I am 27, female, living alone, in a lesbian relationship. I am also South African living in England, with my parents living in South Africa.
For the last few months I have become very maternal, and wanting desperately to settle down and have children. Not helped by pressure from my parents, who want to become grandparents.
They were quite surprised/shocked when I "came out" some 10 years ago, but they eventually accepted me for what I am. And now of course they keep on asking "when will we see children?"
However, my current partner, 3 years my junior, just interested in any overtures towards families and children. And I guess, given her age, I don't really blame her.
But then again she ticks so many of my boxes that I really don't want to lose her and start again elsewhere. Moreover, she has recently being diagnosed with covid-19, which she is now panicking about because she has a weak immune system, and is scared she may not make it through.
On top of all that, I suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), which kicked in big time when the clocks went back a week or so ago. And now all I can think is negative thoughts and a depression when the days become dark relatively early in the afternoon. As a consequence I feel like telling my partner to piss off if she doesn't want to commit. And yet I know this is a totally selfish thing to say because if I ever did say that she would more than likely walk out of my life, and I would be well and truly on my own.
I used to be an alcoholic during my university days, but gave all that up when I started full-time employment. But right now, I keep on thinking about going back to the bottle because I feel so sorry for myself, even though I should really check my privilege.
I'm not really sure where I am going with this post. Perhaps it demonstrates the state of my mindset right now. I just don't know what to do.
For the last few months I have become very maternal, and wanting desperately to settle down and have children. Not helped by pressure from my parents, who want to become grandparents.
They were quite surprised/shocked when I "came out" some 10 years ago, but they eventually accepted me for what I am. And now of course they keep on asking "when will we see children?"
However, my current partner, 3 years my junior, just interested in any overtures towards families and children. And I guess, given her age, I don't really blame her.
But then again she ticks so many of my boxes that I really don't want to lose her and start again elsewhere. Moreover, she has recently being diagnosed with covid-19, which she is now panicking about because she has a weak immune system, and is scared she may not make it through.
On top of all that, I suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), which kicked in big time when the clocks went back a week or so ago. And now all I can think is negative thoughts and a depression when the days become dark relatively early in the afternoon. As a consequence I feel like telling my partner to piss off if she doesn't want to commit. And yet I know this is a totally selfish thing to say because if I ever did say that she would more than likely walk out of my life, and I would be well and truly on my own.
I used to be an alcoholic during my university days, but gave all that up when I started full-time employment. But right now, I keep on thinking about going back to the bottle because I feel so sorry for myself, even though I should really check my privilege.
I'm not really sure where I am going with this post. Perhaps it demonstrates the state of my mindset right now. I just don't know what to do.