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judgejohndeed

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OP hasn’t asked for advice on the validity of her relationship or whether she should have a baby with this guy, she’s asked about her periods? 🤨
 
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ProphecyGirl

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BettyCrockerr said:
you being fine isn’t the point. This doesn’t just effect you. There are children already involved who should be his primary concern - you’ve not answered my question regarding what his relationship with his kids is like, and if he actively supports them etc.

“knowing” him for years isn’t the same as being in a relationship with him or having a child with him. Meeting his children isn’t the same as being an active part of their lives and you yourself being one of their primary care givers which you should be if things are good with him & his kids - you should be playing an active role as step parent and this includes having a communicative relationship with their mother etc
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His kids are 14 & 15. I appreciate the concern but there’s no need for one. He’s active in their life and their mother has a good relationship also, thank you but it’s really off topic and unneeded…

judgejohndeed said:
OP hasn’t asked for advice on the validity of her relationship or whether she should have a baby with this guy, she’s asked about her periods? 🤨
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Right 🤣 I appreciate peoples concern but I’m a grown woman with a grown man. Not two teens playing mummy and daddy haha
 
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BettyCrockerr

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Unless you are trying to get pregnant you can’t just take the pill sporadically and think it’s going to work as it should.

do YOU want to have a child? Right now? If the answer is no or your not sure then for the love of god get some robust contraception in place.
 
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I was just concerned it was very early days. Would you not want to enjoy your time together as a couple before you have a baby? You don’t know what people are truly like in the honeymoon phase.
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Yeah - how long have you guys been together and how long have you been living together? What’s the situation with his children - is he an active part of their lives and does he support them financially and emotionally etc? Have you met his children? What’s your relationship like with them? How are things between him and his children’s mother? Does he actually want to bring another child into the world?

this just has red flags all over it, having a baby and bringing a child into the world is a HUGE undertaking and there’s so many things to consider before you start. If you’ve only recently moved in together and the relationship is fairly new then you really don’t know eachother well enough to bring a child into the world.
 
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ProphecyGirl said:
yeah I’m up to date! Only had one a couple mo tag ago 😊 probably just a shock!!



Yeah that’s how it is at the moment! Then bright pink other times. I also think I may have had a chemical pregnancy so could be something to do with that, not 100% sure though.



I am in a relationship, we’ve just rented a house together so it’s not so much he’s convinced me as we’ve had a talk about me wanting children (he already has them) and he’s okay with me coming off and seeing what happens!
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I was just concerned it was very early days. Would you not want to enjoy your time together as a couple before you have a baby? You don’t know what people are truly like in the honeymoon phase.
 
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Hiya

So I'll drive straight in.

I'm 28 and have been on the pill since I was 18. I was in a long term relationship and when that ended I came off the pill was I didn't really need to take it.

Since 2019 I have only ever taken it 'every now and then' because I was willy thinking if I took it for a month when I was 'seeing' someone it would prevent pregnancy.

I have recently gotten into a serious relationship and have both talked about me coming off the pill completely, which I have done.
I haven't been on now since June, my periods have changed massively and they've started getting really heavy and I seem to be getting a weeks break and I am constantly spotting.

We are also active on average three times a day (honeymoon period :ROFLMAO: :ROFLMAO: ) and the periods have only started since all this happened

Is this the reason why?! Has anyone else experienced this?
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Could you be irritating your cervix with all the sex? I mean gwaaarn girl 🤣 but that could definitely be the reason for the spotting as I get that if I have too much sex/it’s too rough. As for the heavy periods, I think the pill can lighten your periods so it might just be a contrast. Also if you’re only taking it sporadically it might be that your body is trying to adjust - June to now isn’t a vast amount of time and it can take a fair few months to settle down hormonally.

Also have you had a recent smear test? Spotting in between periods can be a sign of something amiss so definitely get checked if you haven’t!
 
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BettyCrockerr

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ProphecyGirl said:
Eeeee I've known him years haha. I've met the children, the family and I've known most of them ages too. Haha, I see his own mum than I do my own (i also worked with her for abit)

Genuinely no red flags, we're both old enough to know what we're doing too. I appreciate the concern but I am fine ♥
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you being fine isn’t the point. This doesn’t just effect you. There are children already involved who should be his primary concern - you’ve not answered my question regarding what his relationship with his kids is like, and if he actively supports them etc.

“knowing” him for years isn’t the same as being in a relationship with him or having a child with him. Meeting his children isn’t the same as being an active part of their lives and you yourself being one of their primary care givers which you should be if things are good with him & his kids - you should be playing an active role as step parent and this includes having a communicative relationship with their mother etc
 
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ProphecyGirl

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Eeeee I've known him years haha. I've met the children, the family and I've known most of them ages too. Haha, I see his own mum than I do my own (i also worked with her for abit)

Genuinely no red flags, we're both old enough to know what we're doing too. I appreciate the concern but I am fine ♥
 
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ProphecyGirl

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Sailorontheseasea said:
Could you be irritating your cervix with all the sex? I mean gwaaarn girl 🤣 but that could definitely be the reason for the spotting as I get that if I have too much sex/it’s too rough. As for the heavy periods, I think the pill can lighten your periods so it might just be a contrast. Also if you’re only taking it sporadically it might be that your body is trying to adjust - June to now isn’t a vast amount of time and it can take a fair few months to settle down hormonally.

Also have you had a recent smear test? Spotting in between periods can be a sign of something amiss so definitely get checked if you haven’t!
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Yeah quite possibly!! I've started to feel slightly bruised so to say :ROFLMAO: I've also had one a couple months ago so I can rule this out!
I would probably put it down to this then, I use that Flo app to track them and I've been getting warning signs everytime I log them, maybe an app isn't the best thing for advice!! :ROFLMAO:

Rocknrolla said:
Have you had the covid jab? This has really messed up my periods x
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Nope I haven't, so I can rule this one out! I have heard a few nightmare stories about it affecting them though! x
 
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judgejohndeed

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It took months for my cycle to go back to normal when I came off the pill. I think the doctor told me it can take up to a year. I imagine if you’ve been on and off it too it might be a big shock for your body. That being said I’m not sure I’d risk it, are you up to date with your smears etc?
 
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ProphecyGirl

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Hiya

So I'll drive straight in.

I'm 28 and have been on the pill since I was 18. I was in a long term relationship and when that ended I came off the pill was I didn't really need to take it.

Since 2019 I have only ever taken it 'every now and then' because I was willy thinking if I took it for a month when I was 'seeing' someone it would prevent pregnancy.

I have recently gotten into a serious relationship and have both talked about me coming off the pill completely, which I have done.
I haven't been on now since June, my periods have changed massively and they've started getting really heavy and I seem to be getting a weeks break and I am constantly spotting.

We are also active on average three times a day (honeymoon period :ROFLMAO: :ROFLMAO: ) and the periods have only started since all this happened

Is this the reason why?! Has anyone else experienced this?
 
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justheretoread99

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Which pill were you on? Combined or mini?
I’m thinking of coming off the mini pill but reading horror stories about heavy and irregular periods.

It may be totally normal and your body reacting to the change of hormones but if your concerned book an appointment to see your GP.

Also not to put any negative thoughts in your head irregular spotting can be signs of some STI’s. So always better to be checked for those also. My nurse made me do some STI swabs and a pregnancy test when I went for a pill check and had some spotting. Just to rule them out x
 
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footylass2021

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defo me before pregnancy , i switched combined pill and told not to take a break due to mood swings from hormones
i bled for about 3 weeks never full on period just mostly spotting and mucous ranging from dark brown to bright red

i get about a week break from spotting and then it comes back
 
ProphecyGirl

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judgejohndeed said:
It took months for my cycle to go back to normal when I came off the pill. I think the doctor told me it can take up to a year. I imagine if you’ve been on and off it too it might be a big shock for your body. That being said I’m not sure I’d risk it, are you up to date with your smears etc?
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yeah I’m up to date! Only had one a couple mo tag ago 😊 probably just a shock!!

footylass2021 said:
defo me before pregnancy , i switched combined pill and told not to take a break due to mood swings from hormones
i bled for about 3 weeks never full on period just mostly spotting and mucous ranging from dark brown to bright red

i get about a week break from spotting and then it comes back
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Yeah that’s how it is at the moment! Then bright pink other times. I also think I may have had a chemical pregnancy so could be something to do with that, not 100% sure though.

LaurieLaurie said:
Are you seeing someone new that’s convinced you to come off contraception?
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I am in a relationship, we’ve just rented a house together so it’s not so much he’s convinced me as we’ve had a talk about me wanting children (he already has them) and he’s okay with me coming off and seeing what happens!