Surname change

[123456!!12/]

I’m strongly considering hyphenating mine and my 2 kids surname to a combination of my maiden name and my husbands name (our current surname). He’s not thrilled at the idea but he would give his consent for me to do it - he understands the reasoning behind it. I’m not 100% sure whether he would change his name as well, but I think he probably would.
I’d have to do it through deed poll. So I'm just curious if anyone has done it before? Is it more hassle than it’s worth? Can I just do it all through a solicitor?

 

[Giggling Squid]

I guess it depends on why you want to do it, as to whether it’s worth doing?

 

[BettyCrockerr]

I’m strongly considering hyphenating mine and my 2 kids surname to a combination of my maiden name and my husbands name (our current surname). He’s not thrilled at the idea but he would give his consent for me to do it - he understands the reasoning behind it. I’m not 100% sure whether he would change his name as well, but I think he probably would.
I’d have to do it through deed poll. So I'm just curious if anyone has done it before? Is it more hassle than it’s worth? Can I just do it all through a solicitor?

What’s the reason behind wanting to do it?

 

[nurseren]

Deed poll is relatively simple, you just need someone in authority who knows you to sign the form. Costs around £40 I think.

Kids I’m not too sure by, be prepared to answer a lot of answers when they ask why you changed their name. School will need proof of name change too. I had my name changed as a small kid, and it was never flagged until secondary school.

 

[hereforthememe]

Name changing is such a pain in the a so make sure you are prepared for alllll the places you have to do it, and keep copies of all original certificates as your kids may need them in the future, too

 

[judgejohndeed]

I used to have a hyphenated name and honestly I wouldn’t bother. You can’t be that fussed about it if you changed your name upon getting married and let your kids have his name, it will just be confusing for them/school now. Not to mention hyphenated names are generally pretentious, awkward, and one always gets dropped anyway - people will generally use the last one in my experience.

 

[123456!!12/]

I mean it took me 2 years to change my name after we got married (we’ve been married 3 years) and I only did it because our mortgage advisor told me I’d have to for the mortgage. Our boys are 2 & 2 months so I don’t think it would be overly confusing for them just yet and school isn’t an issue. If they choose to drop one name then that’s fine but for me I don’t want my partners name solely and I don’t want a different name from my kids, especially when it’s my family who are much more involved than his.
As for why I’m doing it, I don’t want to say because it’ll compromise anonymity

 

[Secretadmirer]

I changed my name as soon as I could from my Dad’s to my Mum’s as he left when I was a kid and never saw him again. I honestly didn’t find it that much of a pain to change it but I was younger, no mortgage then, nothing really ‘linked’ to my name but like doctors details and stuff. Be prepared though for stuff to still be in your old name for ages even though you’ve informed the relevant people, I was in sixth form at the time and still got called my old name, still had paperwork in my old name etc for ages. I know some might think it’s pointless but it meant a lot to me to change my name so if it means a lot to you to then go for it.

 

[Alexaj]

I can't contribute to the mechanics of name-changing but I think it's slightly unfair you're getting the third degree over the ask.

 

[Keikochan]

If that is what you want to do then you should def do it. It isn't hurting anyone. I feel the name change will be much the same as when you changed your last name after marriage. Just keep the documents safe. Remember to change your bank details, card, passport, driving license and I'm not sure what else. Maybe make a list of things to change as you remember them so you can tick them off as you get them sorted.

 

[DCICassieStuart]

I mean it took me 2 years to change my name after we got married (we’ve been married 3 years) and I only did it because our mortgage advisor told me I’d have to for the mortgage.

That is shocking!

I didn't change my name when I got married (and never will) but we ran into trouble with the CAT! The first time she went to the vet I took her and the animal is registered as their name and your surname so she's "Cat Stuart".
A couple of weeks later my husband rang up about pet insurance and the insurer said that because the cat had a different surname from him, he couldn't discuss her and he'd either have to get me to ring them or else double barrel the cat. He said that since I didn't double barrel myself (my name doesn't go with anything) I was unlikely to double barrel the cat

She's remained Cat Mysurname.

 

[Giggling Squid]

I can't contribute to the mechanics of name-changing but I think it's slightly unfair you're getting the third degree over the ask.

I wasn’t giving the third degree, I was just saying that it’s hard for us to determine if it’s worth the hassle without knowing the details - which obviously we won’t. Sorry if I caused offence, wasn’t meant to!

That is shocking!

I didn't change my name when I got married (and never will) but we ran into trouble with the CAT! The first time she went to the vet I took her and the animal is registered as their name and your surname so she's "Cat Stuart".
A couple of weeks later my husband rang up about pet insurance and the insurer said that because the cat had a different surname from him, he couldn't discuss her and he'd either have to get me to ring them or else double barrel the cat. He said that since I didn't double barrel myself (my name doesn't go with anything) I was unlikely to double barrel the cat

She's remained Cat Mysurname.

OMG we had the same problem!! She’s getting her name changed when we get married though

 

[nurseren]

That is shocking!

I didn't change my name when I got married (and never will) but we ran into trouble with the CAT! The first time she went to the vet I took her and the animal is registered as their name and your surname so she's "Cat Stuart".
A couple of weeks later my husband rang up about pet insurance and the insurer said that because the cat had a different surname from him, he couldn't discuss her and he'd either have to get me to ring them or else double barrel the cat. He said that since I didn't double barrel myself (my name doesn't go with anything) I was unlikely to double barrel the cat

She's remained Cat Mysurname.

It is so random where the problems occur! I’m a nurse and I’ve had so many DBS checks in my life but only last year my childhood surname which I had for like 3 months flagged up on a new job application. Apparently I wrote it on a form years ago with the NHS, and it’s never been raised with my trust, but it did with this new one!

 

[Apple In My Pie]

My name was changed, not double barrelled but changed from my mother’s surname to my father’s when I was eight. It was fine in a lot of areas of my life, but caused difficulty in other areas - school had to change and it meant I lost out on work, letters etc because they wanted to look for Apple Pie and not Apple Strudel and got me mixed up with other kids - ditto hospital - my hospital paperwork got misplaced or wasn’t given to me because they were expecting to deal with Apple Pie - and travel was the biggest nightmare, having to change passport - the people in passport control tried to say I was being trafficked because my surname didn’t match my mother’s

It’s not a bad thing and if you feel really passionate about it I’d go for it, it’s just all the nitty gritty things that you don’t think of that can be a pain.

 

[DCICassieStuart]

OMG we had the same problem!! She’s getting her name changed when we get married though

If we'd double barrelled her, then we'd all have had a different surname
Less hassle for her to keep my name.

 

[BettyCrockerr]

I mean it took me 2 years to change my name after we got married (we’ve been married 3 years) and I only did it because our mortgage advisor told me I’d have to for the mortgage. Our boys are 2 & 2 months so I don’t think it would be overly confusing for them just yet and school isn’t an issue. If they choose to drop one name then that’s fine but for me I don’t want my partners name solely and I don’t want a different name from my kids, especially when it’s my family who are much more involved than his.
As for why I’m doing it, I don’t want to say because it’ll compromise anonymity

 

[CakedCat]

I’m strongly considering hyphenating mine and my 2 kids surname to a combination of my maiden name and my husbands name (our current surname). He’s not thrilled at the idea but he would give his consent for me to do it - he understands the reasoning behind it. I’m not 100% sure whether he would change his name as well, but I think he probably would.
I’d have to do it through deed poll. So I'm just curious if anyone has done it before? Is it more hassle than it’s worth? Can I just do it all through a solicitor?

My husband took my surname after we got married so had to change via deed poll. Used an online company deedpollsonline, who produced the certificates etc and just needed a witness to sign (he just had a colleague do it) then send off as you would doing a name change with a marriage certificate. You get a booklet too advising of where you need to change your name and guidance.

He never enrolled it with courts or used solicitors to make the deed poll and everywhere has accepted it.

When it comes go house deeds and children, I believe you'll need to go to a Notary Public which does have a fee around 125 if memory serves me well. We don't have children so can't confirm that I'm afraid!

Hope that's any help whatsoever

 

[sunnystorm88]

When I had my son he had my partners surname at the time. We ended up splitting up when he had just turned 3 due to dv.
I wish he didn’t have his surname but we went to court a couple of years ago and I asked to double barrell it but they would not allow it, because it means changing the identity he knows.

 

[Eureka]

I kept my name when I got married. I wouldn’t have even considered changing it. The eldest was born before we got married the second after. Both have double barrel names on their official documents but have dropped one day to day which is fine as it’s their choice.

I think what a person does with their name is up to them and whatever they decide should be respected.

I’m actually shocked at having to have your husband’s surname to get a mortgage?! Did that advisor live in the 50’s?