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I'm all for women doing whatever they want to do with regards to working/not working etc but I really feel like as a society we're going backwards. Not that it's bad if women want to stay at home and look after the home, children etc but the idea that the women doing this are taking a submissive role in their relationship - oh no honey no! I'm also seeing that it's linked with the far right - eeeek.
I think it’s followed by the kind of women who jump on any old bandwagon for attention. They’ll only do it for 5 minutes
On a serious note I had a friend many years ago who followed a similar regime and told everyone how wonderful it was (the surrendered wife?) and how she really rated it- she defended it to the hilt. She’s now single after a horrendous divorce and has now admitted he was always abusive and controlling and the surrendered wife thing was one of the few things she did that made him happy with her.
On a serious note I had a friend many years ago who followed a similar regime and told everyone how wonderful it was (the surrendered wife?) and how she really rated it- she defended it to the hilt. She’s now single after a horrendous divorce and has now admitted he was always abusive and controlling and the surrendered wife thing was one of the few things she did that made him happy with her.
I mean women should always do what they want and I do know quite a few women who seem to be waiting for the day they can pack their job in to take care of their kids and husband however I also feel like there's so much more to life than that. Yes, having children and a family is important but why does it have to take over a woman's entire life/identity?
My mum was a traditional wife. Never had a job until maybe 5 years ago and she always says she regrets not looking earlier but she didn't have time to pursue a career and when she did have time, her qualifications seemed outdated in the modern technological world. She was grateful in the sense that we were very comfortable but she wishes she was someone other than a wife and mother and I worry my friends will have this realisation later in life and end up resenting their kids/husband. The thought of it may be nice but the everyday living won't be. Working men or men in general can be thoughtless and inconsiderate. Raising kids is not a job, its a whole new lifestyle and I think that in itself is very hard for people to wrap their heads around. For example, if its the woman's job to raise the kids, when does she get time to herself or is she expected to 'on the clock' 24/7? I've heard so many accounts of men who do not want to look after their own children after they get in after work. I've seen men refer to looking after their kids as 'babysitting'. This mindset is toxic and outdated.
My mum was a traditional wife. Never had a job until maybe 5 years ago and she always says she regrets not looking earlier but she didn't have time to pursue a career and when she did have time, her qualifications seemed outdated in the modern technological world. She was grateful in the sense that we were very comfortable but she wishes she was someone other than a wife and mother and I worry my friends will have this realisation later in life and end up resenting their kids/husband. The thought of it may be nice but the everyday living won't be. Working men or men in general can be thoughtless and inconsiderate. Raising kids is not a job, its a whole new lifestyle and I think that in itself is very hard for people to wrap their heads around. For example, if its the woman's job to raise the kids, when does she get time to herself or is she expected to 'on the clock' 24/7? I've heard so many accounts of men who do not want to look after their own children after they get in after work. I've seen men refer to looking after their kids as 'babysitting'. This mindset is toxic and outdated.
My thoughts pretty much agree with what's been said above. As a feminist, I think all women should have the opportunity to follow whatever life path makes them feel the most fulfilled and satisfied. If raising kids is your calling and you're happy to be at home, great. But that choice sure as hell ain't for everyone.
I get concerned with the trad wife movement when these people assume that having a wife at home is the "best" set-up for all families and all women. Some people can get a bit holier-than-thou about it. I also hate the narrative that women are "naturally better" at raising children. That mindset is totally outdated, discounts fathers as equal partners that can be nurturing and empathetic, and lets men get off the hook for having to do any parenting.
And this should go without saying, but I am very wary of any lifestyle (or subgroup within a lifestyle) that encourages women to be super submissive. A marriage should be a partnership where you work together as a team and play off each other's strengths. It should never be a weird power imbalance where the woman is less than and told to get rid of any independence/individualism.
I get concerned with the trad wife movement when these people assume that having a wife at home is the "best" set-up for all families and all women. Some people can get a bit holier-than-thou about it. I also hate the narrative that women are "naturally better" at raising children. That mindset is totally outdated, discounts fathers as equal partners that can be nurturing and empathetic, and lets men get off the hook for having to do any parenting.
And this should go without saying, but I am very wary of any lifestyle (or subgroup within a lifestyle) that encourages women to be super submissive. A marriage should be a partnership where you work together as a team and play off each other's strengths. It should never be a weird power imbalance where the woman is less than and told to get rid of any independence/individualism.
My Trad wife life has changed! I'm being sent back to work 
I'm going to be doing a 16 hour day once per week from next week. Wish me luck 
I'm going to be doing a 16 hour day once per week from next week. Wish me luck I have no issue with women being stay at home mothers / housewives if it's their choice. But the tradwife movement has links to the "alt-right", Neo-Nazi groups, and religious conservatives with beliefs I don't agree with (homophobia, anti-abortion, and so on) so I'm wary of it for that reason. I also dislike the trend of influencers like "Mrs Hinch" who claim that women are "naturally" fulfilled by cleaning and staying at home
Trad wife movement is dangerous. It has its roots in white supremacism and romanticises a time period before women's liberation. The movement as a whole is flirting with the fringes of the alt-right as they push very Christian-centred conservative views (i.e. anti-abortion, 'pro-nuclear family' etc). Now that incels and other alt-right lunatics have started their support for trad-wife movement, there are even more problematic tropes being thrown into the equation (i.e. "a trad wife is not a race traitor", "a trad wife is not a slut, she loves and saves herself for one man"). And sure, many trad-wives may not be this extreme in their viewpoints but the potential to go down an alt-shite rabbit hole is present.
What I find most ironic about the trad-wives themselves is that they start moaning that the majority of people do not accept their lifestyle choices and they start preaching on about tolerance. Let me just say, they would not have much tolerance for a male homemakers, gay parents raising children and so on.
What I find most ironic about the trad-wives themselves is that they start moaning that the majority of people do not accept their lifestyle choices and they start preaching on about tolerance. Let me just say, they would not have much tolerance for a male homemakers, gay parents raising children and so on.
I suppose another issue with the tradwife movement is that due to its association with conservative Christians and the alt-right, it often puts women under huge pressure to be perfect and do everything - as much as, or more than a working mother. They're supposed to have lots of children (it's what God wants, and women without children are worthless!), home educate all the kids (we don't want schools teaching them about things like evolution, or indoctrinating them with evil left-wing values), grow their own food (almost all these people are into the survivalist movement and / or believe in imminent social collapse), make all their own clothes and curtains, cook everything from scratch and so on. Even in the 50s and 60s, the supposed halcyon days of "traditional families", it wasn't like this. Many women worked outside the home because they couldn't afford not to - they may not have had careers but they worked in factories, or as cleaners, or took in sewing, etc. They were grateful for vacuum cleaners, washing machines and "TV dinners". They often had extended families, neighbours, and so on who could help with things which many people nowadays do not
A lot of tradwives criticise other women as selfish: working mum? You're neglecting your husband and kids! Single mum? You're a slut who sponges off the government and whose children will be out of control! Single and no children? You'll die alone, surrounded by cats because you thought your career and freedom was more important than passing down your genes! etc. But bragging about how "superior" you supposedly are because you have children and don't work outside the home is not exactly the picture of altruism. And like it or not, you are not a non-working mother if you're making money as an influencer
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I'm not getting it being a specifically christian alt right white roots thing. I see willing submissive trad types deeply rooted across all cultures. There are some religious groups where the man can have more than one or two wives but its not exclusive to one religion, race or culture.
The whole point of feminism is that women feel that they have a choice, and they should feel free with the choice that they make. They should not feel guilty if they work full time or if they become a house wife with children, etc.
I am everything a trad wife isn’t. But am fascinated by them. I started to watch Mrs Mid West.... the young woman hasn’t much of a clue and can’t cook to save her life. I love it! It’s like going back in time....
I was waiting for this comment. As so far I've seen ignorance here and a bias in it being a soley Christian problem and I find that quite offensive. Christianity is probably less on the extreme ends of certain other religions when it comes to trad wives. But let's not single one out now!