Do you think there is one? What are the age gaps between your children? I have a 4 month old, I know I want a second just haven’t decided when... thoughts?
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I don't have any children but there are 7 years between my sister and I and it was definitely difficult for us to get along for a long time. It was like we were from different generations.
This is very interesting! Some would say siblings always have an unbreakable bond sort of thing, I definitely do think there can be ‘ too big of a gap ‘ almost, where like you say it’s difficult to relate to eachother and build a relationship.
I have 4 years between mine- at first it was perfect as the eldest went off to school when the baby was tiny and he got time away from us which was good for him and it was easier to manage all the baby stuff without another child in the middle of the day.
but now they’re a bit older I do find it tough to find stuff they both want to do- there’s the difference between one wanting to do soft play/playgrounds etc and the other feeling too old for that but not old enough for going off on his own.
they don’t get on enormously well, they love each other but just have such different interests, perhaps they would have been the same with a closer age gap but I’ll never know!
but now they’re a bit older I do find it tough to find stuff they both want to do- there’s the difference between one wanting to do soft play/playgrounds etc and the other feeling too old for that but not old enough for going off on his own.
they don’t get on enormously well, they love each other but just have such different interests, perhaps they would have been the same with a closer age gap but I’ll never know!
I’m really glad to have read this, as I did have in my mind 4 years being ‘perfect’ for that exact reason. Older boy goes off to school and I can have all day with the baby! But I guess when they both grow up it is very different in terms of interests etc.. this is why I’m kind of thinking there’s going to be pros and cons regardless. I could TTC now and have a 1 year old and a baby, perfect because they’re similar ages and will grow up ( hopefully ) best friends but then there’s the obvious con... 2 babies! 2 under 2!
I don’t have kids yet but a lady I work with has approx 18 months between her girls and said it was perfect! But as above 2 under 2 would terrify me
I have a brother that’s two years younger, we never ever got along, and we still don’t now.
I also have a brother 13 years younger than me and we get on great!
We have 3 years between our two, when they were younger it was a great age gap, the 3 year old could help/entertain himself whilst I dealt with a newborn, he also went to playschool a few times a week which gave us both space x
I also have a brother 13 years younger than me and we get on great!
We have 3 years between our two, when they were younger it was a great age gap, the 3 year old could help/entertain himself whilst I dealt with a newborn, he also went to playschool a few times a week which gave us both space x
I'm a twin and also have an older brother and sister who are twins the age gap between us is 8 years. I am close to my sisters and we talk and see each other alot. I text my twin every day. My brother has moved a few hours away. When we were growing up me and my twin got on fine until one of our friends said we never argued. I then think they jinxed us. But as we have got older we appreciate each other a lot more.
I have a 6 year old son and if I'm lucky enough to have more children there will be a big age gap.
I have a 6 year old son and if I'm lucky enough to have more children there will be a big age gap.
I had 3 children in 4 years.
It worked well because they were all placid, slept well and by the third I was able to stay at home. I did have to go back to work when 1 and were 4 months and 6 months old respectively which was horrible but manageable.
It worked well for us, they got along terrifically well but did have to share rooms which can cause some issues.
It worked well because they were all placid, slept well and by the third I was able to stay at home. I did have to go back to work when 1 and were 4 months and 6 months old respectively which was horrible but manageable.
It worked well for us, they got along terrifically well but did have to share rooms which can cause some issues.
Mine are just over 4 years apart. Different genders which may have helped but they are close even now as adults.I’m really glad to have read this, as I did have in my mind 4 years being ‘perfect’ for that exact reason. Older boy goes off to school and I can have all day with the baby! But I guess when they both grow up it is very different in terms of interests etc.. this is why I’m kind of thinking there’s going to be pros and cons regardless. I could TTC now and have a 1 year old and a baby, perfect because they’re similar ages and will grow up ( hopefully ) best friends but then there’s the obvious con... 2 babies! 2 under 2!
There is a 3-4 year gap between my siblings and I. My sister is 36, brother 33 and me 30 (almost). I don't reckon there is a perfect age gap but in my experience, I enjoyed having siblings that were neither that close or that far in age to me.
Mine are 17 months apart. I wanted them close to 'grow up together'. Until lockdown they got on really well, but they've had enough of each other now and constantly fight. The eldest has autism too which makes it trickier. I've also just had a baby, hes a month old. I went to uni hence the gap (8, almost 7 and newborn). Think I want one more but would need to be in the next 3 years maximum.
My brother is 15 months older than me, we arent particularly close but probably because we're boy/girl. My younger brother is 5 years younger and my mum said she wish she'd had another as he was like an only child.
My brother is 15 months older than me, we arent particularly close but probably because we're boy/girl. My younger brother is 5 years younger and my mum said she wish she'd had another as he was like an only child.
In comparison, there is a 7 year age gap between my sister and I and we have always been pretty close. We are probably at our closest now in adulthood. We did have our arguments growing up, but what sisters don't? I think it was at its worst when I was a teenager. We have a brother in between, who I argued with more when we were children.
There’s a 2.5 year age gap between my two and although it was hard when the second came along and is still hard now at times they are close enough in age that they have loads in common at the ages they are currently and they definitely keep each other entertained at times. It’s the kind of relationship I would have loved if I had had a sibling growing up so I’m happy with how things turned out. I really hope they continue to get along as adults eventually too.
2 years and 8 years do quite different gaps. Both work for different reasons, all my children are close and get on. I dont think there is a perfect gap, your kids will either get on or not.
I have an 8 yr old and have been ttc for two years. This is something that worries me, the age gap is getting bigger and bigger!
Honestly I wouldn’t worry too much, like I said I have a brother 13 years younger and we get on great xx
My mum was 16 when my uncle was born! They rely on each other a lot as adults. They help each other out and are just like any other brother and sister.
My little girl was 3 and a half when I had my youngest and I think it was the perfect age gap. She was already potty trained and had the understanding of having a new baby in the house but wasn't old enough to really be jealous. I felt I could juggle them both well.
There's 12 years between my sister and I and we've never really been close as a result. We try to be i think, but we've just always been at different stages of our lives.
There's 12 years between my sister and I and we've never really been close as a result. We try to be i think, but we've just always been at different stages of our lives.
Wow, you'll be one busy mama but very lucky alsoMy eldest son will be 3 and his brother will be 1 in the space of a week in August. I’m pregnant again now (a lockdown surprise!) so I’ll have 3 aged 3 and under