about cutting down on buying too much, she easily could have said oh i dont need some, I agree send them to the original poster looking for new underwear.
 
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Shutterbug99

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I know Venetia has mentioned in the past that Max always tries to make a better version of anything she cooks - and now, he's gone and included this story in his new book. Do neither of them realise that this doesn't exactly cast him (or their relationship) in the best light? He sounds like a controlling asshole who makes her feel like nothing she ever does is good enough.

And she seems OK with it. Yikes!
 
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Sunburnsjess

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“Missing the countryside”.... what a liar!!! As per Max’s uploads they definitely only just got back when she started posting again. I can’t believe she’s getting away with the rule breaking. Not to mention she has the gall to complain about lockdown when she’s probably spent most of it in her parents massive country home.

And don’t get me started on the Sky TV ad. She’s always ranting about billionaires yet is happy to promote Murdoch owned media?! Okayyy Venetia 🙄 can’t stand how she positions herself as this super woke activist yet she’s just a privileged money grabbing influencer just like the rest of them.
 
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cee-bee

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What does he sister do?
The thing is obviously she doesn't need the money, but obviously thisnis a passion thing however she could easily do less than she does/take a back seat and get someone else to handle the social media as it clearly isn't good.for her
I honestly think a lot of rich people feel guilty? Self conscious? about their privilege/wealth. Our society is fairly socialist and at surface level at least, values meritocracy and purposeful work.

100-60 years ago, a woman in Venetia’s position would’ve been quite proud of being a “lady of leisure” and faffing about at home would’ve been a symbol of status. Now it’s pretty derided and scorned at.

a lot of this shame/self consciousness manifests in social warrior behaviour in women, either that or they give up and adopt a hippy, faux bohemian lifestyle. with the guys, they usually become “entrepreneurs” and cash in on their parents connections/wealth until their business endeavour fails a couple of years later and they move into the next “project”. I know so many of these type of people.

It’s like the the more privileged they are, the more they need to overcompensate. The more they need to show they have purpose. Some people choose slavery and anti-colonialism a la Laura Trevelyan. Some choose environmental/humanitarian activism like Venetia.

I knew the daughter of Jeremy Lascelles, Amy, through an ex boyfriend. She’s 50th in line to the throne but has never really pursued a proper job, has hardly any money and used to have a completely smashed up iPhone because she couldn’t afford a new one. She’s been a PT I think, then turned to making (ridiculous) crystal jewellery.. she didn’t make any money and her boyfriend basically bankrolled her. Her parents bought her and her sister a holiday home in Cornwall that provided most of her income through renting. To legitimise basically faffing her way through life, she adopted this fake hippy, carefree lifestyle (she was in the documentary Prof Green did a few years ago talking about how harmless weed was). It’s all a total act to fool herself that she isn’t entitled, relying on her boyfriend and family wealth and to pretend she isn’t totally lazy.

At the end of the day, they are all just faffing about at home and not pursuing any sort of meaningful career. It’s a way to legitimise faffing about at home without being called out for being lazy. Venetia might post a shit ton and turn up to the occasional protest, but at the end of the day her content consisted of selfies, chatting aloud to herself via her podcast and making coffee in her expensive machine in her huge London flat/now huge country home.

she’s miserable because she has no real purpose in life. The fast fashion cause is great but, I suspect it’s not one she feels as deeply passionate about as she makes out. There are a ton of charities she could work for (voluntarily), and a lot of meaningful lobbying she could do behind the scenes. But that work is long, boring and not glamorous enough for insta.
 
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cee-bee

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It’s sad how many upbeat, successful influencers whose life/content goes to crap when they marry weird man. Deliciously Ella is another one.

makes me wonder how many bright young women have been diminished by their spouse who aren’t airing it happen via social media. Sad to think about.
 
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emm

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I know Venetia has mentioned in the past that Max always tries to make a better version of anything she cooks - and now, he's gone and included this story in his new book. Do neither of them realise that this doesn't exactly cast him (or their relationship) in the best light? He sounds like a controlling asshole who makes her feel like nothing she ever does is good enough.

And she seems OK with it. Yikes!
Imagine making a nice meal for someone and them turning around and just saying "I can do better" it's not even like he says "I adapted it to make it healthier for example. Just I made it better. Ridiculous and also ridiculous that she seems fine with it
 
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cee-bee

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reading this thread has been so interesting.

I followed Venetia about a year ago when i started getting into sustainability (especially with clothing).

pretty much immediately, I got the “ick” from her husband but couldn’t put my finger on why. There’s something super…? Arrogant? Intense? About him.

the daily morning coffee, and the general
Preachiness started to wear on me so I eventually unfollowed. She started doing ads too and I thought… well there are a ton of accounts on here which are people with a genuine desire to be more sustainable/wear secondhand and they do it for love of the environment, not freebies - so I’d rather invest my engagement with their content. And so I unfollowed her.

she also asked for comments on which fast fashion brand to cover with those recipe for disaster things she does. I commented Zara, and got a bit of an abrupt message from her saying she’d done it already and to go check her reels. It felt super off to me - it felt like this was a stressful thing for her, she felt she had to message me for sake of engagement and to direct me to her other stuff.

It wasn’t informal or chatty or even fun - and those videos were supposed to be humorous and fun.

she didn’t say anything bad, but it just struck me as really odd. Like it was a job stressing her out rather than something she actively enjoyed.
It honestly feels like she is a total lost soul who has moulded herself into whichever partner she has at the moment and who has thrown herself into this anti-fast fashion dialogue to try and carve a niche for herself as opposed to genuine love for it. The veganism aspect is just a convenient way for her to restrict food without it being obvious ED behaviours.

Venetia doesn’t look at all well and you can practically see her shrinking/fading away. She’s only 33/34 but she looks so much more gaunt and older to me.

she seems a bit lost and her relationship with max was something of a rebound. She seems besotted with him but not in a healthy, independent way. In a codependent, lack of self esteem way.

I hope she’s ok. She doesn’t seem like a bad person but she really doesn’t come across as especially happy to me.
 
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emm

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I've noticed that Max often seems to be away. She mentions this in her vlogs a lot. I think he spends a lot of time in London. This was even before the book release/tour.

Speaking of Max, did anyone listen to his episode of Desert Island Dishes a few weeks back? He spoke about a relationship he was in when he was 27 - and it sounded like they were planning a whole life together. I mention this because I think a few people have said that he and Venetia weren't together all that long when they got married?

Anyway, it seems like he falls in love pretty quickly. With this other girl, he bumped into her on the street in LA, and said he fell in love at first sight. She was Australian, so weeks later he moved to Australia to be with her. She was five years older than him, owned her own business, and was asking him how he was planning on providing for their future family.

Anyway, somehow in the space of (2?) years this relationship fell apart and he met and married Venetia. Just thought it was interesting as I've never known anything of his background/relationships before.

He said on the podcast that this relationship happened 10 years ago when he was 27, but as far as I know he's 34, so it was more like 7 years, and I think he's been with Venetia for 5 years - maybe 6? I'm actually not sure how long they've been together.
No idea of the orher relationship but I always got the impression that his and venetias was accelerated because of visa issues. Regardless, there is something about him I really don't like. She seems much less positive and much less of herself since they got married
 
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queenfeline

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I used to briefly love her and then she got married and I felt like she became absorbed into this marital unit that was just not my vibe.

Also I knew she came from wealth, but it was so annoying to constantly be preached to about sustainability, slow living etc by someone whose parents bought them their flat in London and grew up incredibly privileged. I also felt like she talked about her privilege, but less of like actual discussion and more of that fake wokeness which is acknowledging it and going ahead and doing what you want anyway.
 
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Chocolate2008

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On her instagram she said she was going on BBC Radio 4 show You and Yours - I have also been on this show and did not get paid.
How does she pay her bills???
I like her, it’d be hard not to I think. But I just watched her latest video and the way she said “fertility privilege” as a new privilege she hadn’t heard & basically must embrace asap irked me. Probably moreso because I listened to the podcast. I very genuinely think that infertility is one of the hardest things anyone can face. I understand that Elizabeth Day feels highly emotional about her own struggles. But it annoyed me when she said that she wants parents to acknowledge that they wouldn’t be without their children when having a moan. The truth is that some people regret having children & some people realise that they aren’t cut out for the responsibilities of parenthood, some people have financial & mental health issues or just plain can’t cope. I dislike the constant talk of “privilege” because it shuts down conversations. Does the poverty striken 16 year old in the council flat who gets knocked up also suffer from “fertility privilege”.

I also find the people that won’t shut up about privilege are often the most privileged of all. Venitia’s greatest privilege isn’t her whiteness, it’s the fact that she’s bloody rich. She can afford to do a fun job chatting about her passions & hobbies - reading, cooking etc, and clearly someone is keeping a roof over her head while she’s doing it and has done for years.

I do admire her for trying & I do think she genuinely cares about the causes she speaks about. I also hope she is ok.
 
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Clover123

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Yes, she's looked gaunt for a long time but this is a new levels of frailness. I get bizarre vibes from her husband, if I were her family or friends I would be hugely concerned tbh
 
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emm

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It’s sad how many upbeat, successful influencers whose life/content goes to crap when they marry weird man. Deliciously Ella is another one.

makes me wonder how many bright young women have been diminished by their spouse who aren’t airing it happen via social media. Sad to think about.
Exactly this, good parallel with Ella ( never loved her) but she made a brand that her husband has basically taken over. Ditto venetia, he has taken over the kitchen etc and a lot of what was her job
 
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Shutterbug99

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I think their relationship is strange, like he just seemed to appear out of nowhere and the next minute they’re married. I do wonder if it was a bit of a rebound thing for her…🤷🏻‍♀️
How long were they dating before they married? I only started following her recently, and while I've only watched a few of her videos, I get the impression she's not very happy a lot of the time. She also seems to be quite hard on herself and seems to think that whatever she does is not good enough. This can't be helped by her husband's behaviour as described in the 'carrot cake' post. He's basically telling her that anything she makes is not good enough and he can do better!
 
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Cocopops123

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Two years difference here, and weight aside she does not seem as happy. She doesn’t really share anything much about her life like she used to, her film making and editing is beautiful but it just seems like her heart isn’t really in it, Her vlogs are under ten minutes always, maybe because of her mental health or that she is bored of content creation, which is absolutely fine. I just miss her vivacious smile and her vlogs. Sending her good vibes anyway, I always thought she seems lovely personally.
 
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emm

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i just watched her latest YouTube video and my GOD she is just so miserable, isn't she? why does everything she says sound like it's such a struggle for her? maybe just like, don't put yourself through it then hun? no one is forcing you at gunpoint to leave your phone at home or watch a movie without scrolling on your phone? honestly it must be exhausting being inside her head jeeeeez
She just doesn't switch off, even.watching a film mainly because the actor is an activist. I also.think if you're so addicted to social media you need to take days off every week this is something you need to look at more than just turning your phone off at weekends
 
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pbjellie

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I've followed Venetia and watched her youtube videos for yeeaars - when she was with her previous boyfriend and through her single period etc. - her youtube videos (now deleted ofc) used to be so full of life and she herself had so much energy and joy for life, it was truly infectious. She was super sociable and always seeing friends/out and about etc.
Obviously there are different times of our lives for different things but this is honestly such an extreme change in personality that it is disconcerting to say the least, her videos now just seem sad and flat, she seems to have lost her glow and love for life.
 
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Just watched her latest video. I haven't watched her videos for over a year now and tbh wasn't even aware that she'd moved out of London. I noticed a huge difference in her. She used to smile a lot!!! She barely smiles in her videos now. Something seems off. Also, I stopped following her on social media because she does a lot of body checking and I found it quite triggering. Don't get me wrong, I love Venetia, but I'm just worried.
 
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millibea

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I wondered this, it annoys me she never addressed it tbh, I kind of imagine it must be that she/her family own it, she never once mentioned a landlord or anything when she already has about her current house. Obviously I don't know how much she has earned across her career, but it is pretty rare for someone of her age to have rented a whole (and clearly expensive) london flat for themselves
Yes I think the thing that irks me most is that she's happy to talk politics and equality when it comes to clothing but then absolutely refuses to acknowledge her own financial privilege in any meaningful way. Both her and her sister had their own Chelsea & Notting Hill flats since they left uni and even if they were on good salaries there's no way they'd be able to afford these so I'm pretty sure they were both bought by their parents. The family also bought a London flat when Venetia was at school at St. Paul's I think, so they've always had various properties. Would be very funny if Venetia was a landlord. Not quite on brand for her hahah
 
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emm

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I think about a year but it was long distance. I agree that she doesn’t seem happy, it doesn’t seem like she really enjoys what she does.
I agree, I think the marriage was probably sooner than it woudl have been because of visa issues. I hate when influencers, who make their living on social media, complain about how damaging it is when they are literally the ones who contribute to the damaging nature of it
 
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