All my life, I had heard of the word 'narcissist' before but didn't know too much about what it really meant. After being hurt repeadedly by a narcissist recently, I have now read so much about narcissists and watched so many YouTube videos on them. It has really shocked me that there are so many narcissists out there - people who view other people simply as objects not fellow human beings; who have absolutely zero empathy; who use other people for their own gain and who are compulsive liars. Creepy matches so many of the traits of a narcissist. Narcissists create a totally false, usually very charming persona which fools most people - but inside, they are someone very different. Creepy has worked so hard to create this persona seen on the vlogs where he appears like a charming, kind man who is a loving husband and father. We all know what he is really like - the sexual messages to teens; the threats and harrassment towards his victims and their suporters and the disgusting thumbnails of his children. Narcissists are compulsive liars (how many times has he been caught out lying in the vlogs?). Narcissists usually cheat repeatedly on their partners....Narcissists always see themselves as victims and never admit to being wrong - someone else is always at fault. Narcissists are selfish, arrogant and view themselves as superior to others. Narcissists trying to start a new relationship 'lovebomb' their victim by piling on praise, compliments and going overboard with the charming behaviour. When the victim becomes hooked, narcissists use them for sex or some other sort of gain, then 'devalue' them and start ignoring them and treating them cruelly (I remember Hayley saying that Chris messaged her for weeks on end, telling her how gorgeous and beautiful she was. After she had slept with him, he then began to ignore her messages and would only reply once a month or so, and then stopped completely).Narcissists see others as objects (even their own children) and just use people to serve their own needs. Narcissistic parents often have a favourite child and a 'scapegoat' child who is always the one who is blamed and critised. They don't care about their children's physical and mental wellbeing (I'm thinking about the appalling diet, the late nights on school nights, driving them about without enough seatbelts for them all and filming them upset and poorly). They are often jealous of their children and like to take the credit when their child has done well. I used to think that it was just Creepy who was the narcissist but Lazy displays so many of the same traits (her smirking when Isabelle was being bullied said it all. And who could ever forget her inhuman reaction to someone jumping from a motorway bridge?!). Those poor children. Both parents appear to be narcissists. God help them.
Sorry for the long post. I just thought if one good thing could come out if the carcrash situation that is the Inghams, is that people could become more aware about narcissists. That people could read/watch about narcissists and can then recognise the narcissistic colleagues, friends and family members around them. I knew nothing about narcissists a short while ago and now I just wish I'd been able to recognise the traits of narcissists sooner. It would have saved me a lot of heartbreak and suffering.