Good morning, well it’s not a good morning I feel utter horrendous with no sleeping for the second night in a row.
Blame me, I don’t care but I did the most criminal thing known to man. Yes, I snooped on FB. But what I discovered has completely crushed me, so can I ask for everyone’s opinion?
I was with someone for 12 years, I have 3 children with him & he cheated on me early on. I forgave him but kept an open eye at night as we were expecting our first child, fast forward we had a further two but there were so many bumps along the way, I just wish I had my children with someone else.
Anyway, me & my children live happily on our own & he speaks to me pretty much every day asking how we all are, credit where credit it due, he does pay maintenance every month. So I’m not going to damage his reputation in that respect, he hasn’t seen the kids property for a long time he blames 3 lockdowns, video calls erm... 4 in the last year & that is only because I’ve pushed for him to see them. No figuratively speaking, it’s my effort.
However, curiosity got the better of me last night & I snooped on his FB on an anonymous profile. I saw he has pictures of me & kids on his profile, saying how proud he is of his kids.... but. The person he cheated with, seems to be “loving” the pictures of my child. It doesn’t sit well with me. I can’t say anything to him, because he will threaten no maintenance which is the little help I do receive. He will also go incredibly defence like before & threaten police, like before.... do you see the pattern? Last time we had an argument I had a police welfare check done against me & I never forgave him for that.
I can’t speak up, but I’ve asked him nicely to not post pictures on his FB his response was “they’re my kids I pay for them.” But he doesn’t know, I know.
I’m slightly isolated, I can’t just pretend what I’ve seen, I don’t care for the matter it’s him, I care because my children are involved. I said I don’t like my children’s pictures on social media but he doesn’t understand what I’m trying to say because he “knows all his friends”
can anyone help me with this? I can’t approach him, but I feel awful.
Blame me, I don’t care but I did the most criminal thing known to man. Yes, I snooped on FB. But what I discovered has completely crushed me, so can I ask for everyone’s opinion?
I was with someone for 12 years, I have 3 children with him & he cheated on me early on. I forgave him but kept an open eye at night as we were expecting our first child, fast forward we had a further two but there were so many bumps along the way, I just wish I had my children with someone else.

Anyway, me & my children live happily on our own & he speaks to me pretty much every day asking how we all are, credit where credit it due, he does pay maintenance every month. So I’m not going to damage his reputation in that respect, he hasn’t seen the kids property for a long time he blames 3 lockdowns, video calls erm... 4 in the last year & that is only because I’ve pushed for him to see them. No figuratively speaking, it’s my effort.
However, curiosity got the better of me last night & I snooped on his FB on an anonymous profile. I saw he has pictures of me & kids on his profile, saying how proud he is of his kids.... but. The person he cheated with, seems to be “loving” the pictures of my child. It doesn’t sit well with me. I can’t say anything to him, because he will threaten no maintenance which is the little help I do receive. He will also go incredibly defence like before & threaten police, like before.... do you see the pattern? Last time we had an argument I had a police welfare check done against me & I never forgave him for that.
I can’t speak up, but I’ve asked him nicely to not post pictures on his FB his response was “they’re my kids I pay for them.” But he doesn’t know, I know.
I’m slightly isolated, I can’t just pretend what I’ve seen, I don’t care for the matter it’s him, I care because my children are involved. I said I don’t like my children’s pictures on social media but he doesn’t understand what I’m trying to say because he “knows all his friends”
can anyone help me with this? I can’t approach him, but I feel awful.