Most of the serial Ones I follow or ‘followed’ seem narcissistic, greedy,vain,lazy,self centred ,dishonest and unorganised .. but seem to be making a bloody fortune out of it .. TBH they think that is ( followers) couldn’t survive a day without knowing what they are up to !!!! I avoid IG pic perfect places now cos it’s spoilt by these vain creatures posing and preening moving chairs and items so they can get their handbag in the picture and taking pics whilst their dinner is getting cold !!! Worst still is then they all sit and ignore each other cos they’re looking at their phonesWas talking about this with my husband this morning and wondered others thoughts, I have dabbled with posting on Instagram but am far more of a scroller than a poster, I’m just not about that talking pictures of my food outside whilst it gets cold life. To have a public page where you post regularly with long captions you have got to be fundamentally narcissistic right? Do you think serial instagrammers are psychologically different or are they just hoping to monetise? Maybe it’s both!
ooh, trying to think about who you might be... I’ve got a few ideas! I think it’s so true that the more people try to portray perfection the less likely they are happy and satisfied with their livesI had a decent following a couple of years back and the pressure to post and the constant need for validation were a contributing factor to me having a mental breakdown. My mental health was shit and I spent a huge amount of time trying to hide it in real life and Instagram allowed me to take that facade even further. In the end I was posting 3/4 times a day and felt pressure to be doing aspirational things, pointlessly spending money and being the perfect wife/mother/friend when in reality I was balls deep in a mental health crisis and wasn’t even looking after myself never mind anything or anyone else. It makes me feel like shit thinking about it now because people would have looked at my account and thought I was super happy with a great life.
I barely post on Instagram anymore, have lost a large number of followers and am far happier than I was then. It’s a fucked up place, especially for those that are already emotionally or mentally vulnerable and it’s been a long road to recovery for me which isn’t helped by the amount of people posting their “perfect” lives online.
I had a decent following a couple of years back and the pressure to post and the constant need for validation were a contributing factor to me having a mental breakdown. My mental health was shit and I spent a huge amount of time trying to hide it in real life and Instagram allowed me to take that facade even further. In the end I was posting 3/4 times a day and felt pressure to be doing aspirational things, pointlessly spending money and being the perfect wife/mother/friend when in reality I was balls deep in a mental health crisis and wasn’t even looking after myself never mind anything or anyone else. It makes me feel like shit thinking about it now because people would have looked at my account and thought I was super happy with a great life.
I barely post on Instagram anymore, have lost a large number of followers and am far happier than I was then. It’s a fucked up place, especially for those that are already emotionally or mentally vulnerable and it’s been a long road to recovery for me which isn’t helped by the amount of people posting their “perfect” lives onlin
@TheWitchIsBack I’ve often wondered about this because some of the people On there often admit to mental health issues but still put themselves out there . You’ve explained a lot in your honest post .. I can only imagine that when the ‘good times‘ are rolling it must be bloody amazing to have all these brands pushing stuff on you and inviting you to wonderful places and paying you .. but then you must be selling your soul until the next big collab comes along ... ££££ I think they live in this unreal world were everyone constantly praises them ... it’s Unhealthy life isn’t like that !
I COULD understand / believe it more if let’s say they wear a shite outfit / share a shite prog and their followers post negative comments and the IG’r held their hands up and said ‘ oops that didn’t go down well ‘ but they don’t .. they delete the comments and block the follower meanwhile adding to their anxiety and its as you’ve just said it’s that ‘constant need for validation’
But still it continues .. ££££££ speaks several languages
Glad you are happier, and in touch with reality, and I hope your mental health is all good nowMy account started as a weight loss account. It wasn’t massive but I was popular and got shout outs from some of the bigger SW accounts. Had a few freebies but nothing earth shattering. Spent more money on shite trying to keep up appearances than I ever get back in free stuff. I can’t obviously speak for everyone but it’s very competitive and pressured and it’s like trying to fit in with the mean girls at school I guess. I would be so envious of people who got more likes/comments than I did. I stopped posting regularly before stories really took off and I’m glad because I think if I’d have kept going I’d have ended up just talking absolute nonsense into stories for hours at a time and probably becoming more obsessed with it than I already was. My life is by no means perfect now but I have a good grip on reality and what’s important in life and things are no longer dictated by an app.
This is such an honest postI had a decent following a couple of years back and the pressure to post and the constant need for validation were a contributing factor to me having a mental breakdown. My mental health was shit and I spent a huge amount of time trying to hide it in real life and Instagram allowed me to take that facade even further. In the end I was posting 3/4 times a day and felt pressure to be doing aspirational things, pointlessly spending money and being the perfect wife/mother/friend when in reality I was balls deep in a mental health crisis and wasn’t even looking after myself never mind anything or anyone else. It makes me feel like shit thinking about it now because people would have looked at my account and thought I was super happy with a great life.
I barely post on Instagram anymore, have lost a large number of followers and am far happier than I was then. It’s a fucked up place, especially for those that are already emotionally or mentally vulnerable and it’s been a long road to recovery for me which isn’t helped by the amount of people posting their “perfect” lives online.
Glad you are happier, and in touch with reality, and I hope your mental health is all good nowI think the psychology of SM is quite fascinating. Would be a fascinating subject to study in great depth at uni now.
Thank you. I’m doing tonnes better and sites like this really help me pick apart the “perfect” bigger accounts that I was so desperate to be. It’s crazy how all consuming it becomes, it literally took over my life.This is such an honest postand everything you've said is the reason I dread my kids ending up on social media
Hope you're doing better now xx
I did a paychology degree all be it a few years back now. One of my lecturers specialised in the psychology of fame and celebrity and did a lot of work with wannabe big brother contestants as it was in its very early stages. Would love to know what she made of all of this. My dissertation was about body image and media, unfortunately Instagram wasn’t a thing then........ would love to do it again now!Glad you are happier, and in touch with reality, and I hope your mental health is all good nowI think the psychology of SM is quite fascinating. Would be a fascinating subject to study in great depth at uni now.
So true - social media can be so addictive. I’m glad you are ok - it can really affect people’s mental health so badly xMy account started as a weight loss account. It wasn’t massive but I was popular and got shout outs from some of the bigger SW accounts. Had a few freebies but nothing earth shattering. Spent more money on shite trying to keep up appearances than I ever get back in free stuff. I can’t obviously speak for everyone but it’s very competitive and pressured and it’s like trying to fit in with the mean girls at school I guess. I would be so envious of people who got more likes/comments than I did. I stopped posting regularly before stories really took off and I’m glad because I think if I’d have kept going I’d have ended up just talking absolute nonsense into stories for hours at a time and probably becoming more obsessed with it than I already was. My life is by no means perfect now but I have a good grip on reality and what’s important in life and things are no longer dictated by an app.
I’ve just seen @LornaLuxe receive a box of fake nails and lashes and say ‘I’m thinking what I might do is a tutorial to show you how to stick them on ‘ I think it’s the most obvious thing to do ‘Something I've found with these Instagrammers is the more popular their page gets, the more money they waste because they need to go and find something to be able to post on there (unless they get gifted items). You often see they buy things they don't actually need and I'm sure lots are in debt.
It can become addictive as you worry about losing followers or your page looking or becoming boring and more criticism but I actually respect the Instagrammers who actually have a life aside from their page.
Also as added above, it's the perfect place for fake IGers and narcissists to get internet fame from, many are low in self esteem deep down and getting likes, comments and freebies picks up their esteem but with the internet will come trolls and criticism which many can't take.
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