thelincolnshaws - Darran and Tim

[repairshoplover]

Watching both their stories recently. It appalls me that Darran is getting so much grief from people for sharing about how he broke the news that he brought up first. Tim said the other day that Darran was the one who raised the topic but both of them feel the same. If being friends and co parenting is what works for them, then good for them. I know quite a few people who use their child as a weapon against their ex which is not fair on anyone. I’d hope I’d be the same in their shoes. My friend and her ex weren’t the best of friends but their child came first and they welcomed each other into their homes to do things right for their child.

 

[eyerolls]

Darren happy birthday doll bach, see you are feeling desperate that you are sharing DRUNK videos of a woman (ptwm) who claims not to drink despite her and her red wine loving boring husband necking bottle after bottle after bottle of red wine WEEKLY oh and sharing videos of a very young woman (emily) who at the time was supposed to be vulnerable and recovering from DA so pissed up, she cant walk or talk and is throwing her guts up in the toilet. Its not really funny, grown men and women encouraging a venerable young single parent girl to lose total control....WE obviously do not have the same sense of humor....thank fuck

 

[Lynx]

Shame for L, he’ll be on his 3rd and 4th sets of parents when they get new partners

Not his 3rd and 4th sets. Just his adoptive dads with new partners. Leo probably has minimal memories of life before Darran and Tim.

I am genuinely sad for them all.

I do wonder if they had issues in November last year. Remember when they were supposed to be going on a gifted campervan holiday but they cancelled on the day as Leo's Highback booster wouldn't fit, which was basically an exaggeration... I thought we weren't getting the truth back then about the cancelled holiday.

 

[puddleduck]

Watching both their stories recently. It appalls me that Darran is getting so much grief from people for sharing about how he broke the news that he brought up first. Tim said the other day that Darran was the one who raised the topic but both of them feel the same. If being friends and co parenting is what works for them, then good for them. I know quite a few people who use their child as a weapon against their ex which is not fair on anyone. I’d hope I’d be the same in their shoes. My friend and her ex weren’t the best of friends but their child came first and they welcomed each other into their homes to do things right for their child.

Completely agree. Think they are handling the whole thing extremely well and the negativity is uncalled for.

 

[Allusernamesiputinaretook]

I reckon they were doing a casting test or filming something probably for CBeebies …..maybe about a little boy living with 2 days which would be great , but I hate how insta try to tease folk with oh we are doing something …..but we can’t discuss it….okay nobbies stop acting like you are five.

I used to really like this family loved how they respected leos privacy , the little nickname of pudding they gave him instead, it was a refreshing change instead of kids being blasted all over social media…..but they’ve really changed since the mullah could be made from the gorgeous little fella ….I say they it’s only Darran really ….mans obsessed, I really think it’s a shame cos before they were bloody great to follow

 

[walkonby]

I wondered this as they didn’t mark it as an ad. And they’re pretty naff looking if they have paid for them.

If I remember rightly, just before they moved to wales they got a new sofa then, I remember because they struggled to sell/give away the old one and I think they even had to take both of them when they moved, so I would guess they have had this new one for free because who changes sofas that regularly? Oh ptwm does, she currently has 3 different sofas in 3 different rooms and 2 of them were gifted. And we know these lot are up each others asses.

 

[DoodlePoodle]

Completely agree with both of the above. I really admired them in the beginning. Keeping Leo private (Not even sharing his name!) until Darren got a few freebies and became a full time “influencer” so now it’s Ad, Ad, Ad featuring the little boy constantly. They mention wanting to adopt again so it’ll be interesting to see if the social media aspect of their lives impacts on that at all. I can’t imagine it being looked on as a positive by social workers etc.

 

[Lynx]

So Leo has been pulled out of school due to safeguarding concerns. This makes me think that the school have possibly shared Leo's photo and name online. So a quick Google of Lincoln ‐Shaws and I have found their home address within seconds and by the photos they share of Leo's uniform have worked out what school he is currently attending. They need to keep his new uniform private!

 

[Bristolgirl]

The irony of complaining that his school haven’t secured his security, whilst being plastered all over his dad’s Instagram account.

 

[Allusernamesiputinaretook]

Do they know what having pampas grass means .........looks nice in the vases but I don’t see the bowl for everyone to drop their keys into ( google or urban dictionary will be your friend for anyone who doesn’t know.....think of Donald and Jacqueline in Benidorm)

 

[Rosey Posey]

Tim seems to be really struggling at the minute, while Darren looks like he’s moved on and enjoying life without Tim!

 

[Chunkeylaydee]

They didn’t used to show their son. His privacy was just that. You would see the back of his head or hear his voice. They always went on about keeping him private.

 

[Lifeofastepmum]

I used to quite like these before they let the insta ego go to their heads. I was so invested in their journey and could easily block out the “noise”. However they stopped engaging with followers unless it benefitted them and 100% the Respect has now gone that they’re using Leo as a cash cow. rather then just showing their life as a family they are profiting on a child that legally shouldn’t be allowed in my opinion especially considering their situation and his age. Of course if he was older and was ok with it then that’s different

 

[Lynx]

Tim seems to be really struggling at the minute, while Darren looks like he’s moved on and enjoying life without Tim!

Yes, I noticed too. I think Tim has had the biggest upheaval as he has moved out of the family home, plus he has quite a bit to do on the new house. He's got that added pressure compared to Darran. Plus it's probably hurting that Leo is on holiday with Darran, and although they both apparently fell out of love, it must play on his mind. Plus Darran is lucky getting a gifted holiday again!

 

[Lynx]

So Darren said he has lost 600 followers since he announced the divorce? I wonder why people have done that. Do you think it's because the halted the second adoption? They gave the impression initially it was because of the child's needs and it just wasn't going to be possible for them, what with already having one child to raise, work etc. I'm wondering if they actually stopped it because of their marriage problems. Can't really adopted a child as a couple if your marriage is falling apart. Must have been such a stressful time.

 

[This.is.me]

I have just come across this account whilst looking at posts about national adoption week. Raising awareness about adoption is great but I think what they are doing is sickening and ethically and morally wrong. They are monetising their adopted child who has been permanently removed from his birth family and cannot consent to any of this. Children have a human right to a private and family life and I bet you when it was argued this child should be adopted that was one of the arguments used for adoption and now the child is being used as a cash cow! Not much of a private life there. And how will this all fit with this child’s life story and explaining to him when he is older that he was monetised through social media. Not only could the oversharing put the child and adoptive placement at risk just imagine being the birth parent of that child and coming across their account. I was thinking that maybe it’s an open adoption but not likely or the birth parent has passed away because I cannot see on what planet they would think it is ok to use their adopted child to make money on a public social media platform!

 

[Crazymum]

Ptwm probably asked him to take it down

Most likely they’re as pathetic as each other. Both accounts grind my gears .

 

[Shoreditcher]

Divorce rates are higher among adoptive parents compared to non-adoptive parents. For those of us in the adoption world divorce is never a surprise.

 

[FlameIce]

Couldn’t possibly write it any smaller. Why can’t these people just be honest?

 

[Lynx]

Completely agree with both of the above. I really admired them in the beginning. Keeping Leo private (Not even sharing his name!) until Darren got a few freebies and became a full time “influencer” so now it’s Ad, Ad, Ad featuring the little boy constantly. They mention wanting to adopt again so it’ll be interesting to see if the social media aspect of their lives impacts on that at all. I can’t imagine it being looked on as a positive by social workers etc.

Yes, you're spot on, they revealed their son's face and a matter of days later an ad appeared featuring the son. It left a bad taste in my mouth.

I only share photos of my daughter on my private social media which contains friends and family. Any public social media, I don't show my daughter, she is my biological daughter, but I'm not comfortable with breaching her privacy and putting her details out there when she's too young to consent.