Swinging

[Blahblahahaaa77]

Just opening this thread out of interest and for real life experiences (probs had too much wine!)

Is anyone else in the ‘scene’?

I recently started seeing this new guy and he’s very much into this lifestyle. We’ve had threesomes, foursomes and been to a ‘club’ so far!

But, we’re going to our first party tomorrow and I’m a bit scared

What rules do you have?

All opinions welcome!!

 

[Rxt156]

OMG I haven’t but would love to know more because I am boring and never do things like this 🫣 do you just turn up to the club and shag everyone lol

 

[Welshgal]

Definitely parking myself here.

My bf and I talk about this sometimes but I don‘t think we‘re near moving from talking about it to actually doing anything.
Tbh I wouldn‘t even know where to beginn.

 

[cococookie]

Are you enjoying it so far? I watched a documentary on channel 4 a few years ago about sex parties, I would never do it myself but thought it was interesting. One guy organised sex parties in London but he was strict about who could attend, you have to look like a model basically lol Heaven Circle or something?

 

[varyingborders]

Just opening this thread out of interest and for real life experiences (probs had too much wine!)

Is anyone else in the ‘scene’?

I recently started seeing this new guy and he’s very much into this lifestyle. We’ve had threesomes, foursomes and been to a ‘club’ so far!

But, we’re going to our first party tomorrow and I’m a bit scared

What rules do you have?

All opinions welcome!!

What was the club like? x

 

[AshMay]

OMG I haven’t but would love to know more because I am boring and never do things like this 🫣

Me! Tell us everything plssss

 

[Blahblahahaaa77]

Well, the party was pretty wild. It blows my mind how normal everyone is. It started with drinks at the hotel then we went to ‘the house’ and everyone just went off into different rooms. We have a no play separately rule so we went round together. We may be meeting some of the other couples this evening.

 

[thepantsqueen]

I find this so interesting. I can't personally see myself separating feelings from sex so wouldn't work for me but good on people who can

 

[Rxt156]

I find this so interesting. I can't personally see myself separating feelings from sex so wouldn't work for me but good on people who can

I just have to say your profile pic thing is phenomenal

 

[Tea and Toast]

I never got as far as going to a club as such but in my past marriage we did get into a bit of a "thing" with another couple ( they were married too and very good friends of ours)
It was good fun at the time, occasionally we'd just all kind of be at it together, sometimes we'd just be with the other fella and on occasion, I'd just go with the girl. .
We were much younger back then and it certainly "spiced" things up.

Fast forward a lot of years, and I'm now in a different relationship, I couldn't imagine doing anything like this
Im glad I can say I once did though

 

[Zulkraa]

I had a Fab phase! Loved it I was a “swingle” as I wasn’t partnered. I found the men to be more respectful than Tinder/POF.

I visited a few clubs mainly for the social side (which people find hilarious!) but you meet some really interesting people who you wouldn’t day to day. I was fortunate that I was in a kik group and the people there gave really helpful advice. A woman said about clubs just think of it as a pub, but with really horny less clothed people!

I miss the crazy messages I used to receive daily they really made me laugh!

 

[AnnRKey]

In my wild hedonistic past I was very much into "the scene". These days I barely have the time to shag myself never mind multiples lol

However if you want advice I would say you need to play away from the area you live in and work in. Otherwise you might end up in some really...awkward situations. That was always a rule of mine. Also always play safe - take your own protection and insist it is used.

Be aware that some folk really do think their biggest turn on is to watch/take part in a threesome (or moresome) but the reality might be that as soon as someone else touches their partner and they see how much fun they are having... they will freak out. I have been in that situation a few times - mr & mrs want to spice up their boring marriage by adding in another female. A lot of men cannot handle watching a woman have a good time with another woman, even though they have watched loads of girl on girl porn. Then there's the men who become obsessed with the new woman in the bedroom...and that's a whole other story.

If you can set consensual rules and boundaries that work for you and your partner(s) (and stick to them) then you really can have an amazing time.

 

[Blahblahahaaa77]

Completely agree with the above!! It’s blown my mind how many couples claim to be pros at this way of life and are actually the worst at it. I still think the first rule of group sex should be that no one has any emotional ties to anyone else.

so, since I started this thread the guy I was doing this in a couple with is no more. So I’ve been going to sex clubs with a girl we went on a couples date with. It’s been amazing … fab is too much admin!

 

[Zulkraa]

Completely agree with the above!! It’s blown my mind how many couples claim to be pros at this way of life and are actually the worst at it. I still think the first rule of group sex should be that no one has any emotional ties to anyone else.

so, since I started this thread the guy I was doing this in a couple with is no more. So I’ve been going to sex clubs with a girl we went on a couples date with. It’s been amazing … fab is too much admin!

Full time job the admin/answering messages is impossible! I know some people get annoyed, but I’d ask people to put a number or word in the subject title then I wouldn’t feel as bad when I did a mass delete. Also settings so certain ages and unverified couldn’t contact me will cut down the messages

 

[RoseRazor]

I had a lot of friends who were into this (porn stars too) and highly recommended it/invited me along but I politely declined. I’m open minded but if anything their adventures just confirmed my own vanilla taste. They don’t do it anymore. Think it got a bit too complicated after kids, work etc. Also I’m particularly fussy. I’m no oil painting but most people are fugly

 

[kermucklowe]

There is a fascinating programme on 4od, it was only on a few weeks ago, about a swingers club which has a hotel attached. It showed some of the people / couples who went. One female got so upset as no one "picked" her. Her and the boyfriend ended up having words whilst behind them an orgy was going on! Very bizarre. I couldn't do it personally, and I was appalled to know that particular club only wash their towels on a 30!!!!

 

[cococookie]

I think I might have watched that before because I remember being appalled about the towels too

 

[Its_Me]

There is a fascinating programme on 4od, it was only on a few weeks ago, about a swingers club which has a hotel attached. It showed some of the people / couples who went. One female got so upset as no one "picked" her. Her and the boyfriend ended up having words whilst behind them an orgy was going on! Very bizarre. I couldn't do it personally, and I was appalled to know that particular club only wash their towels on a 30!!!!

I opened this thread because I wondered if anyone would mention the programme. I really want to know what happened with the girl who was a stripper and the guy she hooked up with I thought they really suited but both seemed really hurt by their past relationships. And the older lady who was following them around made me laugh so much bless her. I felt the lady who was crying was a bit strange and she was just doing it for some kind of validation.

Anyway hats off to anyone who’s into it and finds a safe way to engage with other like minded people. Makes me feel sick thinking about my husband with someone else though so definitely not for me.

 

[kermucklowe]

I opened this thread because I wondered if anyone would mention the programme. I really want to know what happened with the girl who was a stripper and the guy she hooked up with I thought they really suited but both seemed really hurt by their past relationships. And the older lady who was following them around made me laugh so much bless her. I felt the lady who was crying was a bit strange and she was just doing it for some kind of validation.

Anyway hats off to anyone who’s into it and finds a safe way to engage with other like minded people. Makes me feel sick thinking about my husband with someone else though so definitely not for me.

Yes id love a follow up, those two were really suited but I felt they were too scared to go into a relationship which is a shame.

 

[Zulkraa]

I opened this thread because I wondered if anyone would mention the programme. I really want to know what happened with the girl who was a stripper and the guy she hooked up with I thought they really suited but both seemed really hurt by their past relationships. And the older lady who was following them around made me laugh so much bless her. I felt the lady who was crying was a bit strange and she was just doing it for some kind of validation.

Anyway hats off to anyone who’s into it and finds a safe way to engage with other like minded people. Makes me feel sick thinking about my husband with someone else though so definitely not for me.

There was loads written on the Fab forum at the time and if memory serves me the guy was on there but the lady who was the dancer wasn’t. I think they might of kept intouch but nothing went further.

I will add some links (think this allowed?)

There is a fascinating programme on 4od, it was only on a few weeks ago, about a swingers club which has a hotel attached. It showed some of the people / couples who went. One female got so upset as no one "picked" her. Her and the boyfriend ended up having words whilst behind them an orgy was going on! Very bizarre. I couldn't do it personally, and I was appalled to know that particular club only wash their towels on a 30!!!!

I wouldn’t personally touch a towel or the buffet in a club, but that’s just me and a couple of my friends